💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
📑 Alhamdulillah although I couldn't see my dear husband face to face yesterday after the Eid Al-Adha prayer and Khutbah since he prayed at a different area before traveling to Marawi with some of our relatives while we had other tasks to do this week, I was able to attend the Muslim community gathering at Wisdom Islamic School then went out afterwards to meet up with other sisters in Islam at the residence of sister Jannah (the creative, hardworking and resilient executive manager of Jannah's Kitchen) where we stayed from some minutes after Salat Al-'Asr until some minutes after Salat Al-'Ishaa and Sunnah Witr.
Sharing some lessons learned Alhamdulillah:
1• When you become a wife, with Allah's Will, there will be several instances when your human husband (not AI) needs to spend time with someone else or be somewhere else during special occasions. Trust Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala always and don't expect your soulmate to be right beside you every second of every day. Know how to utilize those moments when your other half isn't around and can't teleport. During your husband's absence and busyness, you could focus on seeking more authentic Islamic knowledge, read beneficial articles and visit other loved ones for Allah's sake rather than doubting your husband's care for you. Being overly clingy and consistently insisting on receiving your husband's full attention, as if he was meant to be glued to you 24/7, can be more annoying or frightening than cute to most men.
2• It takes a lot of effort, courage to ask questions and invite, and loads of patience to start and maintain a worthwhile friendship and sisterhood for Allah's sake. If there are a number of individuals out there wondering why they don't have even one close friend, they can ask themselves how many times did they confidently attempt to reach out to those whom they're interested in befriending regardless of whether or not the recipient responded and if they humbly forgave a potential friend instead of instantly unfriending them online and without clear explanation abruptly discontinuing the communication?
So that a friendship, with both your husband and other sisters in Islam, can Inn-sha-Allah last much longer, it is extremely essential that you remain steadfastly patient with their occasional delayed responses to your messages and sudden change of moods or unwillingness to talk for some days because they're emotionally struggling and stressed out due to so many unfinished assignments or worries etc.
Don't describe your current state as "poreber lonely" if you've never taken the initiative to genuinely inquire someone with "As-salaamu 'alaikum, how have you been? Are you busy right now? Let's go out somewhere together. Not today? What about tomorrow? When are you available?" etc. and if you think you've already put sufficient effort in contacting so-and-so and so-and-so but all of those whom you've tried connecting with are less responsive than talking parrots, then understand that there are likely some aspects about you which cause them to feel uncomfortably envious or insecure, either that or it's one of Allah's temporary tests for you to oftentimes seem as though you don't fit in with any specific group or clique - you're that unique and eccentric, like a piece of puzzle that has been placed in the wrong box of jigsaw puzzles (possibly because you're a larger piece than the other pieces or you're made of metal or wood or contain glitter while the rest are just boring cardboard) and Inn-sha-Allah your compatible friends whose weirdness harmoniously matches your level of weirdness can be found in the afterlife.
3• The more you actually get to know some people, rather than solely relying on your own assumptions about them (some of which could be untrue), the more you tend to gravitate towards them for Allah's sake and gradually discover you're somewhat similar to each other in certain ways.
JazakAllahu Khair dear sister Jannah Umm Muhammad for the delicious dinner (especially the yummy spaghetti with minced beef) and for patiently waiting for me and sister Ramona to arrive. Alhamdulillah it was really nice talking to you again with sisters Khadija, Lhaila and Zainab. May Allah the Most Merciful always bless all your halal businesses and continuously increase the barakah in your lives. Ameen.
During the days of Tashreeq (the 11th, 12th and 13th days of Dhul-Hijjah) it is recommended to say as many times as we can the Takbeeraat:
Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar.
Laa ilaaha ilAllah.
Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar.
Wa LillaahilHamd.
