بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Saturday, October 12, 2024

Poem: If Your Marriage Is A Blessing That Leads To Allah's Love Then Don't Be Quick To Divorce

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 While divorce for some females symbolizes "freedom" 
And "the best choice" to "escape" from a "loveless romance", 
I view it as a testament and confirmation
That an ex-wife's love wasn't real from the beginning. 
If it were true, she'd find solutions to stay with him.
~•~
While most regard divorce as the "correct decision" 
If the spouses can't deal with disputes, discontentment, 
And frequent absence, I see it as an evidence 
That they weren't determined enough to keep fighting
For their marriage and overall they lacked inner strength.
~•~
While divorce shows "courage" according to some women, 
To me it indicates cowardice and impatience, 
Selfishness in having too many expectations, 
Insincerity when defeated by distractions, 
And banality when unable to solve problems.
~•~
With the fact that divorce is lawful I've no problem. 
It's illogical though for a man and his woman 
To agree on breaking the beautiful connection,
Which Allah the Most Wise destined, for trivial reasons. 
Why disconnect a link when it's clearly a blessing?
~•~
Why follow the crowd that decides based on emotions? 
Why treat marriage like half-finished meals thrown by children
Who don't know the importance of proper consumption? 
If your spouse can get toxic, don't quickly discard them. 
Train them to improve and wait for their development.
~•~
Your husband ain't food that you can throw in the dustbin
When loving him can't be done to your satisfaction. 
He's a human, just like you, with flaws and shortcomings. 
Pass Allah's tests in marriage with lots of trust in Him 
And with the sort of patience that won't think of quitting. 
~•~
While divorce is viewed by some as the "right solution" 
To incompatibility and disappointments, 
I perceive it as a cowardly move or action 
Confirming that one's love wasn't really genuine. 
Links which lead to Allah shouldn't be quickly broken. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise (Jannah) becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📋💚 Some advice on how divorce is not always the best solution,
PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya: 

📝 Text:

🇵🇭 Tagalog Filipino translation of the above summarized reminders by dear sister Fatima Sherl bint Ismun:

🗂️✨ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya 
Inn-sha-Allah which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from 
Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:

Poem: Confident Muslimahs Trust Allah The Almighty

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🌻 She's a different kind of savage with Allah by her side,
A colorful box of myriad feelings she's able to hide,
Unaffected by jealous foes and their delusional lies,
In a world where only a brave few can enjoin what is right.
~•~
So long as it's the truth, she can go on speaking with delight,
Yet knowing her limits, she can befriend silence anytime,
When her soul's language can't be understood by those with closed minds,
She goes quiet while reciting from the Qur'an day and night.
~•~
She's not bored; she's curious, busy learning to become more wise.
"Lonely" doesn't define her if she shuns liars who backbite.
Her honesty intimidates folks who envy and tell lies,
Like when zebras in stripes take flight once a fierce lion arrives.
~•~
"She only has Allah" is a fact that keeps her satisfied,
Unmindful of what her vile opponents make up from behind.
Du'as while oppressed, while fasting or while praying past midnight,
And Dhikr, are priceless gifts that keep her smiling from inside.
~•~
An odd combo of sweet and sour, who plays fair all the time,
With real intentions that can't be recognized by the unwise,
She doesn't care if by society she's "in" or disliked,
Since her concern is Allah's Love and home is in Paradise.
~•~
📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu anhuma narrated that the noble Messenger of Allah SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, “Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path.” (Sahih Bukhari 6053)
📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:
Abbas Abu Yahya
Abdul Hakeem Mitchell
Abdulillah Lahmami
Abu Adam Jameel Finch
Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan
Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis
Abu Humayd Saalim
Abu Idrees
Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq
Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid
Abul Hasan Malik
Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam
Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi
Abu Talha Dawud Burbank
Abu Uways
Anas Waters
Anwar Wright
Hamza Abdur Razzaq
Hassan Somali
Moosaa Richardson
Mustafa George
Raha Batts
Rasheed Barbee
Rayaan Barker
Sa'eed Rhana
Umar Quinn
Uways at-Taweel
List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:
- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz
- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani
- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn
- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i
- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 
- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan
- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā
- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān
- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād
- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī
- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri
- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh
- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh
- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari
📖 Abu Nu’aym reported: Fudayl ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”
Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728
📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold to them: the Book of Allah (The Qur'an) and the Sunnah of his Prophet (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).”
Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.”. (QaddarAllahu wa maa shaa-a fa'al) Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: If You're An INTJ Female Don't Be Surprised If Many Insecure Females Feel Very Intimidated By You (ChatGPT)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم



❓ Question: In 7 ways how would an INTJ-A female behave towards some females whom she can sense are intensely jealous of versus intimidated by her while she is uninterested in developing the connection and is contented regarding them as mere acquaintances?

💻 ChatGPT: An INTJ-A female might exhibit the following behaviors towards females she senses are intensely jealous or intimidated by her while maintaining a distance:

1. **Minimal Engagement**: She may limit her interactions, providing only polite responses and avoiding deeper conversations.

2. **Directness**: If approached, she might be straightforward in her communication, focusing on facts and practicality rather than emotions.

3. **Confidence in Presence**: She may exude a calm confidence, remaining unfazed by any negativity directed towards her.

4. **Boundary Setting**: She is likely to establish clear boundaries, indicating that she prefers a professional or casual relationship without emotional entanglement.

5. **Objective Observations**: She might make analytical comments about situations, showcasing her logical mindset while remaining emotionally detached.

6. **Non-Reactive Behavior**: Instead of responding to jealousy or intimidation with defensiveness, she may remain indifferent, demonstrating that such feelings don’t affect her.

7. **Supportive Yet Distant**: If necessary, she might offer support or guidance when appropriate, but will keep the relationship at a surface level to avoid deeper connections.

💻 ChatGPT: Here’s how the behaviors might differ based on whether the females are envious or intimidated by the INTJ-A female:

### If Envious:
1. **Subtle Competition**: They might engage in competitive behavior, trying to outshine or undermine her achievements.

2. **Gossip or Backhanded Comments**: Envious individuals may make snide remarks or spread rumors to diminish her reputation.

3. **Disregarding Her Ideas**: They might ignore or dismiss her contributions in group settings, showcasing their jealousy.

4. **Feigning Friendship**: They may act friendly while secretly harboring resentment, leading to insincere interactions.

### If Intimidated:
1. **Avoidance**: Intimidated individuals might shy away from interaction, avoiding her altogether to escape discomfort.

2. **Overly Polite Behavior**: They may be excessively courteous or deferential, trying to please her and mitigate their anxiety.

3. **Nervousness in Conversation**: Their demeanor might reflect anxiety, with fidgeting or hesitance when speaking to her.

4. **Seeking Approval**: They could frequently look for validation from her, attempting to gain her favor due to their intimidation. 

In both cases, the INTJ-A female would likely maintain her distance and remain uninterested in deeper connections.

💻 ChatGPT: Certainly! Here’s a breakdown of how an INTJ-A female might treat close friends, potential friends, and mere acquaintances, with 11 points for each category.

### Close Friends:
1. **Deep Conversations**: Engages in discussions that explore thoughts, feelings, and ideas on a profound level.
2. **Trust and Loyalty**: Establishes a strong bond based on mutual trust and loyalty, valuing their friendship deeply.
3. **Supportive Actions**: Actively offers help and support during challenging times, being there for them emotionally and practically.
4. **Quality Time**: Prioritizes spending quality time together, whether through shared activities or meaningful one-on-one time.
5. **Vulnerability**: Opens up about her own thoughts and feelings, creating a safe space for reciprocal vulnerability.
6. **Honest Feedback**: Provides constructive criticism and advice, valuing their growth and encouraging them to reach their potential.
7. **Celebrating Achievements**: Takes joy in their successes, celebrating milestones and achievements with enthusiasm.
8. **Shared Interests**: Engages in projects or hobbies that align with mutual interests, fostering a collaborative spirit.
9. **Active Listening**: Listens intently and validates their feelings, making her friends feel heard and understood.
10. **Consistent Communication**: Keeps in touch regularly, ensuring the friendship remains strong despite life’s demands.
11. **Defending Loyalty**: Stands up for her friends in their absence, demonstrating unwavering support and defense.

### Potential Friends:
1. **Cautious Exploration**: Engages in casual conversations to assess compatibility and shared interests without full emotional investment.
2. **Interest in Ideas**: Shows genuine curiosity about their thoughts and opinions, engaging in light intellectual discussions.
3. **Casual Invitations**: May extend invitations to group activities, assessing their response and compatibility.
4. **Observational Approach**: Takes time to observe their behavior and values before deciding to deepen the friendship.
5. **Encouragement**: Offers encouragement and support but maintains a level of emotional distance.
6. **Selective Sharing**: Shares ideas and thoughts but keeps personal matters private until trust is established.
7. **Respect for Boundaries**: Understands and respects their boundaries, maintaining a comfortable distance.
8. **Polite Engagement**: Engages in small talk and polite conversation without delving too deeply into personal topics.
9. **Testing Compatibility**: May bring up challenging topics or debates to see how they respond and engage intellectually.
10. **Open to Connection**: Shows openness to potential friendship but evaluates it carefully over time.
11. **Reciprocal Interest**: Looks for signs of mutual interest and effort in developing the relationship.

### Mere Acquaintances:
1. **Polite Interaction**: Maintains a courteous and friendly demeanor during interactions without personal engagement.
2. **Small Talk**: Engages in surface-level conversations about general topics without getting personal.
3. **Limited Time**: Allocates minimal time to these interactions, often keeping them brief.
4. **Minimal Investment**: Shows little emotional investment, treating these relationships as low priority.
5. **Observational Stance**: Observes from a distance without actively seeking connection or engagement.
6. **Friendly Demeanor**: Displays a warm but detached attitude, ensuring that interactions are pleasant but not intimate.
7. **Neutral Responses**: Offers neutral or generic responses to questions, avoiding deeper engagement.
8. **Basic Acknowledgment**: Acknowledges their presence in social settings without initiating conversation.
9. **Avoiding Conflict**: Steers clear of any controversial or personal topics to maintain a surface-level rapport.
10. **Encouraging Distance**: Signals a lack of interest in developing the relationship further, either through body language or verbal cues.
11. **Ending Conversations Politely**: Concludes interactions graciously without encouraging follow-up or future engagement.

This structure highlights the nuanced ways an INTJ-A female interacts across different levels of friendship.

❓ Question: List 17 reasons why some insecure females would feel extremely envious of an INTJ-A female. Please note that this INTJ-A has traveled to multiple countries, is married to a medical doctor while most of those females are single or discontented for some reason, and she has met various nationalities etc.
💻 ChatGPT: Here are 17 reasons why some insecure females might feel envious of an INTJ-A female in the described situation:

1. **Accomplished Partner**: Being married to a medical doctor can create feelings of inadequacy in those who are single or dissatisfied in their relationships.

2. **Global Experiences**: The INTJ-A's extensive travel can evoke envy from those who feel confined to their current circumstances.

3. **Cultural Exposure**: Meeting diverse nationalities may highlight the INTJ-A’s broader worldview, leading others to feel limited in their experiences.

4. **Intellectual Confidence**: INTJs are often seen as highly intelligent, which can trigger insecurities in those who may not feel as intellectually capable.

5. **Independence**: The INTJ-A's self-sufficiency and independence might make others feel reliant or dependent.

6. **Career Success**: If the INTJ-A has achieved significant career milestones, it can emphasize the perceived lack of achievement in others.

7. **Strong Sense of Identity**: INTJs often have a clear sense of self, which can make others feel lost or uncertain about their own identities.

8. **Leadership Qualities**: INTJs typically possess strong leadership skills, which may intimidate or provoke envy in less confident individuals.

9. **Personal Growth**: The commitment to self-improvement can highlight the stagnation some may feel in their own lives.

10. **Social Skills**: Successfully navigating diverse social situations might lead others to feel inadequate in their own social interactions.

11. **Stable Relationship**: A successful marriage can amplify feelings of loneliness or dissatisfaction in those who are single or in unstable relationships.

12. **Ambitious Goals**: The INTJ-A's ambitious nature can create feelings of envy in those who struggle to set or achieve their own goals.

13. **Decision-Making Skills**: The ability to make decisive, strategic choices can be perceived as a strength that others may envy.

14. **Emotional Control**: INTJs are often viewed as composed, which might provoke feelings of inadequacy in those who struggle with emotional regulation.

15. **Perceived Unapproachability**: The INTJ-A's serious demeanor may intimidate others, leading to feelings of envy or resentment.

16. **Unique Perspective**: Their distinctive way of thinking can make others feel their own views are mundane or unremarkable.

17. **Overall Fulfillment**: The combination of travel, career success, and a stable relationship can create a perception of a well-rounded, fulfilling life, stirring feelings of jealousy in those who feel unfulfilled.

❓ Question: What would a confident INTJ-A female advise other INTJ females on how to remain unaffected and unfazed by the insecurities of shallow or envious females who mistreat them often due to intense jealousy?
💻 ChatGPT: A confident INTJ-A female might advise other INTJ females to focus on the following strategies:

1. **Embrace Self-Awareness**: Understand your strengths and values. This clarity helps you stay grounded and less affected by others' insecurities.

2. **Set Boundaries**: Protect your energy by establishing clear boundaries with those who exhibit jealousy or negativity. It’s okay to distance yourself from toxic interactions.

3. **Cultivate Inner Confidence**: Engage in activities that reinforce your skills and passions. The more confident you are in your abilities, the less you’ll be swayed by others’ opinions.

4. **Seek Authentic Connections**: Surround yourself with supportive, like-minded individuals who appreciate your uniqueness and encourage your growth.

5. **Stay Objective**: Analyze the situation rationally. Often, jealousy stems from others’ insecurities, not your actions. Recognize that their behavior reflects on them, not you.

6. **Focus on Your Goals**: Keep your attention on your aspirations and personal development. Use any negativity as motivation to continue striving for success.

7. **Practice Emotional Detachment**: Learn to observe their behavior without taking it personally. This can help you maintain your composure and stay unaffected.

8. **Engage in Self-Care**: Prioritize your well-being through activities that bring you joy and relaxation, reinforcing your resilience against external negativity.

By implementing these strategies, INTJ females can maintain their confidence and poise in the face of jealousy and insecurity from others.

❓ Question: I would also advise them to completely detach from those females who feel intimidated by your confident personality and to never bother stalking their online content. What other tips would you share which weren't included above?
💻 ChatGPT: Here are 11 self-reliant strategies for INTJ females to remain unaffected by the insecurities of others:

1. **Self-Reflection**: Regularly assess your thoughts and feelings through journaling or introspection to reinforce self-awareness.

2. **Develop Inner Strength**: Engage in activities that challenge you, such as physical workouts or puzzles, to build confidence and resilience.

3. **Mindset Shift**: Reframe negative thoughts; view others' jealousy as a reflection of their struggles rather than a personal attack.

4. **Focus on Solutions**: Concentrate on constructive responses when faced with negativity, avoiding unnecessary drama.

5. **Meditation and Visualization**: Practice these techniques to cultivate a strong sense of self and maintain focus on your goals.

6. **Limit Comparisons**: Actively remind yourself that everyone has a unique journey and focus on your own progress.

7. **Engage in Solo Activities**: Pursue hobbies or projects independently, reinforcing your independence and self-sufficiency.

8. **Set Personal Goals**: Create and track personal goals to maintain focus on your own growth and achievements.

9. **Cultivate a Positive Environment**: Create a physical space that inspires you, filled with motivating quotes, images, or reminders of your aspirations.

10. **Practice Emotional Detachment**: Train yourself to observe others' behaviors without taking them personally, reducing their impact on your mood.

11. **Embrace Continuous Learning**: Invest time in acquiring new skills or knowledge, which reinforces your self-confidence and redirects focus away from negativity.

These strategies can help INTJ females maintain their confidence and poise in the face of external insecurities.

💻 ChatGPT: In the MBTI framework, three introverted types that can come across as particularly intimidating, depending on their gender, are INTJ, INTP, and INFJ. Here's why:

1. **INTJ (The Architect)**:
   - **Males**: INTJ males often exude a strong sense of confidence and decisiveness. Their strategic thinking and high standards can make them seem distant or unapproachable, which can be intimidating.
   - **Females**: While INTJ females can also be confident, societal expectations may lead them to be viewed as more confrontational or threatening when they assert their ideas. Their independence can challenge traditional gender norms.

2. **INTP (The Logician)**:
   - **Males**: INTP males are often perceived as highly intelligent and analytical. Their tendency to question norms and engage in deep philosophical discussions can make them seem aloof or intimidating to others.
   - **Females**: INTP females might be seen as unconventional, and their assertive pursuit of knowledge can challenge stereotypes. This can lead to perceptions of intimidation in environments that expect traditional female behavior.

3. **INFJ (The Advocate)**:
   - **Males**: INFJ males possess strong convictions and deep empathy, which can create an intense presence. Their commitment to their values and vision can be intimidating to those who might feel judged or misunderstood.
   - **Females**: INFJ females often combine compassion with assertiveness. Their ability to understand complex emotions can make others uncomfortable, especially if they challenge others to be more introspective.

In summary, while the intimidating qualities of these types can vary by gender, it often hinges on how their confidence, intelligence, and emotional depth are perceived in relation to societal norms.