๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ญ Some notes on polygyny:
1. The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam stayed with Khadijah RadhiAllahu anha for so many years and didn't take another wife until she passed away. This shows that being in a monogamous marriage isn't reprehensible as the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam himself remained with only one wife in the beginning. It's possible for a man to find contentment with just one wife.
2. While it is permissible for men in Islam to have up to four wives, they are obliged to treat them as fairly as they can, with regards to family time management, satisfying the emotional needs of each wife and granting financial support.
3. A Muslim can Inn-sha-Allah earn rewards in taking care of a large family, trying to ensure he fulfils all his duties and responsibilities, especially if one of his wives is a former divorcรฉe or widow with orphaned kids. By marrying her he gets the chance to be a supportive stepfather to those orphaned children.
4. A carriage being pulled by two fast horses may move faster than a cart being pulled by one horse. A carriage pulled by strong three or four horses moves even faster than the one dragged by two horses. A well-trained stallion or speedy horse can gallop a lot faster than a carriage pulled by four horses, especially if some of the horses from that carriage are stressed or inefficient. This similitude is like that of a man's marriage life. A beautiful and caring wife who has several kids with him can keep him satisfied that he feels no need to add another family member. On the other hand, a Muslim who is responsible and capable may have multiple wives to increase the population size of the Muslim Ummah or wed a woman so she is well taken care of instead of neglected trying to survive without a husband.
5. If your husband wants to take a second, third or fourth wife, that's his right. Avoid threatening him with divorce and keeping his kids away from him. Don't let shaytan manipulate you into unjustly thinking that your husband shouldn't marry another wife simply due to submitting to selfishness, jealousy, suspicion, ingratitude and impatience. When you realize how this fleeting world is temporary along with its trials and struggles, you'd be ready to sacrifice your ego or surplus pride for Allah's sake as you prefer the eternal bliss in Jannah Paradise.
6. Through polygyny there can be more diversity in the Muslim Ummah and peaceful relations especially when a husband has wives from different countries or tribes being unified with marriage.
7. A woman in polygyny can take recurrent rests from her chores as a housewife when her husband is with the other wife/wives. If fortunate to be friends with her co-wives, they can look after her kids when she needs some time for herself or when she's unwell.
8. Even if a husband may be unable to treat all his wives with the perfect amount of fairness and equal treatment, his wives must try their best to stay patient for Allah's sake.
Jannah will Inn-sha-Allah be their destined abode if they accept Allah's Decree patiently.
9. Polygyny isn't easily accepted by everybody just as not everyone can see the value of niqab/veiling the face and praying Sunnah Qiyam Al-Layl Tahajjud at night. As your authentic knowledge of Islam increases together with sincere application of what you've learned, your willingness to obey Allah and accept His Plans with patience also multiply, without overlooking your obvious rights as a loyal Muslim wife.
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May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.
