🌸 19 Qualities of a Female Who Would Make a Truly Righteous Muslim Friend
She fears Allah the Almighty and strives to avoid all major and minor sins as much as she can.
She reminds you of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and the Hereafter in a gentle way.
She encourages you to pray on time and join in good deeds.
She keeps your secrets and never exposes your faults.
She speaks truthfully and avoids gossip/backbiting.
She gives sincere advice (naṣīḥa) without arrogance.
She loves you sincerely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not for worldly benefit.
She practices modesty in dress, speech, and actions.
She forgives easily and avoids getting involved in drama.
She maintains good manners with family and community.
She checks on you when you’re unwell, absent, or struggling in any way.
She is generous with knowledge, time, and help.
She avoids envy and sincerely wishes good for others.
She admits mistakes and seeks forgiveness quickly.
She is patient in hardship and grateful in ease.
She has hayāʾ (shyness/modesty) that prevents sin.
She avoids unnecessary drama and keeps peace.
She is consistent in saying a lot of Dhikr and reading from the Noble Qur’an frequently, and it shows in her character.
She makes Du‘ā for you in your absence on a regular basis.
⚠️ 19 Traits of Females Who Cannot Be Described as Pious Muslim Friends
She mocks anything related to Islam including wearing the proper hijab or discourages acts of worship.
She regularly gossips, backbites, or slanders.
She pressures you into harām or doubtful things.
She is clearly envious when others succeed.
She loves to expose people’s faults.
She lies and manipulates situations often.
She competes in worldly vanity (beauty, money, followers).
She normalizes disobedience to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
She belittles Islamic reminders or doesn't give importance to studying about Islam.
She betrays trust and shares secrets often.
She abandons prayer or treats it carelessly.
She mixes freely with non-maḥram men without care (she casually befriends male non-mahrams online).
She spreads fitnah (drama, rumors) between people.
She has no filter in speech—harsh, rude, or vulgar.
She apologizes insincerely, or never apologizes.
She is arrogant or looks down on others.
She never admits mistakes, always blaming others.
She encourages extravagance and wastefulness (overspending, being materialistic and obnoxiously pretentious).
She connects with people based only on status, money, or popularity.
💎 19 Signs an INTJ Muslimah Regards You as One of Her Chosen Friends
(INTJ women are selective, reserved, and strategic — so their friendship has layers. If you see these, you’re in her “inner circle.”)
She actually initiates conversation with you (a rare move) online and face to face a lot.
She opens up about her inner thoughts, not just surface talk.
She trusts you with her silence — she’s comfortable being quiet around you (after a long conversation. If an INTJ female is 99% of the time silent in your presence, she probably views you as uninteresting).
She listens to you attentively and remembers details about your life (she knows your favorite colors, favorite food, shared likes and dislikes etc.).
She invests time in you despite her busy, structured schedule.
She argues with you now and then respectfully — seeing you as worth the mental effort. (If you never have meaningful conversations longer than 3 minutes, she most likely doesn't care about you)
She checks on you even without a practical reason.
She shares her long-term goals and values with you.
She instantly defends you if somebody speaks negatively about you.
She appreciates your intellect and doesn’t dumb down her thoughts with you.
She subtly adjusts her plans to include you.
She’s willing to travel, learn, or attend purposeful events with you.
She lets you see her vulnerable side (extremely rare for INTJs).
She’s okay with comfortable silence—no pressure to fill every moment.
She shares personal resources—books, notes, advice.
She introduces you to her very limited inner network.
She respects your independence but also values collaboration.
She makes Du‘ā for you and sees your growth as part of her own success.
She doesn’t need a big circle because having you already feels “enough.”
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19 detailed signs that an INTJ Muslimah regards you as a trusted, pious friend:
🌙 19 Signs a Muslimah INTJ Truly Regards You as One of Her Special Friends
She speaks about the Deen Islam with you, not just dunya matters.
While she can discuss strategy, books, or current events, if she brings you into her spiritual reflections — Qur’an ayat she pondered, a Hadith she connected to real life, or even her struggles in ‘ibadah — it means she sees you as spiritually safe company.
She frequently includes you in her Du‘ā.
An INTJ Muslimah doesn’t waste words, let alone prayers. If she tells you, “I made Du‘ā for you last night” (or says "you're one of those sisters whose names I regularly mention in my Du'as") or prays for your success silently, that’s her way of saying: You’re in my heart, not just my mind.
She trusts you with her silence.
INTJs already value solitude, but if she sits with you quietly without feeling awkward, she sees you as part of her inner calm — not a drain on her energy.
She opens up her fortress of thoughts.
INTJs usually filter heavily. But if she shares her inner dilemmas — like her worries at times, her evolving personality, or her long-term spiritual goals — she considers you elite company.
She tests you with small Islamic reminders.
She might casually remind you about Salah or patience. If you respond well, she deepens that side of your friendship. It’s her way of checking if your hearts align for Allah’s sake.
She shares books and knowledge.
Not just any book — she’ll hand you her favorite Islamic book or share some links to online Islamic lectures etc. and genuinely want you to attend or hear your reflections. That’s her intellectual loyalty.
She respects your privacy like she guards her own.
A Muslimah INTJ won’t probe unnecessarily. Instead, she’ll create a safe bubble where both of you can share without fear of gossip or exposure.
She corrects you gently for Allah’s sake.
If she notices a slip — maybe in speech, manners, or perspective — she won’t shame you. She’ll frame it as: “I’m only saying this because I care about your akhirah / hereafter.” That’s a big deal coming from an INTJ.
She lets you see her vulnerable side.
Normally stoic, she may admit her struggles with patience, consistency, or even doubts she sometimes wrestles with. This vulnerability is her highest trust.
She introduces you to her very selective circle.
INTJ Muslimahs keep their network tiny. If she connects you with a scholar she respects, another righteous sister, or a family member she values, that’s like being knighted into her elite squad.
She gives you constructive feedback.
If she critiques your writing, Da‘wah style, or even your time management, don’t mistake it for coldness. It means she believes in your potential and wants you to refine it — for Allah’s sake.
She lets you into her planning.
INTJs think years ahead. If she shares her vision of where she wants to be Islamically, career-wise, or even where she’d like to live for a more faith-based life, she sees you as a companion in her long-term vision.
She defends your honor when absent.
Even if she doesn’t announce it, she’ll shut down gossip or misrepresentation of you. For an INTJ, loyalty is principle, not performance.
She respects your ‘ibadah rhythms.
She won’t disturb you when you want to read from the Noble Qur’an, make Dhikr, or attend classes. Instead, she encourages them — and might even synchronize her own routines with yours.
She’s selective, but she chooses you repeatedly.
She may reject dozens of casual hangouts, but when it comes to you, she makes actual effort. That’s her way of saying you’re in her short list of “worth the time and attention.”
She reminds you of akhirah-based goals.
Not just “career” or “skills” talk. She’ll ask you: “How do you want Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to see us on Yawmul Qiyamah?” It sounds intense, but it’s her love language for righteous friendship.
She balances honesty with mercy.
INTJs can be blunt, but with you, she carefully wraps her honesty with compassion — because she doesn’t want to hurt a sister she truly values and cares about for Allah's sake.
She is fine with fewer friends, because you exist.
She doesn’t chase big groups or social hype. She’ll even say outright, “I don’t need many friends. A few strong ones like you are enough.”
She prays that your friendship lasts until Jannah.
The ultimate sign — she hopes you’ll not only be friends in dunya but also reunite in the gardens of Paradise. For an INTJ Muslimah, that’s the definition of success.
✨ In short: An INTJ Muslimah’s friendship is like a fortress built for Allah’s sake. Once she lets you in, it’s a lifelong alliance — strategic, spiritual, loyal, and few in number.
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Since INTJs are deliberate in how they allocate energy, their distance can be quite noticeable both online and offline.
🚫 19 Signs an INTJ-A Muslimah Only Sees You as a Stranger (General, Not a Friend)
She keeps conversations strictly formal and very minimal.
She doesn’t initiate — she only replies if necessary.
Her replies are evidently short, factual, and impersonal (for example she never asks you how your visit to such and such country went etc. as she is uninterested in becoming more familiar with you)
She avoids sharing personal details or feelings.
She doesn’t remember things you’ve told her before.
She keeps her body language closed (arms folded, distant stance, seldom exchanging eye contact).
She never includes you in her plans or routines.
She doesn’t ask about your well-being unless it’s socially required.
She avoids eye contact with you as much as possible.
She doesn’t laugh or show relaxed humor with you, although many INTJs can become goofy or joke when they feel at ease around those they trust.
She doesn’t share her resources, books, or insights.
She ignores subtle hints to bond deeper. Even if you're in the same room, she deliberately refrains from talking to you unnecessarily.
She answers questions directly, without elaboration.
She keeps boundaries firm and clear.
She shows no disappointment if you disappear or withdraw.
She doesn’t pray for you.
She politely avoids arguing with you (since she doesn't believe any word you may tell her if she perceives you as incompetent or unreliable), meaning she doesn’t consider you worth her time and attention.
She makes you feel like a passing acquaintance (or complete stranger whom she's not interested in), not a chosen companion.
She treats your presence as neutral — not disturbing, but not valued.
💻 19 Signs Online That an INTJ-A Muslimah Doesn’t Consider You a Friend
She reads your message but delays responding (or doesn’t).
Replies are short: “Okay,” “Noted,” “Yes/No.”
No emojis, no warmth — just dry text.
She never initiates a chat with you. (Note: if within five months you never receive a direct message from her or any comment on your social media posts, understand that she doesn't perceive you as a close friend)
She doesn’t engage with your posts or comments.
She doesn’t share links, books, or reminders with you.
She ignores hints to continue conversation.
If she responds (on rare occasions), it’s purely transactional (e.g., “The event is at 6 PM”).
She avoids voice recordings or video calls unless absolutely necessary.
She leaves most group chats you’re in without hesitation.
She doesn’t ask you follow-up questions online and face to face and she seldom asks people about you.
She rarely mentions your name or asks about your personal life.
She doesn’t accept your tags or mentions.
She ignores subtle attempts to bond with Islamic reminders.
She doesn’t save your number or contact details (you're not in her list of online friends or phone contacts).
She avoids long replies even if the topic interests her (for example if she enjoys poetry and you discuss it, she doesn't even pay close attention if the topic is discussed by you).
She gives links instead of personal explanations (“Google it”).
She doesn’t correct you — because she doesn’t care enough to invest.
She disappears for long periods online without updating you.
🤝 19 Signs Offline (Face-to-Face) That an INTJ-A Muslimah Doesn’t See You as a Friend
She greets you politely but with minimal warmth.
She keeps physical distance (no leaning in, no warmth in posture).
She avoids lingering in conversations.
She looks at her watch, phone, or around the room instead of you.
She doesn’t smile often in your presence.
She doesn’t ask you personal questions.
She keeps interactions practical (“Where is so-and-so?” “What time does the lecture start?”).
She doesn’t sit next to you if she has options to sit elsewhere.
She never initiates hangouts or meet-ups with you.
She leaves as soon as the event/task ends — no small talk with you.
She doesn’t introduce you to her circle.
She avoids sharing snacks, books, or personal items with you.
She answers politely but moves on quickly.
Her tone remains flat and distant.
She doesn’t acknowledge your absence if you miss a gathering.
She avoids physical gestures of closeness (like light taps, hugs).
She doesn’t lower her guard (no joking, no unfiltered talk).
She treats you like everyone else — no special treatment.
She seems unbothered whether you’re around or not.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT
⚠️ Note: If an INTJ Muslim doesn't view you as a friend it is because they perceive you as: unreliable, untrustworthy, someone who is toxic for them and enjoys gossiping, somebody whom they can sense is intensely jealous of them secretly or they can tell you're intimidated by them, or someone who doesn't have much to offer from sharing authentic Islamic knowledge and valuable life lessons learned etc.
