💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 There is a difference between warning others about someone's wrongdoings which they carry out openly and describing their negative qualities unnecessarily just because of one bad experience you've had with them. It is irrational to criticize a person, organization or group of individuals when you lack sufficient information regarding their actual conditions and circumstances, which are entirely known by Allah the All-Knowing.
Some women appear to be uncomfortably shy and soft-spoken, complacent about their own sense of humility, yet when they're surrounded by their close friends or families, they readily open their mouths to childishly rant on how awful such-and-such a person or institute is. They wrongfully assume they're being helpful when in reality they are projecting their insecurities onto those they fail to understand, emphasizing how much they ignorantly don't know what or whom they're criticizing.
A gossiper doesn't gain anything significant except for the sins of the Muslims whom they backbite, ridicule or falsely accuse. An unresolved misunderstanding, a grudge that is formed from bigotry or prejudice, and an innocent mistake do not make it legitimate for any decent person to constantly whine about another Muslim, especially if they're not around to defend themselves and provide an explanation.
As much as possible, be mature enough to avoid gossiping if doing so:
1] ...would offend the subject being badly spoken about, and if they were present they would most likely clarify that your opinion of them is unfair, untrue or invalid.
2] ...is intended to make you feel better about your emotionally wounded self or your so-called warnings do not make a positive impact on other Muslims who eagerly seek the truth.
3] ...is meant to make your audience laugh because gossiping, fault-finding and forgetting your own flaws are possibly activities you enjoy to lessen feelings of moral incompetence.
Confident adults have no desire to indulge in childish backbiting and talking trash about specific people whom they conflict with. Unless you're seeking advice from a concerned parent, professional judge at a court or guidance counselor, it is wiser to keep your unpleasant thoughts to yourself than allow the rewards of your good deeds to be affected through sinful gossiping.
A striving Muslim ought to seek guidance and help from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala by way of Du'as/supplications rather than crying about His servants to His other creation.
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📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: They mentioned a man in front of the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they said, “He only eats if he is fed! He only moves if he is made to move!” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “You have backbitten him.” They said, “We only said what is true about him.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “It is enough sin to mention bad things about your brother.”
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If what you said about him were not true, you would have slandered him.”
Source: Musnad ‘Abd Allāh ibn al-Mubārak 2
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Mundhiri
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, among the worst of people is one with two faces, he who comes with one face to these and another to those."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6757
Sahih Muslim 2526
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
