๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Question: What advice do you have on dealing with individuals who pretend to like you but in reality they don't or you can sense that they jealously gossip about you when you're not around?
๐ Answer: 1] Similarly treat them with general politeness and maintain good manners as much as possible. Do not allow someone's envy, misery or insecurities to take control of your character.
2] Understand the probable causes of their bitterness. Whether they dislike you because you remind them of their unhappiness or they're indisputably envious, be grateful Alhamdulillah that you're not the one suffering inwardly with all the negative energy of enviously despising other Muslims.
3] If you know or discovered that a person actually dislikes you for whatever reason, you don't need to oblige yourself to modify their overall perception of you. We can't force any human being to befriend us just as they shouldn't compel us to fancy something or somebody we don't regard as interesting. Never bother stalking their social media posts and stop paying attention to any of their uploads to preserve your inner peace.
4] Find comfort in knowing that Allah's Prophets 'alaihim as-salaam, including the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam who is the best of all humankind, also encountered some untruthful critics, hypocrites and enemies during their lifetime. Striving to be close to Allah the Almighty won't guarantee that you'll be loved by every single soul you meet. Expect enmity and disrespect from individuals who disagree with what you value.
5] Instead of constantly worrying about why you're despised by some people, remain contented with Allah's Love and appreciate the special few in your circle who already care about you for Allah's sake, such as your parents, your spouse and a good number of your relatives who are tolerant of your dissimilarities.
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๐ Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
๐ Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318
Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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