Poem: Yes I Forgave Them. No I Don't Wish To Be Their Friend.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Yes, while I understand the virtues of forgiveness, 

You can't force me to build and maintain toxic friendships. 

Yes, while I can forgive what so-and-so did and said, 

I won't forget the fact they can't really be trusted. 

Since I don't trust them while their vibes just invite conflict, 

And their presence in my opinion triggers distress, 

I know I'm better off if they're far and avoided. 

They're unreliable, selfish, so strangely nervous 

When around me as if they conceal absurd secrets, 

And they're too negative, at times seem narcissistic, 

Frequently unable to make rational choices 

Because their mood swings control them and they lack the wit 

And willingness to seek or learn Islamic knowledge. 

Plus, we're too different. They're overly sensitive, 

In conserving energy they're uninterested, 

In failing to prevent gossip they show cowardice, 

They're not creative nor impressive I acknowledge, 

And overall they're very boring and so childish 

From what I've witnessed. Their uneasy body language 

And nervousness make me view them as guilty culprits 

Trying to hide information that's ridiculous - 

Either they're concealing how they're intimidated 

By my integrity or they're truly envious 

Of me for countless reasons or they're simply cautious 

Of getting caught regarding their lies and injustice.

While I forgave them, I don't want their toxic friendship. 

Why place yourself in situations with added stress? 

Though they're forgiven, befriending them is not needed 

For success in both worlds, and if Allah decreed it - 

That we'd never connect despite physical nearness.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to An-Nawawi

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Poem: Some People's Rejection And Enmity Simply Inspire Me To Be Closer To Allah More

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Allah the Most Wise already chose special people

Who are meant to befriend us and enter our circle,

Regardless of where they live, and despite obstacles,

Their life goals align with ours, and they remain loyal.

~•~

Other souls, on the other hand, in spite of knowing

Their names for many years can't form mutual affection.

After all unpleasant meetings, misunderstandings,

And silent moments come detachment and estrangement.

~•~

What may cause potential friends to drift apart include:

Envy from one side or both, being selfish or rude,

Not properly communicating, ingratitude,

Suspicion, refusing to forgive or settle feuds.

~•~

When the friend you used to chat with nearly every week

Becomes a complete stranger whom you dislike to meet,

And when ex-friends pass by not to chill but briefly greet,

Smile; you still have Allah the One Whom you truly need.

~•~

People's rejection and distance should simply inspire

You to run to Allah more as your faith grows stronger,

Recalling that even if the entire world gathered

To abandon you, Allah won't leave; He's always there.

~•~

So do not bother crying over broken friendships.

If Allah the Most Wise saw goodness in those who left,

He would've let them stay, and you wouldn't get upset.

Knowing Allah knows what's best for us keeps us at rest.

~•~

Accept Allah's Qadr. Know that dunya is fleeting,

People come and go. This world's joys aren't permanent.

Don't be attached to fellow servants, but keep striving

And serving Allah until your soul returns to Him.

~•~

📖 ‘Uqbah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, tell me about virtuous deeds.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,“O ‘Uqbah, reconcile with whoever cuts you off, give to whoever deprives you, and turn away from whoever wrongs you.”

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “And forgive whoever wrongs you.”

Source: Musnad Ahmed 16883

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani

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Poem: Friendships With The Impious And Untrustworthy Tend To Be Temporary

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ Respect yourself enough to choose your close friends wisely. 

It's better to have just one friend than befriend many 

Fake actors who distract us from Allah and our Deen. 

Know who the righteous ones are and those who sincerely 

Strive to boost their faith Imaan and personality.

~•~

And be wise enough to detect those who are only 

Pretending to be pious by dressing modestly 

Despite gossiping about others regularly 

And spreading lies about the women whom they envy. 

Avoid connecting with those guilty of fakery.

~•~

They're not righteous if they let their feelings frequently 

Control their acts and choices so they typically 

Behave irrationally and you can't properly 

Discuss deep topics with them because generally 

They desire their wants more than values and right belief.

~•~

They're like naive kids who insist on eating candies 

That are clearly expired and bad for their health and teeth. 

Warnings and reminders don't impact them. And "sorry" 

Sounds like an insult to them and their low self-esteem.

Don't bother befriending those who lack maturity.

~•~

They're not righteous either if they inadvertently 

Compel you to overspend, prefer dunya to Deen,

Persuade you to leave your spouse and fear polygyny, 

Or disrespect your moments spent with your family, 

Or they mostly chat about nonsense, trade and movies.

~•~

Just because a female wears hijaab it doesn't mean 

She's fully free from any urge to decide wrongly. 

She's still a human being and occasionally 

Can do some deeds which could cause Allah to be displeased. 

Search for those who seek authentic knowledge seriously, 

~•~

Who understand humans are imperfect and believe 

That among Allah's servants is a minority 

Of true believers who steadfastly wish to succeed 

In both worlds, and they're not submissive to what they feel. 

Friendships with the untrustworthy are temporary.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

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