🗒️ Question: What did it take for you to fall in love with your husband? Although his MBTI type is ESFJ while yours is INTJ, how is it possible that you get along so well and you stubbornly refuse to give up on him?
📝 Answer: I believe that, and Allah the Almighty knows best, it can take a lot of time for most INTJs to find somebody intriguing enough to be regarded as an actual friend. If a person is unable to teach me something valuable or they've never done anything inspirational to help me improve in the Deen, I'd unapologetically perceive them as boring.
Alhamdulillah my husband has done a lot. His loving gestures inspired me to be closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with my faith/Imaan levels increasing whenever I'd apply patience/sabr each time I'd cope with his frequent absence due to his medical employment in a faraway city, and gratitude/shukr each time he'd arrive from work safely. Alhamdulillah, besides playing an important role in inspiring me to quit obsessing over my weight, he advised me numerous times and taught me to be more understanding towards my brothers, students, and the different types of people I meet in this fleeting life.
Someone with an INTJ personality type won't be fascinated by your outward appearance and fictional stories you've invented about yourself to impress others, but by how much you're willing to educate them on topics which are important to their goals, particularly if their main intention of loving you for Allah's sake is to become a more enlightened and dedicated Muslim. If the only things you can provide are lousy jokes about random people whom you enviously despise, rumors you spread to distract yourself from your insecurities, and a face full of makeup concealing bad motives, then an INTJ Muslim would rather enjoy their solitude with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala spending quality time on reading than making effort to continue awkward interviews and witness rehearsed acting.
Regardless of your husband's personality type and critics claiming you're incompatible, getting along with each other can
Inn-sha-Allah be achieved if you share the same purpose of establishing a harmonious connection - to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and there's no mistrust, suspicion, and jealousy as obstacles to connecting.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
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