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How do they behave when they know without a doubt that certain individuals despise them, besides them not bothering to stalk their online content nor ask others about their personal lives?
💻 ChatGPT: It sounds like you're asking about personality types with a strong sense of independence and self-assurance. Based on these traits, the three MBTI types that often fit this description are **INTJ**, **ENTP**, and **ISTP**. These types are typically not overly concerned with others' opinions and can easily move on if they sense dislike.
When they know someone despises them, they likely remain indifferent, focusing on their own goals and interests. They may behave in a detached manner, maintaining their boundaries and avoiding unnecessary confrontation. Their response tends to be one of quiet disinterest, possibly even a bit of amusement if the situation is particularly immature.
The **INTJ** (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) is often known for their intellectual independence and strategic mindset. They value competence, efficiency, and autonomy, which means they tend to be unaffected by others' opinions, especially if they view those opinions as irrelevant or unfounded. When an INTJ senses that someone dislikes them—whether due to a disagreement, personality clash, or perceived weakness—they're typically unmoved.
Their behavior in such situations is usually composed and detached. They might choose to distance themselves emotionally, rather than trying to win over the person or engage in unnecessary conflict. They don’t waste energy on trying to change someone’s opinion, especially if they’ve already assessed the situation and deemed the person’s mindset or behavior as either illogical or beneath their standards. This doesn’t mean they don’t value deep connections; they simply prioritize quality over quantity in relationships, preferring to surround themselves with individuals who challenge them intellectually and respect their autonomy.
INTJs may even consider someone who harbors dislike as a distraction, and instead of feeling hurt or defensive, they move forward, focusing on their projects or goals. They trust their own judgment and believe in their own worth, which allows them to remain unfazed by negativity from others.
INTJs are often described as "The Architects" or "The Masterminds" of the MBTI, and their behavior in situations where others dislike them can be particularly telling. Below are some examples that might illustrate how an INTJ would behave in different scenarios when they sense someone dislikes them:
### **1. Workplace Example:**
Imagine an INTJ working in a corporate setting. They have a strong vision for the project they’re working on, but a coworker, let’s call them "Amy," disagrees with their approach and subtly undermines their ideas in meetings. Amy may give curt responses or dismiss the INTJ’s suggestions with passive-aggressive comments.
**How the INTJ responds:**
- The INTJ will likely notice the behavior immediately and analyze it logically, trying to understand the cause of the dislike. They might even figure out that Amy's actions stem from obvious insecurity or a difference in working style.
- Instead of confronting Amy directly or trying to change their mind, the INTJ will likely disengage emotionally from Amy, not out of fear but from being absolutely uninterested in emotional drama, focusing solely on their task at hand. They won’t take the negative feedback personally, and they certainly won’t feel the need to defend themselves in their presence unless it’s necessary for the success of the project.
- If the situation doesn’t improve, the INTJ may simply stop involving Amy in their work and/or other activities in the future, knowing that it's easier to move forward with others who are more aligned with their goals and methods. They won’t waste energy trying to “win” Amy's approval.
**Key trait here:** The INTJ is unaffected by Amy’s passive-aggressive behavior because they don’t value approval for the sake of approval. They value competence, efficiency and effectiveness more.
### **2. Social Example:**
An INTJ is at a social gathering, and they notice that one person, let’s call them "Ingky," seems to have a strong dislike for them. Ingky might avoid eye contact due to feeling intimidated by the INTJ's confidence, make sarcastic remarks, or engage in subtle gossip about the INTJ.
**How the INTJ responds:**
- The INTJ won’t obsess over Ingky's dislike. They will quickly assess that Ingky is either projecting their own insecurities or simply isn’t their type of person.
- Rather than seeking to confront Ingky or figure out the exact reason for their dislike, the INTJ will likely avoid further interaction, ensure they never trust them and the INTJ can assure others that they won't bother asking from them for any advice in the future because they regard Ingky as unreliable, insecure and incompetent in numerous ways. They will move on to others at the gathering with whom they share more mutual interests, or they might even leave the event entirely if they don’t find the gathering beneficial.
- The INTJ doesn’t feel the need to engage in the drama or "prove" their worth to Ingky. They are content with themselves and are more focused on their own intellectual pursuits or deeper more meaningful connections.
**Key trait here:** The INTJ’s confidence and self-sufficiency (while trusting Allah the Almighty always as Muslims) make them immune to the passive emotional manipulation that might affect other types, particularly if those individuals are actual narcissists. They simply don’t see the value in trying to win over someone who already has a negative opinion of them.
### **3. Family Example:**
An INTJ’s family member, let’s say "older cousin," has a tendency to belittle their career ambitions or question their life choices in subtle ways. It could be through well-meaning but dismissive comments like, “Are you sure you want to pursue that? You should just take the safe route.”
**How the INTJ responds:**
- The INTJ will analyze the situation and recognize that their older cousin may have her own insecurities or conflicting perspectives. They understand that their cousin's comments are rooted in concern or a lack of understanding, rather than genuine malice.
- Instead of engaging in an emotional argument, the INTJ will probably set clear boundaries. They may calmly explain their goals and priorities, but if their cousin continues to dismiss or belittle them, the INTJ will move on and not display interest in wanting that cousin's approval or acknowledgement in this area.
- Over time, they might reduce the frequency of these kinds of conversations, understanding that their cousin's opinion on their personal choices is not something they need to internalize. If the relationship feels emotionally draining, the INTJ may unapologetically take a step back and invest more time in relationships that understand their autonomy.
**Key trait here:** The INTJ doesn’t seek any kind of approval or validation from people including their own relatives. They value independence and are confident in their decisions, even if others can't agree with them. They’ll maintain the relationship, but only if it remains respectful and non-intrusive.
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### **Summary of INTJ Behavior When Disliked:**
- **Indifference:** The INTJ is likely to show indifference to people who dislike them. They have a clear sense of self-worth and won’t seek validation from those who do not appreciate them.
- **Rational Detachment:** If they sense negativity or criticism, they will often analyze the situation logically and decide if it’s worth addressing. If not, they will disengage emotionally and move on.
- **Boundaries:** They will maintain their boundaries and not tolerate emotionally immature behavior. They understand that not everyone will like them, and that’s perfectly fine with them.
- **Self-Sufficiency:** They rely on their own sense of purpose and inner strength, which means they don’t need the approval or validation of others to feel confident or fulfilled.
For an INTJ, it’s not about confrontation or caring for someone’s opinion—it’s about maintaining focus on their goals and maintaining relationships that align with their values and intellectual standards.
