📜 Question: What is love like in polygyny?
📝 Answer: Love in polygyny is proven when you don't mind kissing the soft lips of your husband who has made out with another legal wife. A polygynous marriage life trains you to be extra tough and patient when there are nights in which you sleep without your husband by your side, and you're alright knowing he's laying right next to the other wife. You treat your co-wife's children like they're your own, as they're the half-siblings of your kids/child and altogether they're your husband's offsprings whom he strives to care for equally. When you hear your husband mentioning the name of the other wife, you feel slightly jealous due to undeniable love, but your faith is what causes you to patiently accept what Allah has destined.
Oftentimes you're tempted to check the text messages and conversations which go on between your husband and his other wife, yet your adult self prevents you from wanting to behave nosily and insecurely. At times you see yourself battling against the urge to confront the co-wife if she spent too much time with your husband or you restrain your anger when you discover that your husband and co-wife went to the same restaurant as you and he did earlier.
While you're aware of how your husband has the privilege to be married to up to four wives, you fulfill your duty as a striving Muslimah to patiently accept Allah's Destiny.
Just as there are different forms of weddings and love definitions, there are various types of polygynous situations. Some co-wives are close friends and see each other like sisters. Others secretly dislike one another but still manage to maintain courteous manners when they're together. Other co-wives prefer to imagine the other co-wife doesn't even exist so some of these fiercely in-love ladies may emphasize they're the exclusive zawjat/zawja or other half of a responsible husband who can afford to look after multiple wives for Allah's sake. Other co-wives are willing to connect but their husbands have a preference to keep them away from one another fearing that if he ever neglects any of their rights his co-wives may team up and plot against him.
Whatever is the scenario that you may find yourself in, ultimately you understand that your husband loves you and his other wives fairly equitably, and you're doing this solely to please Allah the Almighty, submitting to Allah's Will, obeying as much as you can from Allah's Commands and praying that your humble acceptance of polygyny is one of the keys which make you worthy of the highest station in Jannah namely Jannatul Ferdaus near Allah the Most High and His noble Prophets alaihim as-salaam.
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📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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