๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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๐️ Eleven signs that indicate your co-wife feels really envious of you:
1] She frequently mentions the husband whom you both love for Allah's sake as "my husband" ("zawjee") instead of "our husband" ("zawjunaa").
2] You can sense that she doesn't like it when her child/children would mingle with your child/children.
3] You've noticed her scowling or spitefully rolling her eyes numerous times before and/or after having a conversation with her.
4] She regularly excludes you from the gatherings and events which she organizes. Inviting you to join her for shopping or outings is something she seldom does.
5] She can be obnoxiously passive-aggressive. If she agreed to do a task which you politely requested her to do, most of the time she doesn't fulfill her promise or she does it improperly on purpose.
6] Whenever you share some good news with her, she flagrantly frowns, acts unimpressed or conveys certain info to imply she's still a lot better than you.
7] If you manage a halal business, online and offline she seems enthusiastically supportive of other females who run the same kind of businesses as yours while she is unwilling to show you any support.
8] Due to her intense feelings of jealousy, she is unable to laugh at your jokes yet she readily giggles when you make a mistake.
9] You can feel her overly competitive vibes, and her competitiveness is more emotionally draining than inspiring. For instance, if she discovered that you and your husband went to a particular place, instantly she'd insist on going there too even though it's not something she'd typically enjoy.
10] You're not "Facebook friends" yet she probably manages another account which she uses for stalking your status updates and scrutinizing your moves on social media, or she has you on her list of "Facebook friends" but she is rarely responsive to your posts.
11] Oftentimes she "clumsily" elbows you or shoves you when walking by without apologizing, treating you rudely often to relieve aggravating feelings of jealousy.
๐ข How to deal with a jealous co-wife:
A] Try to do what you can to befriend her for Allah's sake by gradually being nicer to her and letting her know that you're not a threat to this marriage. Aspire to help one another become better Muslims together with the husband whom you both love for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Remind each other that your actual enemy is shaytan who likely rejoices whenever the love in Muslim families is disrupted.
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B] Cleverly keep your distance while maintaining basic courtesy, to protect yourself from her negative traits, yet be willing to develop your sisterhood in Islam if it is clear that she has decided to quit feeling insecure around you.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
๐ Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
