๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐️ The word "doormat" also refers to an overly submissive person who allows others to treat them disrespectfully either due to lack of confidence or fear of dealing with conflict. While it's commendable to be the "bigger person" when somebody treats you rudely, constantly walking away from individuals who consistently disrespect you could imply that you're okay with being disrespected as though you're devoid of self-respect.
✅ When should you talk back for Allah's sake and defend yourself, instead of staying quiet to be the "bigger person", if somebody is being obviously disrespectful towards you:
1] If you know that responding with a clever comeback would please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala much more than if you didn't say anything. If you believe that verbal retaliation is more effective in strengthening your level of faith/Imaan than giving the silent treatment.
2] If you're being falsely accused of a wrongdoing which you don't do and the spectators who are listening happen to be your loved ones.
3] If you believe that the person who insulted you has the ability or willingness to rectify what they said, and your intention of answering back is not to embarrass them but to correct their misconception about you and to improve your connection.
4] If staying quiet when somebody belittles or mocks you leads to more negative outcomes than merits.
5] If the person has been purposely rude towards you more than three times and it's obvious that they treat others with better manners than with you. Confront them about their immature acts and inform them that if they can't display decent behavior when you're around, they must at least respect your decision to distance yourself from them.
❎ When is it wiser to ignore critics and reject invitations to pointless arguments:
1] Remain quiet and patiently ignore the person's rudeness if that's the very first time you've seen them behaving impolitely. Maybe they're struggling with some difficult circumstances or they are unaware that they acted inconsiderately.
2] If you're in a hurry to complete an important task and reacting to the offender's criticism or misbehavior is clearly time-consuming, simply gift them with your indifference or pity their bad upbringing.
3] If responding with a clever comeback or behaving rudely in return for their rudeness is precisely what the offensive individual wants. Don't give anybody who dislikes you the satisfaction of seeing you feel distressed or worried. Instead, do what you can for Allah's sake to avoid needless interactions with toxic people and let your avoidance enhance your capability of avoiding the actions which Allah the Most Wise and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam warned against.
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๐ Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318
Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever among you sees evil, let him change it with his hand (by stopping it physically). If he is unable to do so, then with his tongue (verbally, by warning or speaking against that wrongdoing). If he is unable to do so, then with his heart (by at least hating the sin instead of admiring the wrongdoers), and that is the weakest level of faith."
Source: Sahih Muslim 49
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
๐ Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and purposely committing oppression / injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil.
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
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