Note: Some Notes Regarding Temporary Friendships

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

33 Brutal Truths About Temporary Friendships (No Sugarcoating)

💎 Many friendships serve a purpose, not a lifetime.

💎 Some people are only around for their convenience.

💎 People grow apart—and that’s natural.

💎 Proximity often defines closeness, not emotional depth.

💎 Once the shared context is gone (school, work), the bond may fade if not regularly maintained.

💎 Loyalty isn’t guaranteed just because you were once close.

💎 Some friends leave as soon as you stop giving.

💎 Others were never your friend, just bored or lonely (they were only acquaintances).

💎 Support during your wins doesn't equal loyalty in your losses.

💎 People change—and some friendships can’t adapt. For example if you've been guided by Allah the Almighty to the correct 'Aqeedah, some of your connections who still can't give up certain bid'ah or deviant acts may gradually distance themselves from you.

💎 Some friendships survive only through gossip or drama.

💎 If you outgrow a friend, don’t shrink to stay.

💎 A "friend" who always competes isn’t a friend (due to their intense jealousy and insecurities).

💎 Some people befriend you to copy or study you.

💎 Energy leeches disguise themselves as friends.

💎 Not everyone clapping for you wants you to succeed.

💎 The more you heal, the less tolerable some people become.

💎 Silence often reveals the one-sidedness of a friendship.

💎 A person who constantly flakes isn’t respecting your time.

💎 When effort is always one-sided, the bond is dying.

💎 People talk—friends included.

💎 Betrayal often comes from those closest.

💎 Not all shared memories mean shared loyalty.

💎 Some friends are addicted to a version of you that no longer exists.

💎 If they distance themselves when you're struggling, it’s not real.

💎 Some people were only meant for a specific chapter.

💎 Longevity doesn’t always mean depth.

💎 Once your usefulness fades, so might they.

💎 A friend who enables your flaws isn’t helping you grow.

💎 Some people stay just to witness your downfall.

💎 People outgrow their fake personas—and fake bonds dissolve with them.

💎 Reconnecting with someone doesn’t always mean they’ve changed.

💎 Sometimes, you’re better off letting go than keeping the illusion alive.

7 Common Ways Friendships Dissipate

⚠️ Change in environment (graduation, moving, job switch).

⚠️ Lack of effort from one or both sides.

⚠️ Jealousy or silent competition that was never directly addressed.

⚠️ Values or maturity shift, making conversations feel disconnected.

⚠️ Romantic relationships replacing attention once given to friends.

⚠️ One-sided emotional labor, where only one gives support.

⚠️ Unspoken conflict or misunderstanding left to rot.

33 Signs Your Friendship Is Still Intact Despite Infrequent Communication

✅ No awkwardness when reconnecting.

✅ You pick up where you left off—instantly.

✅ There's mutual understanding of each other’s busy lives.

✅ You still trust them.

✅ You occasionally share important life updates, even after gaps.

✅ They celebrate your wins from afar (they can be secretly happy for you and regularly mention you in their loving Du'as/supplications).

✅ You’re still on their mind (they check in now and then).

✅ They defend you in your absence.

✅ They remember your preferences and quirks.

✅ There's no guilt-tripping over silence.

✅ The vibe is still genuine and warm.

✅ You support each other from a distance.

✅ Inside jokes still hit.

✅ They never act brand-new or unpleasantly awkward when you reconnect.

✅ You both value quality over quantity.

✅ They never make you feel like a burden.

✅ You both initiate communication at different times.

✅ You trust them with your silence.

✅ They often notice small things about you—even online.

✅ Your bond feels solid, not fragile or questionable.

✅ They bring peace, not pressure.

✅ They pray for you or send well wishes unprompted.

✅ They're happy for your growth—even if they’re not part of it daily.

✅ They respect your boundaries and personality.

✅ They cheer you on in your absence.

✅ You're never in doubt of their loyalty.

✅ You feel mentally safe around them.

✅ You never feel "behind" or judged.

✅ Your bond matured past daily check-ins.

✅ You look forward to reconnecting—not dread it.

✅ They’re consistent with their values, not just attention.

✅ They make effort when it matters most.

✅ Time may pass, but trust remains untouched.

33 Ways to Maintain a Friendship

🌻 Check in randomly—not just when you need something.

🌻 Be emotionally available, not just physically present.

🌻 Respect their boundaries and pace.

🌻 Celebrate their wins (don't feel envious nor show that you envy them).

🌻 Apologize when needed—sincerely.

🌻 Give space without disappearing forever.

🌻 Send memes, relevant links, or articles that remind you of them.

🌻 Don’t guilt them for being busy.

🌻 Match the energy they give you when necessary.

🌻 Be a safe space.

🌻 Speak up if something bothers you—respectfully.

🌻 Avoid deliberately making them feel excluded or replaceable.

🌻 Pray for them.

🌻 Give without keeping score.

🌻 Let them grow without clinging to who they were.

🌻 Be honest, even if it’s uncomfortable.

🌻 Be happy for them, not just with them.

🌻 Send salaams, voice notes or handwritten letters occasionally.

🌻 Plan catch-ups, even virtual ones.

🌻 Remind them they matter.

🌻 Stand by them during tough times.

🌻 Never share their secrets.

🌻 Avoid performative support—be genuine.

🌻 Accept their silence sometimes.

🌻 Don’t expect them to be perfect.

🌻 Make them laugh when you can.

🌻 Be loyal even when others may gossip about them.

🌻 Don’t compare friendships.

🌻 Don’t compete—collaborate.

🌻 Be patient with their flaws.

🌻 Appreciate the little things they do.

🌻 Grow together for Allah's sake, not apart.

🌻 Let them know you value the friendship—explicitly.

33 Signs Someone Is Worth Befriending Long-Term

☑️ They're honest without being cruel.

☑️ They encourage or inspire your growth.

☑️ They’re consistent, not just convenient.

☑️ They don’t gossip about their other friends to you.

☑️ They motivate or challenge you to be better.

☑️ They respect your beliefs or choices, even if different.
They do not force you to do things that you are unwilling to do.

☑️ They make you feel safe being yourself.

☑️ They support your boundaries.

☑️ They don’t use your vulnerability against you.

☑️ They’re not intimidated by your success.

☑️ Oftentimes they can help you see things from another angle.

☑️ They make space for your voice in conversations instead of constantly interrupting you.

☑️ They ask how you really are.

☑️ They’re not emotionally manipulative.

☑️ They own up to their mistakes.

☑️ They’re secure in themselves.

☑️ They don’t feed drama.

☑️ They inspire you creatively or mentally.

☑️ They handle conflict maturely.

☑️ They’re kind to others, not just you.

☑️ They don’t make you question your worth.

☑️ They’re not threatened by your other relationships.

☑️ They celebrate your evolution or progress.

☑️ They listen without turning it into a monologue.

☑️ They have depth, not just vibe.

☑️ They respect time—yours and theirs.

☑️ They remember many small details about you.

☑️ They're blessed with empathy or emotional intelligence.

☑️ They make effort, not excuses.

☑️ They’re spiritually grounding (if you value that).

☑️ They don’t constantly mirror you—they have their own identity.

☑️ You can learn from them and with them.

☑️ You feel energized, not drained, after talking to them.

⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

Note: Some Advice/Tips To A Teenage Muslimah Concerning The Niqab Face Veil

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

35 Niqab & Hijab Advice from an INTJ-A to an INTP Female

Start with hijab first—prioritize what's obligatory before moving to what's recommended.

Educate yourself deeply—read scholarly opinions (from authentic and trustworthy sources according to the Noble Qur'an and Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and research it thoroughly before deciding.

Don’t rush—understand why you're doing it; sincerity outweighs speed.

The niqab is an act of devotion—not just a garment but a mindset and submission to Allah the Almighty.

It's empowering—you choose how the world sees you or doesn’t see you.

Modesty protects your worth—you're way more than your looks or facial expressions.

Don’t do it for the people—not for society, not even family. Only for Allah the Almighty with Ikhlaas/sincerity.

The real struggle is inner conviction—not people's opinions.

You’re not less of a Muslim if you don’t wear the niqab yet—just keep progressing.

Practical tip: Wear loose clothing first—it makes the transition easier.

Your intention matters more than perfection—don’t fear mistakes.

There will be awkward moments—expect and mentally rehearse how to respond.

Have a go-to response ready—for those who ask why you’re wearing it.

Choose breathable fabrics—especially for hot weather.

Practice at home—try wearing it in front of the mirror and around mahrams to ease in.

Buy from stores with adjustable niqabs—for comfort and fit.

Don’t depend on motivation—rely on discipline and purpose.

Reflect on your 'why' regularly—especially on challenging days.

Your value is in your Imaan—not the symmetry of your face.

Avoid comparing yourself to Instagram hijabis—real piety isn’t always aesthetic.

Keep a support circle—even if it’s just one friend, like your mother or one of your aunties, who understands your goal.

Read stories of converts and niqabis—to get inspired and reassured.

Don’t expect instant internal peace—growth is gradual.

You can still be intellectual and expressive with niqab—your intelligence isn't less when you choose to upgrade your level of modesty.

Be strategic in introducing it to your family/social circle—especially if they’re not used to it.

Remember: modesty is a package—speech, behavior, presence.

You’re not becoming invisible—you’re choosing how to be seen.

Some people will stare, which is normal, particularly if they are still ignorant about various customs or if they are not well-traveled —don’t take it personally.

Have your personal boundaries clear—not everyone deserves explanations.

Being visibly different builds resilience—embrace it.

You're guarding your identity, not hiding it.

Pray Salat Al-Istikhaara—seek Allah’s Guidance before making your decision official.

Make it a private decision first—not an announcement.

Allow yourself grace—it’s okay to struggle or remove it temporarily sometimes for valid reasons.

Your conviction will grow stronger over time—you’ll thank yourself later,
Inn-sha-Allah in dunya and akhirah.

⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT

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Sure! Here's a sample message in English, written in the tone of an INTJ-A niqabi speaking to a younger INTP female who feels hesitant to start wearing the hijab. The tone is logical, sincere, empathetic, and firm without being pushy:

Message from the INTJ Niqabi to the INTP Sister:

As-salaamu ‘alayki wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh,

I understand your hesitation about wearing the niqab—it’s a big step, and it’s okay to feel uncertain. But what matters more is the direction you're moving in, not the speed. You're already thinking about it, which shows a level of sincerity many people never reach.

Let me tell you something I’ve learned: the purpose of covering isn’t to erase who you are—it’s to elevate who you truly are. Society teaches us to be visible to be valued, but Islam teaches us that our value lies in our obedience to our Only God and Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and our inner character. When I started wearing the niqab around 13, it wasn’t because I was pressured—it was because I researched, reflected, and felt at peace with the decision. The more I read, the more it made sense—not just spiritually, but intellectually. And that’s when it stuck.

You don’t have to rush into niqab or even hijab all at once. Start with what's obligatory—covering the hair and dressing modestly in front of non-mahrams. Then, when your heart is ready, and your mind is fully convinced, niqab can follow naturally
Inn-sha-Allah, if you wish.

What I love about niqab is that people see my faith and actions before my face. I’m not judged by appearances but by how I carry myself, how I speak, and how I treat others. It's freeing, not restricting.

Take your time. Learn, reflect, make lots of Du’a, and focus on your ‘why’. This isn’t about pleasing anyone but Allah the Almighty. Don't feel guilty if you’re not there yet. Just don’t ignore that gentle tug in your heart—it means your Imaan is alive and growing. You’re already on the right path.

If you ever need practical tips, emotional support, or just someone to discuss things with logically and respectfully, I’m here. No pressure, just sincere sisterhood.

Wa lillaahil-hamd, may Allah the Most Loving always guide and protect you always. Ameen.
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Absolutely! Here's a more casual, friendly version of that message—like an older millennial INTJ sister talking to a younger Gen Z INTP girl. It still keeps the essence of sincerity, but with a more relaxed, relatable tone:

Casual Version (Millennial INTJ to Gen Z INTP):

Hey sis (younger sister in Islam),
I totally get how you're feeling about the hijab. It’s a huge personal step, and it’s okay to feel a bit unsure or even overwhelmed. No one wakes up one day with everything figured out. What matters is that you're thinking about it—that already says a lot about your heart.

When I decided to wear the niqab, I was around 13, still in Saudi Arabia. It wasn’t something I just copied from someone—I read, researched, questioned, reflected… a lot. And honestly, the more I learned, the more peaceful I felt. It made sense—not just from a religious point of view, but logically too. That’s what helped me commit.

But here’s the thing: you don’t have to do everything all at once. Focus on the basics first—covering your hair and dressing modestly in front of non-mahrams. That’s what’s obligatory. Niqab is something you can work toward if and when you feel truly ready for it.

One of the reasons I love niqab is because people don’t see my face—they see my faith, my actions, how I carry myself. It honestly protects me from being judged or objectified. It’s like… I control the narrative of how I’m perceived, and Alhamdulillah I find that wonderfully empowering.

Don’t stress or pressure yourself into a timeline. Take your time, read up, reflect, make Du’a. You're not less of a Muslim if you're still figuring things out. This is between you and Allah the Almighty - no one else but Allah the Almighty. And if your gut is already nudging you in this direction, that may be a sign your Imaan is alive. That’s beautiful.

And hey, if you ever need tips, emotional pep talks, or someone to bounce thoughts off—I'm always here, no pressure. Just honest, no-judgment convos anytime.

Inn-sha-Allah you've got this.

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In Tagalog language:
Sure! Here’s the Tagalog translation of the casual, sincere message—keeping it natural and grammatically correct, like a millennial ate talking heart-to-heart with her Gen Z younger sister in Islam:

Tagalog Version (Ate INTJ to Gen Z INTP):

Hi,
Gets ko ‘yung nararamdaman mo tungkol sa niqab. Malaking desisyon siya, at okay lang na medyo nag-aalangan ka o nalilito. Hindi naman kailangan na agad-agad alam mo na ang lahat. Ang mahalaga, iniisip mo na siya—ibig sabihin may laman na ‘yang puso mo.

Noong nagsimula akong magsuot ng niqab, mga 13 years old pa lang ako nun, nasa Saudi pa kami. Hindi ko siya ginawa dahil may nagsabi. Nagbasa ako, nag-research, pinag-isipan ng mabuti. At sa totoo lang, habang mas marami akong nalalaman, mas nagiging panatag ang loob ko. May sense siya—not just spiritually, pero pati logically.

Pero ito lang: hindi mo kailangang gawin lahat agad-agad. Simulan mo sa kung ano talaga ang obligasyon—takpan ang buhok at magdamit nang maayos sa harap ng mga hindi mo mahram. ‘Yun muna ang mahalaga. Ang niqab, darating ‘yan kung kailan ready na ang puso mo at buo na ang loob mo.

Isa sa mga rason kung bakit gusto ko ang niqab ay dahil hindi ako hinuhusgahan base sa itsura ko. Nakikita muna ng tao ang pananampalataya ko, ‘yung actions ko, ‘yung pagkatao ko. Para siyang shield—ako ang may kontrol kung paano ako tingnan ng tao, at para sa akin, empowering ‘yun.

Huwag kang ma-pressure. Dahan-dahan lang, magbasa ka, mag-reflect, magdasal. Hindi ka mas mababa bilang Muslim kung nag-iisip at naghahanap ka pa ng sagot. Sa totoo lang, kung nararamdaman mong may konting hatak sa puso mo tungkol dito, ibig sabihin buhay ang Imaan mo—at ‘yan ang mahalaga.

At kung kailangan mo ng tips, kausap, o kahit simpleng encouragement—nandito lang ako. Walang judgment, walang pilitan. Totoong usapan lang, anytime.

Inn-sha-Allah kaya mo ‘to.

⤴️ Again in English language:
Here’s the English translation of your message:

I understand how you feel about the niqab. It’s a big decision, and it’s okay to feel a bit hesitant or confused for now. You don’t have to know everything right away. What’s important is that you’re already thinking about it—that means your heart is already engaged.

When I started wearing the niqab, I was only around 13 years old, and we were still in Saudi Arabia. I didn’t do it because someone told me to. I read, I researched, I thought about it carefully. And honestly, the more I learned, the more at peace I felt. It made sense—not just spiritually, but logically too.

But here’s the thing: you don’t have to do everything all at once. Start with what’s truly obligatory—covering your hair and dressing modestly in front of non-mahrams. That’s what matters first. The niqab will come when your heart is ready and your conviction is strong.

One of the reasons I love the niqab is because I’m not judged based on how I look. People see my faith first, my actions, my character. It’s like a shield—I have control over how people perceive me, and to me, that’s empowering.

Don’t feel pressured. Take it slow, read, reflect, and pray. You’re not less of a Muslim for thinking things through and still searching for answers. In fact, if you feel even a slight pull in your heart toward it, that means your Imaan is alive—and that’s what truly matters.

And if you ever need tips, someone to talk to, or just simple encouragement—I’m here. No judgment, no pressure. Just a real conversation, anytime.

Inn-sha-Allah, you’ve got this.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT