When an INTJ-A decides that someone can never be trusted or that they are no longer worth deeper effort, they will gradually (or immediately) shift their behavior to reflect their detachment. Here are 21 things they might start doing:
Minimizing Conversations – They will no longer engage in deep or meaningful conversations, sticking to surface-level interactions when necessary.
Avoiding Personal Topics – They stop sharing personal thoughts, ideas, or experiences, making interactions feel colder and more transactional.
Becoming Hyper-Logical – Any remaining discussions will feel overly rational, devoid of warmth or personal investment.
No More Invitations – They will never initiate meetups or include you in their plans.
Ignoring Social Cues – They stop accommodating emotional undertones in interactions, treating you like just another background figure.
Dropping Courtesy Laughs – If they previously humored you, they now react with indifference or silence to your jokes or stories.
Filtering You Out – They will mentally categorize you as unimportant, meaning they won’t bother remembering details about your life.
Using Precise but Minimal Replies – Responses become shorter, direct, and to the point, avoiding any unnecessary engagement.
Watching for Further Evidence – Even after distancing, they will still observe you from afar to confirm their decision.
Letting You Make Mistakes – They stop advising, warning, or guiding you, leaving you to face the consequences of your own actions.
Ghosting Invitations – If you invite them somewhere, they either ignore it, decline outright, or give vague excuses.
Delaying Responses – If they must respond, it won’t be prompt or enthusiastic, unless absolutely necessary.
Redirecting Conversations – If you try to engage, they subtly shift the topic away from anything personal or interesting.
No More Eye Contact or Nods – They may reduce or completely eliminate gestures that show engagement or encouragement.
Withholding Their Insights – They stop sharing intelligent or strategic ideas that could benefit you.
Stopping Any Defense of You – If they once defended you, they will no longer step in when others criticize you.
Acting Politely Indifferent – They maintain civility but without any trace of warmth or personal connection.
Subtly Outpacing You – If you’re in a group, they will walk ahead, evidently sit further away, or naturally align with others.
Refusing to Be Impressed – Any achievements, ideas, or stories you share will be met with absolute indifference rather than admiration.
Treating You Like an NPC – You become just another background character in their life, with no significant role.
Forgetting You on Purpose – Over time, they will naturally erase you from their focus and memory, unless absolutely necessary.
Once an INTJ-A reaches this stage, they are not looking for conflict or drama. They simply optimize their energy by cutting out unworthy connections with quiet, strategic detachment.
⤴️ ChatGPT
If an INTJ-A regards you as trustworthy or sees you as a potential close friend, they might regularly do or readily do more of the following in your presence:
Engage in deep, unfiltered conversations – They'll share their true thoughts on complex topics without watering them down for social comfort.
Reveal personal ambitions and plans – INTJs are typically secretive about their long-term strategies, but if they trust you, they might discuss their goals and even seek your input.
Offer tailored advice and solutions – Instead of general responses, they’ll actively analyze your situation and provide well-thought-out insights to help you improve.
Display dry humor and sarcasm – Their wit can be sharp and dark, but if they trust you, they'll let you see their playful side.
Share vulnerabilities selectively – They won’t do this often, but if they trust you, they may reveal some of their struggles or past experiences which they usually keep private.
Initiate contact or check in on you – INTJs don’t engage in unnecessary socializing, but if they value you, they might reach out first, even if it’s just to share an interesting thought.
Be more patient with your quirks – Instead of dismissing or ignoring certain behaviors, they'll take the time to understand them because they see potential in the friendship.
Invite you into their world – They might introduce you to their intellectual interests, favorite books, personal projects, or even their carefully maintained routines.
Allow spontaneity and flexibility – While they prefer structure, they might adjust plans or go along with your suggestions if they truly enjoy your presence.
Engage in thought-provoking discussions – If they respect you, they won’t hold back from discussing complex ideas, offering different perspectives, and analyzing situations deeply.
Share inside jokes or personal references – They might develop unique humor with you that’s based on shared experiences or intellectual banter.
Let their guard down in casual settings – If they feel comfortable, they might act less formal, showing relaxed body language and enjoying simple, everyday interactions.
Defend or support you in subtle but meaningful ways – INTJs are not overly expressive, but if they value you, they might quietly advocate for you, give strategic advice often, or offer discreet support when needed (online and offline).
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT
Your refusal to compliment narcissists or emotionally manipulative individuals says the following about your personality:
High Emotional Intelligence – You can detect manipulation and refuse to reward it.
Strong Sense of Integrity – You never engage in flattery for personal gain.
Independence of Thought – You don’t follow social expectations just for the sake of it.
Disdain for Superficiality – You prioritize authenticity over fake niceties.
Unyielding Standards – You only respect those who earn it.
Strategic Interaction – You control how much influence others have over you.
Awareness of Social Dynamics – You easily sense or recognize when someone seeks validation through manipulation.
Minimal Emotional Vulnerability – You are immune to guilt-tripping tactics.
Selective with Energy – You won’t waste effort where it isn’t deserved.
Unapologetic Directness – You don’t sugarcoat reality for fragile egos.
No Fear of Social Repercussions – You don’t mind being disliked by those you don’t respect.
11 Things Many INTJs Refuse to Pay Attention To (Online vs. Offline)
Virtue Signaling – Empty gestures of morality without action.
Overhyped Trends – Sensationalized topics lacking substance.
Forced Small Talk – Meaningless conversations that waste time.
Attention-Seeking Dramas – People fishing for sympathy or validation.
Blind Conformity – Following societal expectations without question.
Clout Chasing – People obsessing over popularity rather than merit.
Fake Humility – False modesty that’s actually a desperate plea or call for praise.
Unwarranted Emotional Outbursts – Overreactions that cloud logic.
Baseless Criticism – Opinions lacking rational justification.
Mindless Consumerism – Buying things just to impress others.
Empty Flattery – Compliments designed to manipulate rather than express genuine appreciation.
⤴️Some notes from ChatGPT
