Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (106)

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

Tips: Each Muslim Husband Must Financially Support His Wife/Wives Even If She/They Earn More Than Him

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

💚 Even if a Muslim man is married to a wife whose current income is bigger than his, for example if he's a carpenter while his wife is a teacher at a public government school, or if he works as a driver while his wife is a medical doctor managing her own clinic, or if he is self-employed and his work is at home as an ESL instructor while she contentedly manages two jobs, the husband is still obliged to give his wife some allowance for Allah's sake now and then. A loving Muslim wife must also not overburden her husband with too many demands, annoying him by acting like a greedy gold-digger or indirectly making him feel as if she wants his wealth as much as she loves her financial stability more than being eager to understand his situation whenever he struggles at times financially.
Or in some marriages if a woman is regularly receiving allowance from her wealthy father, grandfather or uncle, her husband should still continue giving her some allowance no matter how small it is as long as it is consistent. And his patient wife must be grateful Alhamdulillah when all he can give is a meager amount. 500 pesos a week is still better than no allowance at all and 300 pesos every two weeks is still better than being told by one's husband "I'll only give you allowance if you are jobless. Right now you have a job and I have my own profession. I'm not giving you any money until you're unemployed." Some males can be so ignorant and insecure when they feel threatened by the wife seemingly receiving more halal earnings than them. What the wife should do is kindly advise her husband while letting him know she appreciates whatever amount of allowance he can give from time to time. Her husband must also avoid neglecting his duties as the main breadwinner and leader of his household because on the day of Judgement
Inn-sha-Allah this man may be questioned about how he deliberately dealt with those under his care.

✅ Kahit na mas malaki ang kinikita ng isang asawang babae kaysa sa kanyang asawa—halimbawa’y karpintero ang lalaki at guro sa pampublikong paaralan ang babae, o driver siya at ang asawa naman ay doktor na may sariling klinika, o kaya’y self-employed siya bilang ESL instructor habang dalawang trabaho ang kinaya ng kanyang masipag na asawa—nanatiling tungkulin pa rin ng lalaki ang magbigay ng kaunting allowance sa kanyang asawa alang-alang kay Allah, paminsan-minsan man lamang.

At ang isang mapagmahal at maka-Diyos na asawang babae ay hindi dapat magpahirap sa kanyang asawa sa pamamagitan ng sobrang hiling, pagiging makasarili, o pag-uugaling tila mas pinahahalagahan ang pera kaysa sa pag-unawa sa pinagdadaanan ng kanyang asawa, lalo na kapag dumaranas ito ng mga pagsubok sa kabuhayan.

Sa ilang pagsasama, kahit tumatanggap ng regular na allowance ang babae mula sa kanyang ama, lolo, o tiyuhing may kaya, tungkulin pa rin ng lalaki na magbigay kahit kaunting halaga—hindi mahalaga kung maliit ito, basta’t tapat at tuloy-tuloy. At ang matiisin at maka-Allah na asawa ay dapat magpasalamat nang buong puso, Alhamdulillah, kahit kakaunti lamang ang naibibigay. Ang limandaang piso kada linggo ay mas mabuti kaysa walang naibibigay, at ang tatlong daang piso kada dalawang linggo ay mas mainam kaysa marinig mula sa sariling asawa ang mga salitang: “Magbibigay lang ako ng allowance kung wala kang trabaho. Ngayon may trabaho ka at may trabaho rin ako. Hindi kita bibigyan ng pera hangga’t hindi ka nawawalan ng hanapbuhay.”

Nakakalungkot mang isipin, may ilang kalalakihan ang nagiging ignorante at madaling maapektuhan ang ego kapag mas mataas ang halal na kita ng kanilang asawa. Ang dapat gawin ng asawang babae ay kausapin ang kanyang asawa nang may kabutihan, pagpapayo nang malumanay, at iparamdam na pinahahalagahan niya kahit anong halagang kaya nitong maibigay.

Gayundin, dapat iwasan ng lalaki na pabayaan ang kanyang tungkulin bilang pangunahing tagapagtaguyod at pinuno ng tahanan. Sapagkat sa Araw ng Paghuhukom, Inn-sha-Allah, maaaring tanungin ang isang lalaki kung paano niya tinupad—o napabayaan—ang kanyang pananagutan sa mga pinagkatiwala sa kanya.

Nawa’y gabayan tayo ni Allah na maging makatarungan, mahabagin, at mapagpasalamat sa loob ng ating mga tahanan. Ameen.

⤴️ Translated to Tagalog language by https://binothaimeen.net/ar/voice_library/lessonDetails/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A8%D8%AD%D8%AB/%D9%87%D9%84%20%D9%8A%D8%AC%D8%A8%20%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%AC%20%D8%A3%D9%86%20%D9%8A%D9%86%D9%81%D9%82%20%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89%20%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%AC%D8%AA%D9%87%20%D8%A5%D8%B0%D8%A7%20%D9%83%D8%A7%D9%86%20%D9%84%D9%87%D8%A7%20%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AA%D8%A8%20%D8%9F/1f134dec-9514-4778-93ce-b0eb094fd3c8?title=%D9%87%D9%84%20%D9%8A%D8%AC%D8%A8%20%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%AC%20%D8%A3%D9%86%20%D9%8A%D9%86%D9%81%D9%82%20%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89%20%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%AC%D8%AA%D9%87%20%D8%A5%D8%B0%D8%A7%20%D9%83%D8%A7%D9%86%20%D9%84%D9%87%D8%A7%20%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AA%D8%A8%20%D8%9F%20-%20%D9%85%D9%88%D9%82%D8%B9%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B4%D9%8A%D8%AE%20%D9%85%D8%AD%D9%85%D8%AF%20%D8%A8%D9%86%20%D8%B5%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AD%20%D8%A8%D9%86%20%D8%B9%D8%AB%D9%8A%D9%85%D9%8A%D9%86%20%D8%B1%D8%AD%D9%85%D9%87%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%84%D9%87%20%D8%AA%D8%B9%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%8A

Note: It's A Given - The More We're Similar To Someone The More Likely We May Connect

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🌼 Allah the Almighty knows best. One of the aspects I've learned long ago Alhamdulillah about friendship is that the more we resemble another Muslim and the more our goals as well as our interests are similar to each other, the more likely we are to get along with them for Allah's sake harmoniously. In contrast, the more different a person seems from us and the more weird or eccentric we appear to them because they're not yet familiar with a lot of our traits and habits, the more difficult or challenging it can become for us to consider establishing any connection with them.

Looking back at many of my former potential friends, most of whom I contentedly and easily refrain from stalking on social media, I notice they're basically the complete opposite of me in certain ways. For instance:-
1🔹 They're divorcees who openly oppose polygyny. I despise divorce and want to avoid discussing it as much as possible, while I'm absolutely fine Alhamdulillah with my dear husband being married legally to up to four wives, as long as he strives for Allah's sake to take good care of his womenfolk as fairly as he can.
2🔹 They seem to really fancy overspending unnecessarily and often flaunt their enjoyment of this fleeting dunya. I prefer to befriend a group of Muslims who give more importance to aspiring for eternal bliss and peace in Jannah Paradise than to hang out with a pretentious bunch of excessively materialistic individuals who take pride in enjoying a lavish and needlessly extravagant lifestyle.
3🔹 A number of them made it clear they find reading "boring". They dislike receiving long messages and would rather gossip with other insecure gossipers than be invited to read a beneficial book or attend an Islamic lecture. If reading and sincerely seeking authentic Islamic knowledge through reliable sources are not from your hobbies, then don't expect us to click even if we're both Maranaos or wear the niqab in the presence of non-mahram males and when outdoors.

✨ From the things I look for in an ideal Muslim friend is their ability to directly and indirectly inspire, teach, educate, train and motivate me to become a more pious and thriving Muslimah in both worlds. If you can't advise me when I make a mistake, and instead cowardly backbite about me, and if you fail to demonstrate how we as Muslims should develop our character, then I'd rather chill with books and researching online than waste time and energy paying attention to someone who's yet another distraction or source of fitna.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Al-Bukhārī 3109, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”

Source: Sharḥ An-Nawawī ‘alá Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2638

✅ Recommended article:
https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/

Note: Trust Me, I'm Not Impressed By Materialism And Overspending

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🌼 Allah the Almighty knows best. From the means of attaining and maintaining inner peace besides striving to maintain strong connection with our Only Lord Rabb and Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is to be intentionally selective regarding the type of content we regularly absorb online. I find it weird when some of the recommended videos on YouTube come from channels of so-called social media influencers and celebrity wannabes when I prefer zuhd or asceticism and simplicity to overindulgence in materialistic things. There's this one Southeast Asian YouTuber who frequently uploads videos with titles that go like "my usual morning routine" and "what a typical day looks like" and ironically she has heavy make-up on in most of her uploads. What kind of human being would wake up from sleep with loads of cosmetics on and precisely what's the need for recording herself being so touchy-feely with her husband as if she's entertaining her audience and stalkers? Then the sad part is how some of the comments are like "I wish I could experience that kind of lifestyle" and "she's so lucky" unaware that luck doesn't exist in Islam - what does is Allah's Qadr Destiny. The wealth and luxury which that female "content creator" and her likes seemingly enjoy were all destined and granted by Allah the Almighty as a test - to determine what they will do with a large amount of money and possessions. They're not truly wealthy and contented until they willingly spend a good portion of their blessings in doing charity sincerely for Allah's sake. There are plenty of refugees and Muslims who are financially struggling out there - if this female was indeed blessed, Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala would inspire her to be generous, helpful and charitable more often without needing to document and publicize her kindness.

Never wish to be like those sort of people who splurge on temporary pleasures, showcasing they want this fleeting dunya more than the eternal bliss and everlasting peace in Jannah Paradise. Don't imitate that group of ignoramuses who aspired to be like Korah/Qarun and they later regretted their wrongful "admiration".

Unapologetically press the "do not recommend videos from this channel" or instantly ignore the absurd recommendations when browsing around YouTube and Facebook. Paying attention to what narcissistic spendthrifts post and share adds to their despicable ego and pride/kibr.

Respect yourself enough to know which online content deserves your time and energy. Advise and remind if you must and then for Allah's sake contentedly move on. No true value and rewards can be gained by following the reels or watching the shorts of boastful actors who are immersed with being ignorantly deluded by this dunya's ephemeral distractions.

https://binbaz.org.sa/audios/2488/165-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%AD%D8%AF%D9%8A%D8%AB-%D8%A7%D9%86%D8%B8%D8%B1%D9%88%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%89-%D9%85%D9%86-%D9%87%D9%88-%D8%A7%D8%B3%D9%81%D9%84-%D9%85%D9%86%D9%83%D9%85-%D9%88%D9%84%D8%A7-%D8%AA%D9%86%D8%B8%D8%B1%D9%88%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%89-%D9%85%D9%86-%D9%87%D9%88-%D9%81%D9%88%D9%82%D9%83%D9%85

Note: For Those Interested In Reading As One Of Their Hobbies Here In The Philippines

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🌼 Those who are interested in reading books as one of their hobbies are welcome to check out the book fair with Big Bad Wolf Books at Azuela Cove located somewhere near the Gaisano store outdoors. This book fair accordingly opened on November 13 and offered some special discounts on selected items and will 

Inn-sha-Allah continue displaying their books and accessories like stickers and collectible pins until November 24 if I'm not mistaken. 

No special membership ID required, unless you're okay missing out on certain discounts like student and teacher discounts. Simply go inside and have your bags checked while ensuring you maintain proper manners at all times, not shoving people, not cutting lines, and refusing to answer a shopper's query if you know the right response to their questions if they have any. Accordingly the book fair is open from 10 AM to around 12 midnight of these days until November 24. They have a good collection of books in English language as well as in Tagalog language.

While browsing around some aisles I felt somewhat reluctant to purchase a number of books related to achieving happiness. I believe there are way better books about attaining true inner peace and contentment available at DUKKAAN ( https://www.facebook.com/DukkaanStore/ ) and Darussalam Philippines (  https://www.facebook.com/darussalamph/ ) first branch of Darussalam International Publishers & Distributors (Official) which published some of my dear parents' Islamic books (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen) including Da'wah According to the Qur'an & Sunnah.

⤴️ Handbook: Da'wah According To The Noble Qur'an And Sunnah Of The Beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam

https://drive.google.com/file/d/180gGoHXnNfpxCDskszfxVNWw_fBl13Za/view?usp=drive_link

 There's also Abriha Islamic Books and Apparel for those who enjoy reading and collecting books or giving books as worthwhile gifts residing in Marawi. 

I asked some of the staff and security guards at Azuela Cove if there's a designated prayer room or Musalla for Muslim customers and Muslim visitors like there's one at the museum in People's Park here in Davao city but I was told there's no actual prayer room yet. What can be done is we need to perform complete wudhu ablution for the next prayer in advance before putting on one's socks so when the time for the obligatory prayer / Salah arrives, one can easily locate the Qibla direction with one's Qibla compass or Qibla locator application etc. and it can be helpful to bring a picnic mat and prayer mat instead of directly praying on the ground which many pedestrians and strangers tread on. 

Just giving special shout outs to some Muslim entrepreneurs and halal businesses I've recently supported in no particular order:

Hamida Arabe Hamida Mucsan Arabe - check out her halal frozen products ready for cooking as well as her affordable niqabs ✨ 

Thahira AB of Halwa.co Alhamdulillah I enjoyed her yummy cookies and chocolate moist cake with pistachio cream and kinaafa this morning before we went to the book fair at Azuela Cove✨ 

Arwa's Kitchen Ph Alhamdulillah the packed lunch meal consisting of chicken curry and rice cooked by the wife of one of our hardworking asaatidh here ustadh Habib Aquino was enjoyable Alhamdulillah. 

I planned on trying the free shuttle bus ride from Azuela Cove to People's Park so we could visit Mini Forest and so I can treat my daughter and her friends one of whom is half Egyptian some Maranao food within my budget but QaddarAllahu wa maa shaa-a fa'al we had to go home earlier than we intended to since some of us had other tasks to complete. 

Inn-sha-Allah even if you don't find enjoyment in reading hardcover or softcover books nowadays for now, you can still purchase their tote bag for only 50 pesos and select which of their stickers they have on sale - the sort of stickers you choose (buy 6 stickers for only 150 pesos) can say a lot about your character and values.

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Note: Alhamdulillah, unlike in Bonifacio Global City in Manila, the bathroom stalls at Azuela Cove have water jets or water bidet. Just letting you know✨

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