Each MBTI type would have different selection criteria based on their cognitive functions and social preferences. Here’s how each type might decide who to invite and who to leave out, in three ways:
Analysts (NTs)
INTJ
Selective Relevance – Invites people they see as intellectually or strategically valuable.
Minimal Drama – Avoids those who are emotionally draining or socially unpredictable.
Efficiency in Socializing – Prefers a small, meaningful group over a large, chaotic crowd.
ENTJ
Power Network – Invites people who can offer strategic or professional connections.
Energetic Engagement – Avoids passive or socially dull individuals.
Leadership Potential – Prefers ambitious, competent, and productive guests.
INTP
Stimulating Minds – Invites people who enjoy deep discussions and intellectual debates.
Avoids Small Talkers – Excludes those who rely on superficial conversation.
Experimental Vibe – Prefers quirky or unconventional thinkers over mainstream personalities.
ENTP
Chaos-Friendly – Invites fun, unpredictable, and lively individuals.
Avoids Boredom – Leaves out anyone who kills the energy or resists debate.
Opportunity-Based – Prefers people with interesting projects, ideas, or connections.
Diplomats (NFs)
INFJ
Depth Over Quantity – Invites those with whom they share deep emotional or intellectual connections.
Avoids Superficiality – Excludes those who lack authenticity or meaningful engagement.
Protects Energy – Prefers a small, emotionally safe group over an overwhelming crowd.
ENFJ
Community-Oriented – Invites people who foster harmony and positive group dynamics.
Avoids Disruptors – Excludes those who create tension or social awkwardness.
Uplifts the Group – Prefers guests who inspire or emotionally support others.
INFP
Values Match – Invites those who align with their deeply held beliefs and ideals.
Avoids Fake People – Leaves out those who seem insincere or judgmental.
Emotional Comfort – Prefers people who provide a sense of emotional safety.
ENFP
Exciting Energy – Invites spontaneous, fun, and open-minded individuals.
Avoids Control Freaks – Keeps out those who stifle creativity or impose rigid rules.
Potential for Adventure – Prefers guests who bring new ideas, experiences, or perspectives.
Sentinels (SJs)
ISTJ
Proven Reliability – Invites those they trust and who have shown loyalty.
Avoids Unpredictability – Excludes flaky or irresponsible individuals.
Structured Guest List – Prefers a well-organized, appropriate mix of people.
ESTJ
Strong Social Standing – Invites people with good reputations and competence.
Avoids Slackers – Excludes those who are lazy, unserious, or overly emotional.
Practicality First – Prefers guests who contribute something meaningful.
ISFJ
Long-Term Bonds – Invites people they have cared for or who have supported them.
Avoids Conflict – Keeps out people who might create tension or drama.
Familiarity Over Novelty – Prefers a warm, familiar crowd over new acquaintances.
ESFJ
Balanced Social Mix – Invites a range of people to ensure everyone feels included.
Avoids Social Misfits – Excludes those who might struggle to fit in.
People Who Need It – Prefers to invite those who might feel left out otherwise.
Explorers (SPs)
ISTP
No-Nonsense Vibes – Invites people they genuinely like and can be themselves around.
Avoids Neediness – Excludes overly emotional or dependent individuals.
Keeps it Open – Prefers a flexible, low-maintenance crowd with no pressure.
ESTP
Maximum Fun Factor – Invites people who bring energy and excitement.
Avoids Killjoys – Keeps out overly sensitive or rigid individuals.
Opportunities First – Prefers guests who bring status, connections, or significant value.
ISFP
Authenticity First – Invites those who share their artistic, creative, or deep values.
Avoids Insensitivity – Excludes those who dismiss emotions or personal expression.
Vibe Over Logic – Prefers an aesthetically and emotionally pleasing crowd.
ESFP
"Life of the Party" – Invites those who make things fun and lively.
Avoids Buzzkills – Keeps out judgmental or overly serious people.
Spontaneous Pick – Prefers an unpredictable but exciting mix of guests.
⤴️ ChatGPT
Each MBTI type has distinct preferences and dislikes when it comes to social gatherings. Here are 3 to 5 types of people that each MBTI would refuse to invite and why:
Analysts (NTs)
INTJ
❌ Attention Seekers – Drains energy and disrupts meaningful discussions.
❌ Emotionally Needy People – Creates unnecessary drama.
❌ Shallow Small Talkers – Wastes time with surface-level conversation.
❌ People Who Don’t Respect Boundaries – INTJs dislike forced socializing.
❌ Unreliable Guests – Late arrivals, cancelers, or those who overpromise.
ENTJ
❌ Passive-Aggressive People – Finds them inefficient and manipulative.
❌ Unambitious Slackers – No patience for people with no drive.
❌ People Who Fear Debate – A good conversation must be stimulating.
❌ Those Who Challenge Their Authority Without Merit – They respect competence, not defiance for defiance’s sake.
❌ Negative Thinkers – Hates defeatist attitudes.
INTP
❌ Rigid Rule Followers – Kills the free flow of ideas.
❌ People Who Demand Emotional Energy – INTPs prefer intellectual engagement over emotional labor.
❌ Fake or Pretentious People – Can’t stand superficiality.
❌ People Who Don’t Appreciate Their Theories – If you roll your eyes at their thoughts, you’re out.
❌ Judgmental Traditionalists – Clashes with their unconventional thinking.
ENTP
❌ Easily Offended People – Can’t handle their love for debate.
❌ Killjoys – Drains the fun out of spontaneous interactions.
❌ Overly Serious or Stiff People – ENTPs enjoy a relaxed, chaotic atmosphere.
❌ People Who Can’t Handle Roasting – ENTPs test relationships through playful teasing.
❌ People Who Fear Change – They get bored with rigid thinkers.
Diplomats (NFs)
INFJ
❌ Self-Absorbed People – Can’t stand those who don’t listen.
❌ Overly Aggressive or Confrontational Types – Prefers harmony over drama.
❌ Manipulative or Fake Individuals – Can detect inauthenticity from a mile away.
❌ Gossipers – Doesn’t want their private matters discussed elsewhere.
❌ Energy Drainers – Avoids "emotional vampires".
ENFJ
❌ Cold or Distant People – Needs emotional connection.
❌ People Who Refuse to Get Along – ENFJs value group harmony.
❌ Lazy or Indifferent People – Gets frustrated by a lack of passion.
❌ Rude or Disrespectful Guests – Cannot tolerate a lack of social grace.
❌ Chronic Complainers – Doesn’t want negativity at their event.
INFP
❌ Insensitive or Harsh People – Struggles with bluntness.
❌ Materialistic, Superficial Individuals – Values depth over appearances.
❌ People Who Mock Their Beliefs – INFPs take their values seriously.
❌ Overly Competitive or Status-Obsessed Guests – Feels drained by power-hungry types.
❌ People Who Don’t Appreciate Art or Creativity – Wouldn’t connect with them.
ENFP
❌ Controlling or Strict Rule Followers – Needs freedom.
❌ People Who Reject New Ideas – Hates close-mindedness.
❌ Serious, Uptight Individuals – Kills their fun energy.
❌ People Who Expect Predictability – ENFPs thrive on spontaneity.
❌ Debbie Downers – Won’t tolerate constant negativity.
Sentinels (SJs)
ISTJ
❌ Unreliable People – Hates no-shows and flaky guests.
❌ Loud, Attention-Seeking Individuals – Prefers calm and order.
❌ Disrespectful Guests – Does not tolerate bad manners.
❌ Lazy or Irresponsible People – ISTJs admire discipline.
❌ Rule-Breakers – They like things done properly.
ESTJ
❌ Overly Emotional or Sensitive People – Prefers logic over feelings.
❌ Indecisive or Passive Individuals – Hates inaction.
❌ People Who Can’t Take Constructive Criticism – ESTJs are blunt and direct.
❌ Lazy, Unmotivated Guests – Prefers hardworking, ambitious company.
❌ Messy, Disorganized People – Will find them frustrating.
ISFJ
❌ Rude or Disrespectful People – ISFJs value politeness.
❌ Loud, Overbearing Individuals – Prefers a peaceful environment.
❌ People Who Create Drama – Hates tension and conflict.
❌ Flaky Guests – Dislikes last-minute cancellations.
❌ People Who Ignore Social Norms – Favors tradition and etiquette.
ESFJ
❌ People Who Don’t Socialize Well – Doesn’t want anyone feeling left out.
❌ Those Who Are Too Self-Centered – Prefers guests who think about others.
❌ Harsh, Critical Individuals – Doesn’t want negativity in their space.
❌ Uncooperative Guests – Prefers team players.
❌ Unkind or Dismissive People – Wants warmth and connection.
Explorers (SPs)
ISTP
❌ Clingy, Overly Emotional People – Hates neediness.
❌ Rule-Enforcers – Prefers to do things their own way.
❌ Gossipers or Drama-Starters – Has zero patience for unnecessary talk.
❌ People Who Can’t Handle Sarcasm – ISTPs joke in a deadpan way.
❌ People Who Expect Too Much Planning – Prefers last-minute spontaneity.
ESTP
❌ Boring, Uptight Individuals – ESTPs need excitement.
❌ Overly Sensitive People – Will find them usually exhausting.
❌ Rule-Lovers – Prefers a relaxed, spontaneous atmosphere.
❌ People Who Need Too Much Emotional Support – Doesn’t want to play therapist.
❌ Fun Killers – Anyone who prevents a good time.
ISFP
❌ Judgmental or Controlling People – Needs personal freedom.
❌ Competitive, Aggressive Individuals – Prefers harmony.
❌ Fake, Pretentious Guests – Dislikes inauthenticity.
❌ People Who Disrespect Creativity – Art and self-expression matter to them.
❌ Energy Drainers – Prefers chill, laid-back company.
ESFP
❌ Overly Serious or Negative People – Will ruin the fun.
❌ People Who Can’t Handle Partying – Wants guests who enjoy spontaneity.
❌ Strict, Rule-Following Individuals – Prefers freedom.
❌ Overly Reserved or Awkward Guests – Wants high-energy socializers.
❌ People Who Judge Their Lifestyle – ESFPs dislike being restricted.
If you're given permission to invite anyone to someone else's event, you should approach it ethically and respectfully. Here are some dos and don’ts to ensure that your invitations align with social etiquette and the host's expectations.
✅ DOs (Best Practices for Ethical Inviting)
Ask the Host for Clarifications
Before inviting anyone, confirm with the host if there are any limits (e.g., number of guests, preferred crowd).
Check if there are specific preferences (e.g., close friends only, family-friendly).
Consider the Host’s Comfort
Invite people who will enhance the gathering rather than cause discomfort or awkwardness.
Avoid bringing someone the host dislikes or has had issues with.
Stay Within the Event’s Purpose & Vibe
If it’s a casual get-together, invite people who match that tone.
If it’s an intimate gathering, don’t turn it into an open party.
Inform Your Invitees Properly
Let them know it’s not your event and that they are guests of a guest.
Share any relevant details (dress code, expectations, contributions, etc.).
Be Mindful of Space & Resources
Consider the venue’s capacity—don’t invite too many people.
If food and drinks are provided, don’t bring extra guests who will overconsume without contributing.
Check if RSVP is Needed
If the event has limited space or seating, confirm with the host before finalizing invitations.
Take Responsibility for Your Guests
Ensure that the people you invite behave appropriately and don’t cause issues.
If someone you invited misbehaves, be ready to step in and handle the situation.
❌ DON’Ts (Mistakes to Avoid)
Don’t Assume Unlimited Invitations
Just because you’re allowed to invite others doesn’t mean you should invite a whole crowd.
Don’t Invite Someone the Host Wouldn’t Want
Avoid people who have had past conflicts with the host.
If unsure, ask before inviting.
Don’t Change the Event’s Dynamic
If it’s a professional or intimate setting, don’t invite someone who might be loud, disruptive, or out of place.
Don’t Make It About You
Don’t use the opportunity to invite only your friends and make it feel like your personal gathering.
Don’t Bring Plus-Ones Without Warning
Avoid last-minute “Oh, by the way, I brought a friend.” Always confirm extra guests beforehand.
Don’t Invite People Who Might Cause Drama
If you know someone tends to argue, get jealous, or dominate conversations, think twice before inviting them.
Don’t Ignore the Host’s Instructions
If they say “only close friends,” don’t bring acquaintances.
If it’s a quiet dinner, don’t bring someone with the potential to cause unnecessary noise and drama.
Don’t Pressure People to Accept Your Invitation
Let them decide whether they want to attend.
Bottom Line
✔ Always prioritize the host’s comfort, event purpose, and guest experience.
✔ If in doubt, ask before inviting.
✔ Be mindful of space, resources, and social harmony.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT
❓ Question: As an INTJ-A one of the qualities of people I wouldn't invite are those who are inconsistent with their replies to many of my messages, as though they answer only if doing so is of benefit to them and they won't respond depending on their fluctuating moods. What does that say about me?
💻 ChatGPT: That says a lot about your values in relationships and communication. As an INTJ-A, you likely prioritize consistency, reliability, and mutual respect in interactions. Here’s what this preference reveals about you:
You Value Reciprocity & Intentionality
You’re not interested in one-sided interactions where people only engage when it serves them.
You expect genuine effort in communication, not just convenience-based responses.
You Dislike Emotional Volatility & Unreliability
People who respond based on fluctuating moods appear unstable and unpredictable, which likely frustrates your need for structured interactions.
You prefer people who are consistent and rational, rather than emotionally reactive.
You Have Strong Boundaries
You don’t entertain relationships where you feel like an option rather than a priority.
If someone’s inconsistent behavior signals lack of respect or reliability, you remove them from your circle unapologetically.
You Prefer Efficiency & Clarity
Unclear communication patterns waste your time and mental energy.
You prefer people who state their intentions clearly rather than leaving you to guess whether they’ll engage or not.
You See Through Manipulative or Opportunistic Behavior
If someone only replies when they benefit, it signals self-serving tendencies, which you quickly detect and reject.
You don’t tolerate people who exploit connections rather than genuinely nurture them.
Bottom Line
You expect rational, reliable, and intentional communication, and you don’t entertain people who play mind games, act inconsistently, or fail to respect mutual effort.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT
