💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some lessons from a breakup with someone I once knew,
Way back in Riyadh city, when I was in high school:
Consistency in communicating is one rule
For mutual trust to build and stronger bonds are ensured.
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Forgiveness, patience and empathy are essential
For friendship to last long, low expectations as well.
What cause friends to drift apart or seem artificial
Are envy, selfish pride, excess and conflicting goals.
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Connections can't survive if one friend gets all jealous
Of the other - not being caring or supportive,
Or if both are suspicious of each other's motives
Until one goes "I'm done!" and the other "Forget it."
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Hurt ego and kibr/arrogance are obstacles
To potential fellowship becoming successful.
This puts effort, the other ignores their notes and calls
Till both part ways since they're clearly incompatible.
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In the end, if some leave, it's not our fault entirely.
Their departure marks their final role in our story,
The joys they shared, like life's pleasures, are temporary,
And they're reminders to rely on Allah Only.
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To that ex-friend and others like her: Thanks and sorry.
Thanks. You taught me there's peace in ditching toxicity.
Sorry I couldn't fulfill your wants obsessively.
No doubt, I don't need your "love". I seek Allah's Mercy.
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Though we're strangers now, yet this time with some memories,
I pray that Allah guides you, improves your well-being,
And inspires you to recognize that our enemy
Is shaytan who's pleased when Muslims show disunity.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”
Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2638
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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