✅ To Muslim husbands and wives who married sincerely
To please Allah the Almighty, some advice from me -
A wife, who married my male cousin at age twenty
After rejecting other proposals previously -
From one who's been a wife for about seventeen years
And who's one of the few who welcome polygyny,
My advice: Stay firm. Strengthen your 'Aqeedah / belief.
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Keep learning about Islam. Steadfastly persevere.
Study more about our Deen with your spouse frequently.
If your spouse is often busy, then consistently
Pray to Allah to guide them more, and regularly
Share links to Islamic lectures, writings they can read,
And inspire them to learn more even indirectly.
As your knowledge grows, your faith Imaan levels increase.
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As the faith Imaan in your heart grows, you can succeed,
With Allah's Will, you can succeed very easily
In managing the various emotions you may feel -
Anger won't control you when your spouse is in fury,
Sorrow's visits would be brief, jealousy won't come near,
Your contentment won't be spoiled by insecurities,
You become stable when your faith level isn't weak.
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Increase your trust in Allah and say Adhkaar daily,
More Dhikr with Du'a means enhanced tranquility,
And effective shield against black magic / sorcery,
And evil eyes from those guilty of intense envy.
Protect your marriage for Allah. Take it seriously.
Agreements with Allah must not be taken lightly.
Allah loves the patient. shaytan likes disunity.
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shaytan is delighted by disputes, disharmony,
And marital discord when drama starts due to greed,
Acting selfishly, proud, impatient or too needy,
When one spouse asks the other "do you really love me"
As if they haven't accepted Allah's Destiny.
Stay married for Allah. Accept what Allah decreed.
Believe that your spouse was chosen to suit your journey.
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A marriage which appears to strangers as "unhappy"
But with love purely designed to please Allah Only
Is much better than the failures of most divorcees,
Is more decent than seeing sad broken families
With children who are confused by love that's incomplete,
Or kids who feel like cargos as they recurrently
Spend time with their separated parents tirelessly.
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Though divorce is lawful, it's the awful choice to me -
I hate it more than how most wives hate polygyny.
If I were to be divorced, I'd rather remarry
The same first husband whom Allah wisely chose for me,
To show that loyalty meant to serve Allah Only
Can be so much stronger than shaytan's desire to see
The Muslim Ummah suffer as divorce rates increase.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (righteous Muslimah) woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
๐ Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise (Jannah) becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
๐ Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
๐ป Some advice on how divorce is not always the best solution,
PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya:
๐ Text:
๐ต๐ญ Tagalog Filipino translation of the above summarized reminders by dear sister Fatima Sherl bint Ismun:
๐️✨ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya
Inn-sha-Allah which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from
Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:
