💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 A positive impact about not getting attached to people is that if someday they choose to walk away from us for whatever reason, we can let them slide effortlessly without feeling the need to chase them. Since we're mainly concerned about maintaining a strong connection with Allah the Almighty, we don't get negatively affected by someone's decision to leave, dismiss or reject us. If we were able to survive for so many years without that one specific "friend",
we can Inn-sha-Allah move on without them, especially if releasing ourselves from their toxic jelaousy, fakery and negative influence, is a beneficial gain to our well-being.
🌻 Five tips on how to deal with people who have ghosted you or who deliberately ignore your messages:
1] Patiently understand them and try to figure out why they weren't able to answer your messages earlier. Maybe they were busy with tons of responsibilities, noticed your message but got disconnected as soon as they were about to click send, or they were feeling too overwhelmed that they couldn't bother typing an appropriate response until they eventually forgot about it.
2] Realize that Allah the Most Wise already chose the group of souls whom we can connect and vibe with easily. If trying to network with some individuals seems very unlikely or you find yourself unable to avoid conflict with them, accept the reality that they probably weren't destined by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to be included in your life story. Some of the people we encounter in dunya are simply temporary chapters. We can't force somebody to show up again in chapter nine if their role in our life journey is over in the previous pages.
3] You have your own personal preferences and they likewise got their own. Remember that one time you avoided a particular individual because you weren't comfortable around them? You were afraid they might judge, criticize or insult you, so you placed some distance between you two for self-preservation? In a similar way, those people who ignore your messages aren't necessarily ignoring you because you're an immoral person, but it's just that your overall presence makes them feel jealously threatened, unsafe or insecure. Allow them to walk away.
Inn-sha-Allah in the future they can be substituted by people who speak your soul's language, who think like you do, and whose energy matches your enthusiasm to improve for Allah's sake as a Muslim.
4] Focus on developing and strengthening the bond which you currently have with your loved ones, instead of wondering why this and that didn't answer your messages on time. Why bother crying over the droplets of water that spilled on the floor when there's still plenty of water in the dispenser, or better yet in the rivers and ocean? In other words, there's no need to blame yourself for not succeeding at being someone's confidant when there are hundreds of other potential friends worldwide, or better yet remain contented with Allah's Love and Guidance.
5] Whatever occured took place according to Allah's Will and whatever couldn't be established failed to occur because Allah the All-Knowing didn't want it. The past, present and future are all under Allah's Control. We don't get to choose who we befriend, communicate with and remain best buddies with forever. We can only accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny with Sabr and develop the connections which are readily available. If they work out, Alhamdulillah, continue doing what you can to keep the connection stable and long-standing for Allah's sake. If they don't, then Alhamdulillah also, at least we learned a lot from them - that the joys in dunya aren't permanent, while the Love of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is more than sufficient.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan.“
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
