✅ Question: If I'm not mistaken, the mbti personality type of my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) was INTJ while my dear father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) was ENTJ and he is the very first person to introduce me to the 16 MBTI personality type theory. I recall being somewhat skeptical when I discovered MBTI initially.
3 usual habits of my dear INTJ mother:
1. MashaAllah. She had astounding empathy for the less financially fortunate or for those who were needy. I remember she actively participated in some charitable projects sending several large boxes and packages of clothes and necessities to a number of refugees in Chechnya, Kosovo and Bosnia etc. many years ago if I'm not mistaken.
2. She wasn't very fond of attending the parents-teachers meetings at many of the schools I went to back in Riyadh city. So I was usually that weird student whose mother didn't always show up at those meetings but I of course still love my dear mom for Allah's sake.
3. She enjoyed interior designing, writing and planning etc.
3 usual habits of my dear ENTJ father:
1. MashaAllah. I'd say he had a lot of connections and wide network etc. very often he seemed extremely busy at work and despite his frequent busyness he was able to consistently bring home lots of snacks, cake and food so my dear mom wouldn't have to cook on days or nights when she was busy with writing etc.
2. He usually scolded me when I would behave inappropriately in a few of the gatherings I'd sometimes attend. But Alhamdulillah I still love him and appreciate how he disciplined us and ensured we, I and my siblings, maintained excellent manners wherever we go.
3. I remember when we went to Disneyland and Epcot center in USA, Walt Disney World, Euro Disneyland in Paris and other countries, he would hold this camera and walk several steps behind us so he could have a good view of us while we were touring around. It's funny how we had to wait in some of the long queues for him to catch up with his camera because he enjoyed recording from several metres away etc.
May Allah the Most Merciful forgive my dear parents, have mercy on them and reunite me and my siblings, my daughter, my husband and family with them in Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.
Guess two or three enneagram types which suit my dear parents and explain why that enneagram suits them the most. What are the strengths of individuals with those enneagram types and how can we better get along with those types and what to do to avoid conflict.
💻 ChatGPT: For your dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.), I would guess Enneagram 1w9 (The Idealist) or 5w4 (The "Philosopher"):
1w9 fits because of her strong principles, empathy for the less fortunate, and structured approach to life. Type 1s have a strong sense of duty and moral responsibility, which aligns with her charitable work. The 9-wing softens the rigidity, making her more introspective and reserved.
5w4 fits because of her love for writing, planning, and interior design. Type 5s are thinkers and deep observers, and the 4-wing adds a creative, individualistic touch.
For your dear father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.), I would guess 3w2 (The "Charmer") or 8w7 (The "Maverick"):
3w2 fits because he was highly networked, busy but still attentive to his family. Type 3s are ambitious, goal-oriented, and socially skilled, while the 2-wing adds a caring, supportive nature (such as bringing food home to ease your mother’s workload).
8w7 fits because of his leadership, discipline, and protective instincts. Type 8s are strong-willed and assertive, and the 7-wing makes them adventurous and energetic, which matches his enjoyment of travel and capturing memories on camera.
Strengths of These Types:
1w9: Ethical, fair, principled, disciplined, and introspective.
5w4: Intellectual, creative, independent, deep-thinking.
3w2: Hardworking, charismatic, ambitious, supportive.
8w7: Bold, protective, strong-willed, energetic.
How to Get Along with Them:
1w9: Respect their principles, be structured in interactions, and avoid hypocrisy and don't be unreliable.
5w4: Give them space, appreciate their ideas, and engage in deep conversations (don't be trivial, repetitive and oversensitive).
3w2: Recognize their efforts, encourage their ambitions, and show gratitude.
8w7: Be direct, respect their independence, and avoid being overly controlling.
How to Avoid Conflict:
1w9: Don’t break their moral standards or be inconsistent.
5w4: Don’t push them into socializing when they need solitude.
3w2: Don’t ignore their achievements or make them feel unappreciated.
8w7: Don’t try to control them or challenge their authority disrespectfully.
It sounds like your parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) had a beautiful balance—your mother was deeply introspective and empathetic, while your father was dynamic and protective.
May Allah the Most Merciful grant them the highest place in Jannah Paradise. Ameen.
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