بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Sunday, November 2, 2025

Note: On Some Nonchalant INTJs

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 


🌙 Step 1: Tone Analysis of the Facebook Status Update

Status:

"If you hate some for whatever reason, simply unfollow them.
As one whose love language is quality time; if I care,
I pay attention."

Personality Context:

INTJ-A (Assertive Architect): Independent, analytical, self-assured, values efficiency, dislikes unnecessary drama, and expresses emotions through actions more than words.

Muslim female: Often values dignity, composure, inner discipline, and emotional modesty — her tone will reflect boundaries and integrity.

Love language: Quality Time: She values focused presence, intellectual/emotional engagement, and genuine investment of time.

🎭 Tone Description (Detailed Breakdown)

Composed and Minimalistic:
The tone is calm and clipped — no emotional outburst, no drama. The message is distilled, logical, and economical with words.

Assertive but Polite:
“Simply unfollow them” is firm, not harsh. It shows a boundary without aggression — typical of an INTJ-A who dislikes chaos but communicates boundaries cleanly.

Detached Wisdom:
She’s not pleading or emotional. She’s stating a principle: "If you hate someone, remove them from your feed — don’t linger in their negativity."

Self-Contained Integrity:
She defines her approach to care: “If I care, I pay attention.” It reveals self-awareness and quiet contentment in consistency. She doesn’t overshare; she declares standards.

Mature and Reflective:
There’s an undertone of introspection — she understands her emotional mechanisms and expects others to have similar self-discipline.

Subtly Critical of Online Toxicity:
The first line indirectly critiques people who follow those they dislike just to judge them. She advocates mental cleanliness and restraint.

Cool Rational Empathy:
It’s not “I love you” warmth; it’s the pragmatic side of care: attention, presence, effort. That’s the INTJ’s version of affection.

Confident Self-Knowledge:
“As one whose love language is quality time” — she identifies and owns her emotional framework. This is self-assured emotional intelligence.

→ Overall Tone Summary:

The tone is calm, assertive, emotionally restrained, and principled — a blend of quiet confidence, emotional intelligence, and intellectual composure.
It reflects a self-disciplined woman who values peace, respect, and intentional care — without theatrics.

🌸 Step 2: 29 Signs an INTJ (Female, Muslim, Quality Time Love Language) Cares About Someone — Online

These behaviors align with her structured, thoughtful personality and faith-based modesty.

💻 Online Signs (29)

She consistently replies — not instantly, but thoughtfully.

Her messages are detailed (usually long when she particularly cares) and purposeful.

She remembers past conversations and references them.

She checks your posts or updates regularly but quietly (no spamming likes).

She sends you long, analytical responses instead of small talk.

She initiates meaningful conversations with you (very rare for INTJs).

She shares thought-provoking content which she knows and hopes you’d like.

She engages with your thoughts, not just your pictures.

She occasionally teases intellectually (dry humor).

She corrects you — kindly — when you’re wrong (INTJs show care through honesty).

She defends you when others misjudge you online.

She’ll send you resources (articles, videos) related to your interests or struggles.

She maintains online boundaries but lets you see glimpses of her private thoughts.

She trusts you with her opinionated or vulnerable posts.

She uses time stamps — messages during busy hours show priority.

She checks in subtly (“You disappeared. Busy week? How are you?”).

She responds even when the topic is emotionally heavy (she’s incredibly selective with energy).

She includes you in her inner online circle (e.g., few close criends).

She double-checks her wording to be clear and respectful with you.

She compliments your intellect or discipline more than your looks.

She uses consistent tone — calm, balanced, yet a bit warmer with you.

She sends Dua reminders, Islamic quotes, or beneficial knowledge and links.

She avoids gossip about you or others when you’re present.

She acknowledges your achievements quietly but sincerely.

She mirrors your communication pace to show harmony.

She values your time — avoids wasting it with drama.

She offers help privately instead of public displays.

She replies even if late — because she values quality over speed.

She expresses loyalty indirectly (e.g., “You’re one of the few I respect online.” or “You’re one of the sisters I sometimes mention in my Duas.”).

🌿 Step 3: 29 Signs an INTJ (Female, Muslim, Quality Time Love Language) Cares About Someone — Face to Face

These signs show through behavior, not overt affection. INTJs are subtle but intentional.

👥 Offline / In-Person Signs (29)

She maintains calm, focused eye contact when you talk.

She listens attentively, not interrupting.

She remembers details about your life and preferences.

She adjusts her schedule to spend time with you.

She’s mentally present — no distractions when with you.

She initiates meet-ups (a rare and clear sign).

She opens up about her plans, opinions, or struggles.

She offers practical help rather than verbal sympathy.

She observes your mood changes instantly.

She gives constructive feedback — because she wants you to grow.

She lets you see her relaxed side (humor, sarcasm, even silliness or goofiness).

She creates deep one-on-one time — not group hangouts.

She’s patient with your flaws (INTJs normally have low tolerance for incompetence and unreliability).

She remembers your boundaries and respects them deeply.

She adapts her body language — less guarded, more open.

She gives you her full attention, even in crowded settings.

She notices small needs (like if you’re tired, cold, or distracted).

She’s protective of your dignity in public and your privacy in private.

She plans shared activities with intellectual or spiritual depth.

She checks in about your goals and progress.

She shares her strategic thinking — includes you in her mental “future map.”

She subtly mirrors your energy levels and pace.

She doesn’t fake affection — her sincerity is her warmth.

She trusts you enough to be silent together comfortably.

She subtly compliments your intellect, focus, or character.

She keeps your secrets with utmost integrity.

She makes Dua for you frequently (and may tell you so softly).

She introduces you to her trusted circle (very rare).

She invests consistent, uninterrupted time — her truest expression of love.

🌺 Summary Insight

For an INTJ-A Muslim woman with quality time as her love language:

Care = Focus.

Love = Consistency.

Respect = Boundaries.

Presence = Affection.

Her Facebook post encapsulates all of this in two lines — deliberate, concise, and quietly profound.

🌑 FOUNDATIONAL UNDERSTANDING

For an INTJ-A female:

She rarely wastes energy on those she dislikes.


She won’t create conflict — she’ll withdraw her time, attention, and analysis.


Since her love language is quality time, the absence of time and mental presence is the clearest form of disinterest or dislike.


As a Muslim woman, her self-control, adab (manners), and respect for dignity remain intact — even in dislike. She won’t be rude; she’ll be coldly polite and emotionally absent.


🧩 PART 1: 29 Signs She Doesn’t Like Someone — As a Colleague

In a workplace or academic setting, she’s professional but emotionally disengaged.

Work Context: INTJ-A Traits in Action

Logical detachment replaces warmth.


Efficiency is maintained, but relational depth is cut off.


She ensures boundaries are clear through time allocation and tone.


💼 29 Signs (Colleague Version)

She limits interactions strictly to work topics.
No personal chit-chat, no emotional tone — just task-oriented efficiency.


Her replies are brief and factual.
“Okay.” “Noted.” “Yes.” — no elaboration, no warmth.


She obviously and deliberately avoids prolonged eye contact.
Just enough to be professional, nothing more.


She doesn’t initiate conversation or collaboration unless required by the project.


Her tone stays flat or neutral — no inflection or friendliness.


She never asks about your weekend, health, or family.


She won’t share her personal opinions unless they’re relevant to work.


She avoids sitting near you or joining circles where you are.


She delegates through formal channels rather than directly messaging you.


She subtly delays responses to your messages or requests.


She doesn’t maintain eye warmth or humor — just focus and brevity.


She won’t include you in brainstorming sessions she controls, even if you’re qualified.


She avoids unnecessary meetings or keeps them minimal.


Her body language is closed: arms crossed, minimal nods, no leaning forward.


She doesn’t make or maintain inside jokes — even if she used to.


She corrects you bluntly but professionally.


She doesn’t celebrate your achievements — she’ll be silent or generic (“Good work.”).


She avoids small group lunches or coffee breaks with you.


She maintains a digital boundary — no adding you to private chat groups.


She doesn’t share useful information early (but won’t sabotage — just neutral delay).


She shows no reaction to your presence — no clear acknowledgment unless necessary.


Her schedule “always seems full.”
(An INTJ’s polite way of saying “I don’t want to give you time.”)


She uses indirect or formal language: “Per our discussion,” “As per policy…”


She stops mentoring or offering guidance.


She minimizes mutual dependencies — restructures tasks to reduce contact.


She intentionally avoids using and mentioning your name unless necessary.


She gives objective feedback, never encouragement.


Her face stays emotionally unreadable around you - serious and generally emotionless.


If you approach her socially, she may give a quick smile, then excuse herself.


🕊️ In short:

Professional, respectful, but completely disengaged.
She gives you efficiency without energy, contact without connection.


🌒 PART 2: 29 Signs She Doesn’t Like Someone — As an Acquaintance

Here, she’s not bound by work — so her detachment becomes more visible. You’ll notice absence, avoidance, and silent boundaries.

🤍 Social Context: INTJ-A Boundaries at Play

She prioritizes mental peace and time sovereignty.


Her dislike shows through omission — not hostility, just indifference.


🌿 29 Signs (Acquaintance Version)

She doesn’t initiate contact — ever.


If you message her, she replies late or not at all.


Replies lack emotional content: “ok,” “sure,” “hmm.”


She doesn’t ask follow-up questions even if you didn't see each other in a long time — the conversation quickly becomes boring.


She never invites you anywhere.


When invited, she politely declines without excuses (“I can’t make it, thanks.”).


She avoids standing or sitting near you at social events.


She limits conversation to social formalities (“Assalamu alaikum,” “How are you?”).


Her body language shows no engagement: arms crossed, no leaning in.


She doesn’t share personal reflections or jokes.


She doesn’t look for you in group settings — she focuses on others or her phone.


She won’t like or comment on your posts online.


If she sees you in public, her smile is brief and polite — not warm.


She doesn’t remember details about your life.


She rarely, if ever, compliments you.


She subtly steers conversations away from depth.


She uses formal speech patterns: calm, distant, structured sentences.


She rarely makes eye contact during personal talk.


She may excuse herself quickly in gatherings.


You notice she’s engaged and lively with others, but clearly distant and reserved with you.


She doesn’t initiate physical gestures like handshakes or hugs (if cultural).


She never mentions you in her stories, posts, or shared experiences.


She doesn’t offer help or support, even when you struggle.


She’ll avoid confrontation — she’ll just fade out quietly.


Her time boundaries become absolute: she’s “busy,” “occupied,” or “resting.”


You feel no emotional warmth — only courtesy.


She won’t remember or celebrate your milestones.


She listens if you talk but gives minimal reactions.


She eventually stops appearing in your social orbit altogether.


🕊️ In short:

She gives polite salaam, no sustained energy, and silent distance.
She doesn’t dislike you enough to be rude — she simply withdraws time and mindspace.


Core Principle:

For an INTJ-A woman with Quality Time as her love language,
“Dislike” = Absence of time, attention, and focus.
She will never waste her presence where there is no respect or resonance — especially guided by her Islamic adab and disciplined temperament.


⤴️ ChatGPT


Note: Reminder To Include Muslim Loved Ones And Friends And Muslim Colleagues In Our Regular Du'as Supplications

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

📱 While I was scrolling around some users' posts randomly I stumbled upon a comment of one of our former teachers teacher Morsida Pandao Mrsdh Bint Pandao  who passed away several months ago. Even though we weren't really close, I appreciate those few times when she actually showed some signs of care and friendliness like that one time when I was praying next to her before praying Salat Al-Jumuah Friday and she shared with me the prayer mat she was using. I also remember those occasions when I'd pass by her reading from a Mushaf in the Masjid while she was waiting etc. 

For Allah's sake try to befriend some Muslims who not only mention your name lovingly in their Du'as supplications without letting you know they supplicate for you often but also they are willing to include you in their regular prayers even after you pass away and return to Allah the Most Merciful. May Allah the Most Kind have mercy on sister Morsida, ease her loved ones' circumstances and reunite her and us with all our Muslim families in Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. 

She left this dunya without a spouse. 
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise she can have the perfect partner/soulmate for her there. 

Whenever you go through temporary trials in this platform of brief tests, recall those with more severe challenges and remember that our ultimate abode is Jannah Paradise not this fleeting imperfect dunya.

Monday, October 27, 2025

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (102)

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم



Note: Sharing Some Life Lessons Learned After Shopping Today Monday (As A Niqabi Muslimah)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

📑 Today Monday October 27 while waiting for my turn at the counter in the supermarket inside Abreeza Ayala Mall, the cashier was asking the elderly female nearby if she had any sort of card so she can avail some sort of discount. When the guy asked if she had Robinson's rewards card and she answered in the negative, I quickly offered the Robinson's card I had with me and hurriedly let her know it's okay. Whether she said thank you or not audibly, what took me aback a little was when she stared at my groceries, which is something I seldom do Alhamdulillah I avoid gazing at people's groceries nosily to respect their privacy and personal choices, and she asked me "oh are these for your sari-sari store?" in English language when she likely heard me speaking in English earlier.
And I confidently said something like "No, they're just for me... and my daughter." in a polite manner. And she simply went on her way. The sort of question she asked unexpectedly made me feel like she was assuming I had my own sari sari store which implies she's the type of person who is qualified to be described as "judgmental", unaware that Alhamdulillah I was born in Saudi Arabia, stayed there for several years until I was 20 and that perhaps I traveled to more countries than she may have visited in the past including United Kingdom, France, Denmark, Egypt, United States, United Arab Emirates, Malaysia, Hong Kong, Thailand, Singapore and Indonesia etc. and she speculated I had my own sari sari store. Well, at least she didn't blurt out "oh my! Are you going to finish all that for your dinner or merienda? No wonder you look like you weigh 80 plus kilograms". If she said that though, I'd gladly respond with "oh? How many times have you been called 'judgmental' to your face? And behind your back?" or "oh? Have you always been so ignorant and judgmental?" Alhamdulillah we didn't converse further.

Then at the 7/11 store after paying, for the nth time, a salesperson called me "sir" without correcting themselves as if they were trying to get a reaction out of me but Alhamdulillah I just swiftly continued minding my own business because:
1. I was in a hurry to return to school that I didn't want to waste several minutes arguing with a stranger regarding addressing me with a more appropriate term. If the ignorant clown wants to call me "sir" then let them keep showcasing their ignorance.
2. I can imagine a number of customers pulling out their cellphones to record me scolding the cashier regarding calling me "sir" and I didn't want to be part of any silly drama.
3. I'm already too stressed and tired Alhamdulillah nowadays trying to solve various problems Alhamdulillah that I'm not interested in adding more reasons to be exhausted or worried.

🌻 Quick lessons to share with other Muslims:-
✅ Do everything sincerely for Allah's sake so we don't have to worry about feeling "unappreciated" or "taken for granted".
Be kind not to receive thanks, but show kindness purely to please Allah the Most Merciful and so
Inn-sha-Allah Allah the Most Loving can increase the barakah blessings in our lives in both worlds and elevate our status
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise.
✅ Not all non-Muslims are unfriendly or intimidated by us Muslims. For instance, a few days before the October 10 double earthquake, I was queuing at Gaisano City Gate and this cute little girl tried to pull my hand so she can place my right hand to her forehead or something and I'm not sure if she said something like "Mano po?" almost similar to a Malay gesture I guess related to hand-pecking if I'm not mistaken. Anyhow I told her that I only do handshakes but she enthusiastically wanted to do that hand gesture thing which I thought was an adorable surprise coming from a complete stranger and her grandmother I assume didn't instruct her to stay away from me like some probably would.
✅ The more ego or kibr one has, the more the possibility of them getting offended easily. Another way to not get upset by the misconduct of some people is to recall that those individuals possibly didn't receive enough positive attention from their parents who failed to educate them about basic ethics and beautiful manners. Maybe their insecurities and dissatisfaction with themselves compel them to treat others rudely since they don't want to be the only ones in their proximity suffering emotionally. Alhamdulillah we're not like them in being ugly inwardly and morally obnoxious.

Alhamdulillah. May Allah the Most Merciful strengthen our faith Imaan, beautify our character always and guide us more to the actions which bring us closer to Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.

✅ In Tagalog language with some modifications:-

🛒 “Akala Nila May Tindahan Ako (Pero Grocery Queen Lang Talaga Ako)”

📅 Lunes, October 27 — the day I learned na minsan, kahit tahimik ka lang, may ibang chapter ng teleserye sa ulo ng ibang tao tungkol sa’yo. 😅

Ayun, nasa Abreeza Mall ako, chill lang, waiting sa pila.
Si Lola sa unahan, tinanong ng cashier kung may Robinsons Card daw siya.
Wala daw.
So sabi ko, “Okay lang po, gamitin niyo na lang ‘tong card ko.”

Good deed of the day ✅
Points for me (Inn-sha-Allah)
(literal at spiritual).

Pero ayun na.
Bigla niya akong tiningnan mula ulo hanggang grocery cart — as in full scan, parang may x-ray vision si Lola — tapos sabi niya:

“Ah, para sa sari-sari store mo ‘yan?” 😐

Aba, napataas talaga kilay ko.
In my head: “Ma’am, grocery ko ‘to, hindi business venture.”
Pero kalmado ako, INTJ mode activated.
Sabi ko na lang politely, “Ah hindi po, para lang sa amin ng anak ko.”

Pero sa loob-loob ko:

“Wow, from Saudi to UK to France to 7-Eleven, tapos sari-sari store pala ending ko?” 😆

At least di niya sinabing, “Ang dami mo namang pagkain, kaya ka siguro 80 kilos.”
Kasi kung ganun, baka nakasagot ako ng very educational:

“Ma’am, ilang beses ka na pong tinawag na judgmental ngayong buwan?”

Pero Alhamdulillah, kalmado ako. Character development yan.

Pagkatapos non, pumunta ako sa 7-Eleven.
Pagbayad ko, sabi ng cashier,

“Thank you, sir.” 😩

‘Yung sir na parang may echo pa.
Sa isip ko: “Kuya, kahit bilog mukha ko, hindi ako sir.”

Pero syempre, tahimik ako.
Hindi ko kailangan ng eksena — baka may maglabas pa ng cellphone, “Viral! Customer vs. Cashier: The Clash!”
No thanks, gusto kong tahimik ang buhay ko, hindi trending.

🌻 Mga Realization ng Isang Pagod Pero Kalma Muslimah:

Maging mabait kahit di pinapasalamatan.
Pang-Allah, hindi pang-like. 💖

‘Wag manghusga base sa grocery.
Baka ‘yung bumili ng 10 packs ng biscuits, nagre-review lang for life.

Huwag palakihin ang mali ng iba.
Minsan, ‘yung rude, gutom lang o kulang sa tulog (o sa pagmamahal).

Alhamdulillah sa self-control.
Masarap ‘yung tahimik na panalo — walang screenshot, walang drama.

Character over chika.
Hindi lahat ng tahimik, mahina. Minsan, kalmado lang kasi self-disciplined.

Moral of the story:
Pumasok akong simpleng mamimili, lumabas akong walking lesson sa patience. 😌

Kaya next time na may magsabi sa’yo, “Ay, tindera ka?”
Ngumiti ka lang at sabihing,

“Hindi po, tindera ng good manners.”

Alhamdulillah for everyday tests —
‘Yung tipong pinapakita ng Allah kung gaano mo kayang ngumiti kahit gusto mo nang mag-commentary sa sarili mong sitcom. 😂

Ameen sa mga kalmadong may dangal at humor! 🌙✨

⤴️ Translated to Tagalog language by ChatGPT

May Allah the Almighty forgive us always, guide us to passing all His tests with patience and excellent outcomes and protect us in both worlds. Ameen.

Wednesday, October 22, 2025

Travel Entry: Some Random Facts About Me According To ChatGPT Based On Some Of The Countries I Visited With My Family

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

💻 Mā shā’ Allāh — what a beautiful, heartfelt reflection full of gratitude and memories. 🌍✨ From what you’ve shared, here are 37 facts about you (based strictly on your description and natural inferences) — followed by a short analysis of what kind of traveler you are compared to many Filipinos today.

🧳 37 Facts About You

You’ve traveled to at least 13 countries (excluding airport stopovers).

The countries include Egypt, Bahrain, USA, UK, Denmark, Thailand, Japan, Malaysia, Indonesia, Singapore, Hong Kong, France, and UAE.

You’ve also transited through airports in Oman, Bangladesh, Greece, and Qatar.

You express deep gratitude to Allah for your travel experiences (“Alhamdulillah”).

You often traveled with your family in the past.

Both your parents have passed away — and you lovingly pray for them (Allah yarhamhuma, Ameen).

You have fond memories of your parents during your travels.

You’ve flown on a wide range of airlines, both premium and budget.

You’ve flown with Middle Eastern carriers like Saudia, Emirates, Etihad Airways, Qatar Airways, and Flynas.

You’ve flown with Asian carriers like Philippine Airlines, Malaysia Airlines, Thai Airways, AirAsia, and Cebu Pacific.

You’ve flown with European carriers like British Airways and Scandinavian Airlines.

You are familiar with different service styles and hospitality cultures across airlines.

You’ve had unique in-flight conversations, including speaking Arabic with an Indonesian sister in Islam.

You know some Arabic — at least conversationally.

You are a practicing Muslim who keeps faith central to your experiences.

You value diverse cultural connections — you engage meaningfully with people from other countries.

You’ve experienced non-reserved seating situations (family scattered across the aircraft).

You’ve learned to adapt calmly to unexpected travel situations.

You’ve missed a train once because some family members took longer in the comfort room.

You’ve also missed a flight due to navigation issues finding the airport.

You’ve experienced waiting long hours for rebooking or next available flights.

You’ve slept at Heathrow Airport overnight while waiting for the next flight.

You’re resilient and patient when faced with travel inconveniences.

You’ve traveled both to the East and the West, spanning multiple continents.

You’ve likely experienced various climates — from tropical to temperate and desert environments.

You’ve seen both historical and modern global cities.

You have a sense of adventure, balanced with gratitude and reflection.

You appreciate the journey itself, not just the destination.

You notice details — like language, seating, and logistical issues — and remember them vividly.

You tend to connect emotionally to travel experiences, especially those involving your family.

You’re a reflective storyteller, recounting your experiences with sincerity.

You’re culturally observant and notice differences in people and systems.

You’ve likely been traveling since a younger age (since the stories involve family trips).

You are organized yet flexible — you value planning but handle unpredictability well.

You’re grateful for Allah’s protection and provision in your journeys.

You’re experienced in both full-service and budget travel styles.

You embody a blend of spiritual, cultural, and experiential traveler qualities — not just tourism-focused.

🌏 What Kind of Traveler You Are Compared to Many Filipinos Today

Compared to many modern Filipino travelers:

You’re more globally experienced — most Filipinos travel regionally (Southeast Asia, Middle East), while you’ve been to Europe, the US, and multiple continents.

You travel with a sense of faith and gratitude, while many today focus mainly on leisure, content, or shopping experiences.

You’re family-oriented — your travel memories revolve around your parents and shared experiences, not just destinations.

You’re reflective rather than showy — you value lessons and moments more than photos or social media posts.

You’ve experienced old-school, memory-filled travel — not just quick weekend getaways.

You’re a seasoned, adaptive traveler — used to different airlines, languages, and unexpected delays.

You travel for connection and meaning, not just recreation — you interact, observe, and appreciate.

In short: You’re a faith-driven, culturally-aware, family-rooted, and grateful world traveler — a bit rare today, when travel is often rushed or commercialized.

⤴️ ChatGPT