Note: Some Notes On The Loyalty Of Most INTJ Wives In Marriage (ChatGPT)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

1. Tone Evaluation (INTJ-A Wife Perspective)

The tone of the quote is:

Strategic and protective – It frames marriage as something to be actively defended, not passively maintained.

Rational rather than sentimental – Love is expressed through commitment, forgiveness, and loyalty, not emotional dramatics.

Morally grounded – It anchors behavior in Islamic theology (shayṭān our actual enemy as an undeniable divider).

Assertive and decisive – “Stay married” is a directive, not a suggestion.

Psychologically insightful – It externalizes conflict (shayṭān) rather than demonizing the spouse.

Long-term oriented – The message prioritizes endurance over short-term emotional gratification.

Boundary-reinforcing – Loyalty and forgiveness are framed as intentional choices.

Quietly stubborn in a good way and steadfastly defiant – Loyalty is portrayed as resistance against destructive forces.

Emotionally disciplined – The tone discourages impulsive reactions.

Protective of unity – The marriage is treated as a single system.

Faith-aligned pragmatism – Spiritual beliefs are used to guide practical behavior.

This tone strongly aligns with an INTJ-A: strategic, principled, self-directed, and resistant to emotional chaos.

2. Her 11 Most Positive Qualities

Principled – Acts according to deeply held values

Mentally resilient – Not easily shaken by conflict

Loyal by conviction – Loyalty is chosen, not circumstantial

Spiritually conscious – Frames life through Islamic understanding

Forgiving – Willing to repair the special connection with her dear husband rather than instantly abandon

Emotionally mature – Separates feelings from decisions

Protective – Guards her marriage intentionally and fiercely

Disciplined – Controls impulses and reactions

Strategic thinker – Always anticipates long-term outcomes

Humble before faith – Submits ego to divine guidance

Steadfast – Consistent in belief and action

3. 11 Strengths She Has as a Loyal Wife

Commitment under pressure

Conflict reframing (problem vs. person)

Resistance to external influence

Clear marital boundaries

Strong moral compass

Patience during trials

Emotional self-regulation

Faith-driven decision-making

Trustworthiness

Long-term vision for marriage

Protective leadership within the relationship

4. 11 Examples of How She Stays Loyal

Online vs. Offline (as a Muslimah)

Online Loyalty

Avoids private chats with non-mahram men

Does not vent marital issues publicly

Refrains from flirtatious comments or likes

Protects her husband’s reputation online

Filters content which clearly and subtly disrespects marriage while gladly never following the posts of users who oppose polygyny or advocate despicable divorce

Does not compare her husband to others

Avoids emotional intimacy through DMs with anybody besides her dear husband

Upholds modesty in photos and posts

Blocks or disengages from inappropriate attention

Represents her marriage with dignity

Shares reminders that honor commitment and faith

Offline Loyalty

Speaks respectfully about her husband

Resolves conflict privately

Guards her gaze and interactions

Avoids environments that invite temptation

Chooses forgiveness over resentment

Makes duʿāʾ for her husband

Defends her marriage from gossip

Prioritizes home stability

Seeks reconciliation before escalation

Honors marital roles responsibly

Practices sabr (patience) during hardship

5. 11 Reasons Why the Quote Makes Perfect Sense

Islam teaches that shayṭān seeks to divide spouses

Forgiveness weakens cycles of resentment

Loyalty builds long-term emotional safety

Externalizing conflict prevents spouse-blaming

Marriage requires conscious maintenance

Emotional impulses often sabotage unity

Shayṭān thrives on pride and grudges

Staying married is an act of spiritual resistance

Faith-based framing strengthens resilience

Unity protects family and children

Commitment is an intentional, daily choice

Final Insight

This quote reflects quiet strength, strategic faith, and intentional loyalty.
It is not naïve optimism—it is disciplined realism rooted in belief, characteristic of an INTJ-A Muslim wife who understands that marriage is both a spiritual battleground and a sacred trust.

⤴️ ChatGPT

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (108)

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (107)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

Note: You're Welcome To Donate To Wisdom Islamic School K-12 Davao Philippines

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Note: Stay Truthful And Reliable Even When Dealing With Non-Muslims (Sharing A Lesson Learned)

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📝 Although this may be completely irrelevant and unrelatable to some readers, I thought I'd share some quick reminders and a lesson I've learned today Thursday Alhamdulillah. After I completed processing some documents at a barangay office Alhamdulillah I quickly asked some drivers if they could send me to Wisdom Islamic School Abinsay Street Dumanlas and one of them told me he doesn't go to that route while another seemed a bit reluctant because he was probably unwilling to give a ride to just one passenger. His vehicle is one of those motorcab (?) vehicles here in the Philippines which usually require at least 5 passengers to transport to their destinations and each passenger would normally pay 10 pesos only or 15 pesos depending on the distance of where they're heading to. Anyhow I offered 30 or 50 pesos and even though he agreed with 30 pesos I still felt guilty of possibly giving him less than what he deserves because he'd be utilizing much of his petrol for transporting just one passenger. After I went inside the vehicle and I insisted on paying him 50 pesos, I realized there was an elderly guy driving a yellow pedicab going to Agdao and Dumanlas areas who was patiently waiting for some passengers just a few steps away from the buildings I went out of. If I went with him, I could've saved more money by paying only 10 or 20 pesos. However I was already inside the vehicle with this driver whom I promised to pay 50 pesos if he sends only me to Wisdom Islamic School. I could've called out to the elderly driver and said something like "ayoo! Excuse me! Pwede mag sakai ako? Wisdom Islamic School Buhangin? Abinsay Street?" Then hurriedly tell the first driver "sorry, mag transfer ako djan sa pedicab kasi kailangan ko mag save. Sayang yung 50 pesos. Pasensya na lang ha? Lahat tayo mai stress. Laban tayo lahat" etc. (sorry I'm not yet fluent in Tagalog or Visayan dialect) but Alhamdulillah I decided to stay quiet and proceeded with my agreement. I didn't want this driver to assume that all niqabi Muslimahs are liars or scammers. It wouldn't be helpful to the Muslim Ummah (nation) if he starts gossiping about how he felt disappointed he thought he'd receive 50 pesos only for that opportunity to disappear in a flash or blink. Anyhow Alhamdulillah when we arrived near the school, another neighbor immediately went with that vehicle I took which means that this vehicle was really destined to reach that area to pick up that next passenger I guess.

✅ Lesson learned to share:
Always check and look around your surroundings carefully and thoroughly when searching for convenient means of transportation rather than rushing to select the available vehicles nearest to you. Sometimes we need to put extra effort and push ourselves further to attain better deals and more satisfactory outcomes instead of constantly choosing what evidently appears to be the fastest option.

May Allah the Most Merciful guide that driver and the other elderly driver with the yellow pedicab to the truth Islam and also guide their families to understanding Islam and embracing the correct 'Aqeedah belief at the most ideal timing. Ameen.

🌻 Tagalog translation since this Maranao is not yet fluent in Tagalog:-

📝 Bagama’t maaaring hindi ito ganap na kaugnay o kapaki-pakinabang sa ilang mambabasa, naisip kong ibahagi ang ilang mabilis na paalala at ang aral na natutunan ko ngayong Huwebes, Alhamdulillah.

Pagkatapos kong matapos ang pagproseso ng ilang dokumento sa barangay office, Alhamdulillah, mabilis akong nagtanong sa ilang mga driver kung maaari nila akong ihatid sa Wisdom Islamic School, Abinsay Street, Dumanlas. Sinabi ng isa na hindi siya dumadaan sa rutang iyon, habang ang isa naman ay tila nag-aalinlangan marahil dahil ayaw niyang bumiyahe para sa iisang pasahero lamang. Ang sasakyan niya ay isa sa mga motorcab dito sa Pilipinas na karaniwang nangangailangan ng hindi bababa sa limang pasahero upang bumiyahe, at ang bawat isa ay karaniwang nagbabayad ng 10 pesos, o 15 pesos depende sa layo ng pupuntahan.

Sa kabila niyan, nag-alok ako ng 30 o 50 pesos, at kahit pumayag siya sa 30 pesos, nakaramdam pa rin ako ng pagka-guilty na baka mas mababa iyon kaysa nararapat, dahil gagamit siya ng gasolina para maghatid ng iisang pasahero lamang. Pagkatapos kong sumakay, ipinilit kong bayaran siya ng 50 pesos. Noon ko napansin na may isang matandang lalaki na nag-mamaneho ng dilaw na pedicab papunta sa Agdao at Dumanlas na matiyagang naghihintay ng pasahero ilang hakbang lang mula sa gusaling pinanggalingan ko. Kung sa kaniya ako sumakay, mas nakatipid sana ako at nagbayad ng 10 o 20 pesos lamang.

Gayunman, nasa loob na ako ng sasakyan ng driver na pinangakuan kong babayaran ng 50 pesos kung ihahatid niya ako nang mag-isa sa Wisdom Islamic School. Pwede ko sanang tawagin ang matandang driver at sabihin, “Ayoo! Excuse me! Pwede bang sumakay ako? Wisdom Islamic School Buhangin? Abinsay Street?” tapos sasabihin sa naunang driver, “Sorry po, mag-transfer ako dun sa pedicab kasi kailangan ko mag-save. Sayang ang 50 pesos. Pasensya na po ha? Lahat tayo nai-stress. Laban lang tayo.” (Pasensya na, hindi pa ako ganap na bihasa sa Tagalog o Visayan dialect.) Ngunit Alhamdulillah, pinili kong manahimik at tupdin ang aming napagkasunduan.

Ayokong isipin ng driver na ang lahat ng niqabi Muslimahs ay sinungaling o manloloko. Hindi ito makakatulong sa Muslim Ummah kung magsisimula siyang magkuwento na nadismaya siya dahil inasahan niyang makakakuha ng 50 pesos at biglang nawala ang pagkakataon na iyon.

Alhamdulillah, nang makarating kami malapit sa school, may isa pang kapitbahay na agad na sumakay sa sasakyang sinakyan ko, na tila nagpapakita na nakatakda talagang makarating ang sasakyang iyon sa lugar na iyon para isunod na pasahero.

✅ Aral na Nais Ibahagi:

Laging suriin at tingnang mabuti ang iyong paligid kapag naghahanap ng pinaka-maginhawang paraan ng transportasyon, sa halip na agad piliin ang pinakamalapit na opsyon. Minsan kailangan nating maglaan ng dagdag na pagsisikap upang makakuha ng mas magandang deal at mas kasiya-siyang resulta, imbes na palagi na lang piliin ang mukhang pinakamabilis na opsyon sa unang tingin.

~•~
✨Bismillah —
Ngayong araw ay puno ng aral, mga byahe, at hindi inaasahang cardio para sa aking pasensya.

Tinapos ko ang aking mga dokumento na parang isang kampeón — kung ang paggawa ng papeles ay isang olimpikong isport, magalang kong tatanggapin ang gintong medalya at sasabihin ang “Alhamdulillah” nang dalawang beses.

Lumabas ako, handang tuparin ang simpleng gawain na makakuha ng sakay.
Hindi ko inakala — magiging… isang negosasyong karapat-dapat sa isang eksperto sa pamilihan noong ika-1400s.

Sinabi ng Driver #1, “Hindi ang ruta ko,” na may seryosong tono na para bang ang sasakyan niya ay naglalakbay lamang papunta at pabalik mula sa Narnia.

Ang Driver #2 ay mukhang magalang na nag-aalinlangan — marahil nag-iisip kung praktikal ba o makabuluhan ang paghatid ng isang pasahero lamang.
Kaya nag-alok ako ng 30 pesos.
Pumayag siya.
Sabi ng pitaka ko, “Interesante.”
Sabi ng utak ko, “Sigurado ba tayo?”
Nasabi na ng bibig ko ang “Salamat,” kaya huli na.

Umakyat ako at umupo — may kumpiyansa — hanggang mapansin ko ang isang matandang nagmamaneho ng pedicab sa malapit.
Hindi ko alam bakit, ngunit may dala siya na kalmadong aura na para bang nakita na niya ang mga bagyo, ulan, mga huling pasahero, at patuloy pa rin na nagsasabing “Alhamdulillah.”

Sa sandaling iyon napagtanto ko — may Opsyon B.
Mas mura ang Opsyon B.
Ang Opsyon B ay pedicab na pinapagana ng paa at may dagdag na sariwang hangin.

Ngunit nanatili akong tapat sa unang napagkasunduan.
Sapagkat minsan mas mahalaga ang katapatan kaysa 30 pesos.
At dahil ang pag-atras, paglipat ng sasakyan, pagkalkula, pagsasalin ng salita, at pagpapaliwanag ay mangangailangan ng enerhiya, wastong gramatika, at kumpiyansa — tatlong bagay na hindi madaling makuha sa sandaling iyon.

Nang dumating kami, agad na sumakay ang isa pang pasahero — timing na napakaprecise na maipagmamalaki pa ng isang koponang synchronized swimming. (Qadr ng Allah)

Naisip ko, “Alhamdulillah, marahil ito ay nakasulat (ni Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta‘ala).”
At marahil ang pinakamalaking pagsubok ko ngayong araw ay hindi ang transportasyon — kundi kung paano pigilin ang panloob kong accountant.

📝 Halal na Aral sa Buhay

Bago pumili ng sasakyan, magmasid nang matiisin, mag-isip nang maigi, at huwag magmadali.
Sapagkat ang pagmamadali ay maaaring magastos — at ang pagtitiyaga ay makakatipid ng mga piso at ng iyong mental na kapasidad.
~•~
Today Alhamdulillah was a day of lessons, transportation, and unexpected cardio for my mental patience.

I finished my documents like a champion — if paperwork were an Olympic sport, I would respectfully accept the gold medal and say Alhamdulillah twice.

I walked out, prepared to accomplish the simple task of getting a ride.
Little did I know — it was going to become… a negotiation worthy of a marketplace expert from the 1400s.

Driver #1 said, “Not my route,” with a seriousness that suggested his vehicle only travels to Narnia and back.

Driver #2 looked politely hesitant — perhaps wondering if transporting one passenger was fuel-efficient or life-changing.
So I offered 30 pesos.
He accepted.
My wallet said, “Interesting.”
My brain said, “Are we sure?”
My mouth had already said, “Thank you,” so it was too late.

I sat inside — confident — until I noticed the elderly pedicab driver nearby.
I don’t know why, but he had the calm energy of someone who has seen storms, typhoons, late passengers, and still says Alhamdulillah.

At this moment I realized — Option B existed.
Option B was cheaper.
Option B had leg-powered transportation with bonus fresh air circulation.

But I stayed committed to my original agreement.
Because sometimes loyalty is more valuable than 30 pesos.
And also because yelling, switching, calculating, translating, and explaining would have required energy, grammar, and confidence — three things that were not easily available.

When we arrived, another passenger hopped in smoothly — timing so perfect that even a synchronized swimming team would be impressed. (Allah's Qadr)

I thought, Alhamdulillah, maybe this was written (by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).
And maybe my biggest test today wasn’t transportation —
It was controlling my inner accountant.

📝 Halal Life Lesson

Before choosing transport, observe patiently, think carefully, and take your time.
Because rushing can cost money —
and patience can save both pesos and mental bandwidth.

⤴️ Different version from ChatGPT

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (106)

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Tips: Each Muslim Husband Must Financially Support His Wife/Wives Even If She/They Earn More Than Him

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💚 Even if a Muslim man is married to a wife whose current income is bigger than his, for example if he's a carpenter while his wife is a teacher at a public government school, or if he works as a driver while his wife is a medical doctor managing her own clinic, or if he is self-employed and his work is at home as an ESL instructor while she contentedly manages two jobs, the husband is still obliged to give his wife some allowance for Allah's sake now and then. A loving Muslim wife must also not overburden her husband with too many demands, annoying him by acting like a greedy gold-digger or indirectly making him feel as if she wants his wealth as much as she loves her financial stability more than being eager to understand his situation whenever he struggles at times financially.
Or in some marriages if a woman is regularly receiving allowance from her wealthy father, grandfather or uncle, her husband should still continue giving her some allowance no matter how small it is as long as it is consistent. And his patient wife must be grateful Alhamdulillah when all he can give is a meager amount. 500 pesos a week is still better than no allowance at all and 300 pesos every two weeks is still better than being told by one's husband "I'll only give you allowance if you are jobless. Right now you have a job and I have my own profession. I'm not giving you any money until you're unemployed." Some males can be so ignorant and insecure when they feel threatened by the wife seemingly receiving more halal earnings than them. What the wife should do is kindly advise her husband while letting him know she appreciates whatever amount of allowance he can give from time to time. Her husband must also avoid neglecting his duties as the main breadwinner and leader of his household because on the day of Judgement
Inn-sha-Allah this man may be questioned about how he deliberately dealt with those under his care.

✅ Kahit na mas malaki ang kinikita ng isang asawang babae kaysa sa kanyang asawa—halimbawa’y karpintero ang lalaki at guro sa pampublikong paaralan ang babae, o driver siya at ang asawa naman ay doktor na may sariling klinika, o kaya’y self-employed siya bilang ESL instructor habang dalawang trabaho ang kinaya ng kanyang masipag na asawa—nanatiling tungkulin pa rin ng lalaki ang magbigay ng kaunting allowance sa kanyang asawa alang-alang kay Allah, paminsan-minsan man lamang.

At ang isang mapagmahal at maka-Diyos na asawang babae ay hindi dapat magpahirap sa kanyang asawa sa pamamagitan ng sobrang hiling, pagiging makasarili, o pag-uugaling tila mas pinahahalagahan ang pera kaysa sa pag-unawa sa pinagdadaanan ng kanyang asawa, lalo na kapag dumaranas ito ng mga pagsubok sa kabuhayan.

Sa ilang pagsasama, kahit tumatanggap ng regular na allowance ang babae mula sa kanyang ama, lolo, o tiyuhing may kaya, tungkulin pa rin ng lalaki na magbigay kahit kaunting halaga—hindi mahalaga kung maliit ito, basta’t tapat at tuloy-tuloy. At ang matiisin at maka-Allah na asawa ay dapat magpasalamat nang buong puso, Alhamdulillah, kahit kakaunti lamang ang naibibigay. Ang limandaang piso kada linggo ay mas mabuti kaysa walang naibibigay, at ang tatlong daang piso kada dalawang linggo ay mas mainam kaysa marinig mula sa sariling asawa ang mga salitang: “Magbibigay lang ako ng allowance kung wala kang trabaho. Ngayon may trabaho ka at may trabaho rin ako. Hindi kita bibigyan ng pera hangga’t hindi ka nawawalan ng hanapbuhay.”

Nakakalungkot mang isipin, may ilang kalalakihan ang nagiging ignorante at madaling maapektuhan ang ego kapag mas mataas ang halal na kita ng kanilang asawa. Ang dapat gawin ng asawang babae ay kausapin ang kanyang asawa nang may kabutihan, pagpapayo nang malumanay, at iparamdam na pinahahalagahan niya kahit anong halagang kaya nitong maibigay.

Gayundin, dapat iwasan ng lalaki na pabayaan ang kanyang tungkulin bilang pangunahing tagapagtaguyod at pinuno ng tahanan. Sapagkat sa Araw ng Paghuhukom, Inn-sha-Allah, maaaring tanungin ang isang lalaki kung paano niya tinupad—o napabayaan—ang kanyang pananagutan sa mga pinagkatiwala sa kanya.

Nawa’y gabayan tayo ni Allah na maging makatarungan, mahabagin, at mapagpasalamat sa loob ng ating mga tahanan. Ameen.

⤴️ Translated to Tagalog language by https://binothaimeen.net/ar/voice_library/lessonDetails/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A8%D8%AD%D8%AB/%D9%87%D9%84%20%D9%8A%D8%AC%D8%A8%20%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%AC%20%D8%A3%D9%86%20%D9%8A%D9%86%D9%81%D9%82%20%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89%20%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%AC%D8%AA%D9%87%20%D8%A5%D8%B0%D8%A7%20%D9%83%D8%A7%D9%86%20%D9%84%D9%87%D8%A7%20%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AA%D8%A8%20%D8%9F/1f134dec-9514-4778-93ce-b0eb094fd3c8?title=%D9%87%D9%84%20%D9%8A%D8%AC%D8%A8%20%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%AC%20%D8%A3%D9%86%20%D9%8A%D9%86%D9%81%D9%82%20%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89%20%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%AC%D8%AA%D9%87%20%D8%A5%D8%B0%D8%A7%20%D9%83%D8%A7%D9%86%20%D9%84%D9%87%D8%A7%20%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AA%D8%A8%20%D8%9F%20-%20%D9%85%D9%88%D9%82%D8%B9%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B4%D9%8A%D8%AE%20%D9%85%D8%AD%D9%85%D8%AF%20%D8%A8%D9%86%20%D8%B5%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AD%20%D8%A8%D9%86%20%D8%B9%D8%AB%D9%8A%D9%85%D9%8A%D9%86%20%D8%B1%D8%AD%D9%85%D9%87%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%84%D9%87%20%D8%AA%D8%B9%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%8A