💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some of the things I've done as a teen back in Saudi Arabia, which explains my INTJ personality type and realizing I mistyped myself as an ESTP/ESTJ from not answering the MBTI tests with accuracy:
1] Doing whatever I could to not fit in with the crowd and being okay with standing out. Instead of wearing the school uniform properly like the other girls did, I slightly left the blouse unbuttoned from the top to reveal a black shirt I wore inside. Although my dark pink highlights, choker necklace and other accessories made me look like a freak or "the odd one out", I actually liked the idea of being unique, having my own personal style, and not copying others' sense of individuality.
2] Being more liked by the teachers than most of the students in class despite a number of my classmates frequently asking me if they could copy my assignment answers.
3] At Middle East International School not feeling embarrassed or offended at all when one grumpy teacher in Physics subject angrily threw my notebook on the floor in front of the whole class. She was aggravated I wrote the notes with colorful ink. I figured she had a right to express her exasperation as I didn't obey her orders of keeping the notes simple.
4] Looking indifferent and not emotionally reacting when a teacher in Arts subject scolded me for wearing jewelry, emphasizing how I was "at school, not a fashion show." So I took off the accessories calmly and went back to whatever activity I was doing, not bothered by her infuriation, knowing it was her job to ensure the students value the school dress code.
5] Not participating with the audience in clapping and cheering for some students performing on stage. I remember standing stoically with my arms crossed and seeming unimpressed that my ex-best friend decided to stop clapping as though she felt conscious I probably thought of her as "irrational", when that wasn't the case.
6] Having a Palestinian friend tell me "I wish you spoke more like the way you write" implying that when it comes to speaking with others I'm usually brief, and when writing about a topic that interests me, I'm the complete opposite of being concise.
7] Proceeding to play casual soccer/football with some girls from other grades while the group I usually hung out with chose to just watch. INTJs are willing to accomplish whatever goals they're eager to achieve without needing a sidekick and backup.
8] Staying at home often whenever my family went out for grocery shopping mainly because I was "busy" on the internet answering questions, "solving problems" and giving advice to other teens on this archived TeenOpenDiary website. If I were more religious back then, I may have shared some articles about Islam and cancelled responding to questions that concerned relationships. Ironic how I wasn't someone who could easily display empathy yet there I was acting like a psychologist or guidance counselor wannabe.
9] Deliberately ignoring or avoiding phonecalls during exams so much so that my preoccupation with studying is one of the reasons why I'm no longer in contact with my former best friend.
Alhamdulillah, without intending to sound 'arrogant', the more potential friends switched to being total strangers again, the more I got used to seeing people come and go. This helped me accept the truth Alhamdulillah that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the Only One Whom we can always trust.
10] Keeping a straight face and almost never laughing whenever some individuals made jokes, gossiped, or teased others. INTJs are generally described as being "serious", and the kind of conversations which they enjoy are ones where they can learn something new. To them, gossip, insignificant talks about celebrities, and discussions which can't intellectually stimulate are considered boring.
11] Not feeling bored when reading and researching materials like encyclopedias and dictionaries. Alhamdulillah at around the age of eighteen I was already familiar with polygyny and found myself being fascinated by its many virtues. One of the benefits of being in a polygynous marriage is that you get to have some time and space for yourself to relax when your husband is with his other wife/wives. To maintain a long-standing connection, marriage or friendship, with an INTJ, you need to respect their need for solitude to conserve energy and be extremely patient when they seek privacy at times.
📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."
Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
