💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Checklist to determine if you are a narcissist, who is mostly driven by pride / kibr and lacks ability to empathize with others:
1 ] Whenever you enter a room that is occupied with some people, arrive at a crowded mall, or attend a social gathering, do you immediately expect a number of individuals to first greet you with a grandiose welcome, or compliment on your good looks or new outfit / haircut / accessory? Do you feel offended if you don't receive VIP (very important person) treatment?
2 ] If an entire day passes by without getting undivided attention from a specific person or loved one, would you feel empty because you're accustomed to receiving compliments and enjoy it when all eyes are on you?
3 ] Do you feel overly confident and proud of your outward appearance, tall height, and fit figure? Do you get jealous, even slightly envious, when you discover that someone else online or offline appears more attractive than you?
4 ] Was there an occasion when you distributed some items or gifts to the guests while purposely leaving a particular individual out because you personally despised the latter? Do you habitually go out of your way to let somebody know that you despise them, instead of maturely keeping unwarranted feelings to yourself?
5 ] When it comes to choosing your close friends, do you chase those who seem to have abundant wealth or impressive status in society, so the connection benefits your selfish personal gain? If someone isn't as good-looking, healthy, or wealthy as you, do you dismiss their efforts in trying to be more acquainted?
6 ] When an individual annoys you or embarrasses you in front of others, do you later spend a considerable amount of time plotting of ways to get even the next minute you see them, instead of analyzing the possible reasons for their misconduct?
7 ] Is it challenging for you to say nice things about another individual on their looks, achievements, or skills, because you pridefully believe that you're way more superior, and nobody on earth can equal your awesomeness?
8 ] Do you have a bad habit of interrupting people's conversations without sincerely apologizing or clarifying why you're in a hurry?
9 ] Is it difficult or intimidating for you to apologize when you've made a mistake or tell someone that you love them?
10 ] Do you often bring food to gatherings with reluctance and unwillingly give what you can share only to display that you're "generous", "caring" or "fabulous" at gift-giving? Were there times when you gave some people some freebies not due to genuine kindness but because you wanted the recipients to return your shady generosity?
11 ] Does gossiping, fault-finding, or laughing at others' flaws come to you naturally? Was there more than one incident when a person whom you disliked turned their back on you or walked away, and you made an offensive remark about them which caused your friends nearby to laugh or giggle?
Allah the Almighty knows best. If you answered "yes" to at least five of the above questions, then you may have some traits that are characteristic of narcissists.
❌ 5 Things you can't do with narcissists:
1 ) You can't trust them at all, since they care more about themselves and their gigantic ego than you and your betterment.
2 ) You can never tell them any secret, because they'll either make fun of you or utilize the info you shared with them as a hot topic for their immature gossip.
3 ) You can't ask them for sincere advice, as seeing you progress or improve in any way adds misery to their life.
4 ) You can't expect them to support or cheer for you when you're trying to start a project, pass an exam, or attain a certain goal. A narcissist loves to assume that they're always right, "flawless", more successful than you and they celebrate whenever they see you fall.
5 ) You can't feel good around narcissists because every meeting with them is an invitation to compete in terms of worldly matters. You can sense your level of faith/Imaan becoming weaker each time they deliberately attempt to make you feel ashamed, incompetent or inferior.
To protect your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being, avoid narcissists for Allah's sake or minimize unnecessary interactions with them.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down upon the people."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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