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Note: 11 Pathetic Signs Of Males Who Are Not Real Men And Not Husband Material At All (As A Wife You're Blessed If Your Hubby Isn't Guilty Of These)

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⚠️ Ranked: Most to Least “Unmanly” (read: least respectable)

1. #10 – Quarreling with younger females like an immature bully

Bottom of the barrel. Picking on people you think can’t fight back is coward behavior. Zero leadership, zero self-control, zero protection instinct. Massive red flag.

2. #4 – Orchestrating bullying out of envy

Weaponizing others because you’re jealous is slimy. This is small, vindictive, and cruel. Nothing masculine about hiding behind others to harm someone you envy.

3. #9 – Stalking strangers who have nothing to do with you

Obsessive, purposeless, and unsettling. A man with direction doesn’t live in other people’s shadows.

4. #6 – Gossiping, believing rumors, spreading lies

Shows weak thinking, poor judgment, and no integrity. Men worth respecting verify facts and mind their business.

5. #3 – Nosy spying with no meaning in one’s own life

If you’re overly invested in other people’s lives, it’s usually because yours is clearly empty. Directionless energy is deeply unbecoming, unappealing and extremely unattractive.

6. #7 – Plotting against a woman out of extreme jealousy

Being threatened by someone else’s competence or blessed marriage —especially someone whom you could learn from—is pure insecurity. Envy that turns malicious is a character flaw.

7. #11 – Living online to provoke negativity and escape misery

Gaming itself isn’t the issue. Escaping life, farming outrage, and refusing growth is. Men who avoid reality don’t build families or futures.

8. #5 – Constantly arguing with women

If every interaction is a power struggle, the problem isn’t women—it’s your despicable ego. Calm confidence beats loud defensiveness every time.

9. #2 – Selfie addiction and obsessive self-admiration

This signals gigantic insecurity, not confidence. A little self-care is fine; needing constant validation is simply off-putting.

10. #8 – Being proud of one's height AS IF it’s an achievement

Height is genetics, not merit. Bragging about it is awfully shallow and plain cringey.

11. #1 – Wearing foundation and lip tint

This is not a moral failing. Grooming doesn’t make someone weak—being cruel, insecure, and idle does. Plenty of solid, dependable men don’t look like cavemen.

The hard truth

Masculinity isn’t about looks, hobbies, or flexing traits you didn’t earn.
It’s about:
✅ Admirable self-control
✅ True purpose
✅ Integrity
✅ Protecting rather than being problematic and obnoxious
✅ Building rather than sabotaging to confirm one's lack of peace.

Males are not real men whenever they behave in such a way that they are obviously petty, obsessed in their delusions, severely envious, and cruel.

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Poem: To Fellow Elite Muslim Wives Who Bravely Welcome Polygyny

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💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

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📜 To the elite women blessed with faith and bravery, 

Strong enough to patiently welcome polygyny:

Advice from one who's been a first wife for many years 

To fellow Muslim wives who love with sincerity -

Stay firm for Allah and beware of those who envy.

~•~

If it's known in a neighborhood or community 

That you advocate at-ta'addud so openly 

And emphasize its virtues vocally, frequently,

Then expect online and offline loads of enemies - 

Foes from those with delusions and insecurities.

~•~

Don't be surprised if some befriended you recently 

Just to unfriend or block you after several weeks, 

Since they felt offended by what you posted frankly 

On marriage and loyalty, taking both seriously,

And how most divorcees are emotionally weak.

~•~

It's not a surprise either if some are scared to greet 

You, especially if your confident energy 

And integrity clash with their misery and greed.

They envy you apparently like disturbed monkeys 

Resent contented lions and birds enjoying peace.

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They're jealous - they must admit it, at least inwardly - 

As their ugly manners and rudeness very loudly 

Expose their discontentment and intense jealousy.

Stay unaffected by them and gladly don't copy 

Their poor conduct and ignorance of polygyny.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not become frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

🇵🇭 Tagalog/Filipino language translation:-

✅💚Para sa mga elit na kababaihang pinagpala ng pananampalataya at katapangan,
Sapat ang lakas upang buong-tiyagang tanggapin ang polygyny:
Payo mula sa isang taong naging unang asawa sa loob ng maraming taon
Para sa mga kapwa asawang Muslim na umiibig nang may katapatan —
Manatiling matatag para kay Allah at mag-ingat sa mga naiinggit.

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Kung ito’y kilala sa isang kapitbahayan o komunidad
Na iyong isinusulong ang at-ta’addud nang hayagan
At binibigyang-diin ang mga kabutihan nito sa salita, nang madalas,
Kung gayon ay asahan ang maraming kaaway online at offline —
Mga kalaban mula sa mga taong may maling akala at kawalan ng kapanatagan.

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Huwag kang magulat kung may ilang nakipagkaibigan sa iyo kamakailan
Upang makipag-unfriend o mag-block sa iyo makalipas ang ilang linggo,
Dahil sila’y nakaramdam ng pagkainsulto sa iyong mga tapat na ipinost
Tungkol sa pag-aasawa at katapatan, na kapwa mo sineseryoso,
At kung paano ang karamihan sa mga diborsiyada ay emosyonal na mahina.

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Hindi rin nakapagtataka kung may ilan na natatakot bumati sa iyo,
Lalo na kung ang iyong kumpiyansang enerhiya
At integridad ay sumasalungat sa kanilang paghihirap at kasakiman.
Sila’y naiinggit sa iyo, tila gaya ng mga nababalisang unggoy
Na kinapopootan ang mga kontentong leon at mga ibong nagtatamasa ng kapayapaan.

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Sila’y nagseselos — kailangan nila itong aminin, kahit sa kalooban lamang —
Sapagkat ang kanilang pangit na asal at kabastusan ay napakalakas na
Naglalantad ng kanilang kawalan ng kasiyahan at matinding paninibugho.
Manatiling hindi naaapektuhan ng mga ito at masayang huwag tularan
Ang kanilang masamang asal at kamangmangan tungkol sa polygyny.

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📖 Isinalaysay ni Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu: sinabi ng marangal na Sugo ni Allah na si Muhammad SallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,
“Ang malakas na mananampalataya ay higit na minamahal ni Allah (ang Makapangyarihan) kaysa sa mahinang mananampalataya, subalit may kabutihan sa kanilang dalawa. Sikaping makamtan ang mga bagay na kapaki-pakinabang sa iyo, humingi ng tulong kay Allah, at huwag panghinaan ng loob. Kapag may dumating sa iyo, huwag mong sabihin: ‘Kung ginawa ko lamang ang iba.’ Sa halip ay sabihin: ‘Ipinasiya ni Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta‘aala) ang Kanyang niloob.’ Katotohanan, ang pariralang ‘kung lamang’ ay nagbubukas ng daan para sa gawain ni shaytan.”

Pinagmulan: Sahih Muslim 2664
Antas: Sahih (Tunay) ayon kay Muslim
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Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (111)

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