Note: From Integrity Is To Avoid Backbiting Whether You're Friends Or Strangers

Let’s unpack your quote carefully first, then expand into examples, qualities, and tone analysis — all with attention to the INTJ female author’s mindset and communication style.

The Quote

“Integrity is not backbiting about those we are no longer friends with, and if we quit a job, we don’t try to cause further damage.”

Tone Description

The tone of this quote is:

Principled and composed – It values moral discipline and restraint.

Stoic and detached – There’s emotional control, not bitterness.

Assertive but ethical – It sets boundaries firmly without hostility.

Reflective and moralistic – It appeals to conscience and self-governance.

INTJ-specific tone traits: Logical ethics, quiet authority, and independence of thought — more focused on doing what’s right than what’s popular.

Core Message

The message emphasizes emotional maturity and self-discipline in endings — whether friendships or professional relationships.
It calls for graceful closure, not revenge or gossip.
It’s about walking away clean, keeping one’s integrity intact, and refusing to destroy what’s in the past.

17 Examples:

A principal leaves a school for a new position but speaks respectfully about her former staff, never hinting at internal conflicts.

A student transfers to another school and doesn’t spread rumors about classmates or teachers — they just focus on their new environment.

A manager resigns and doesn’t leak private company information, even though they disagreed with leadership.

A friend decides to end a friendship but refrains from sharing personal stories told in confidence.

A teacher retires and doesn’t criticize the administration on social media afterward.

A volunteer steps down from a project quietly, not rallying others to quit with them.

A coworker who was wronged still chooses silence over retaliation, because their dignity matters more.

A business partner dissolves a partnership peacefully and doesn’t bad-mouth their former colleague to clients.

A principal who leaves a struggling school writes a kind farewell message that highlights growth, not grievances.

A student leaves a students' club/group due to conflicts but thanks the members for what they learned together.

A mentor steps away from an organization yet continues to support its mission publicly.

A coach loses their job but encourages the team to keep working hard for the new coach.

A friend who feels betrayed chooses not to retaliate, seeing silence as strength.

A colleague who leaves a toxic job still helps train their replacement.

A leader who was criticized still advocates for the institution’s success.

A former employee gives honest but respectful feedback in their exit interview — not vengeance disguised as truth.

A student who transfers schools leaves behind a note of thanks to their old teachers for their influence.

13 Qualities of People Who Would Do This or Agree with It

Integrity – They act on principle even when emotions run high.

Discipline – They control impulses to gossip or retaliate.

Maturity – They understand closure doesn’t require destruction.

Emotional intelligence – They process hurt without projecting it.

Self-respect – They see dignity as non-negotiable.

Loyalty to values – They stay true to personal ethics, not circumstances.

Rationality – They think before reacting.

Independence – They don’t seek validation through drama.

Pragmatism – They know burning bridges limits future options.

Composure – They stay calm under emotional strain.

Accountability – They own their decisions without blame-shifting.

Empathy – They understand everyone has their reasons.

Forward focus – They look to build the next chapter, not ruin the last chapter.

Tone Summary

Voice: Confident, calm, morally grounded

Mood it creates: Respectful resolve, self-respect, inner peace

INTJ female perspective:

Ethical independence (“I live by my code, not by gossip.”)

Quiet strength (“I won’t speak ill — my silence says enough.”)

Strategic closure (“I leave clean so my future remains untainted.”)

⤴️ ChatGPT

In Tagalog/Filipino language:

17 Halimbawa ng Pag-alis Nang May Dignidad

Isang punongguro ang umalis sa isang paaralan para sa bagong posisyon ngunit magalang na nagsalita tungkol sa kanyang dating kawani, hindi nagbigay ng pahiwatig ng internal na alitan.

Isang estudyante ang lumipat sa ibang paaralan at hindi nagpakalat ng tsismis tungkol sa mga kaklase o guro—tumutok lang sila sa kanilang bagong kapaligiran.

Isang manager ang nagbitiw at hindi nagbunyag ng pribadong impormasyon ng kumpanya, kahit na hindi siya sumasang-ayon sa pamunuan.

Isang kaibigan ang nagpasya na tapusin ang pagkakaibigan ngunit umiwas sa pagbabahagi ng mga personal na kuwentong ipinagkatiwala sa kanya.

Isang guro ang nagretiro at hindi pinuna ang administrasyon sa social media pagkatapos.

Isang volunteer ang tahimik na umalis sa isang proyekto, hindi nag-udyok sa iba na umalis din kasama niya.

Isang katrabaho na sinaktan ay pinili pa rin ang pananahimik kaysa pagganti, dahil mas mahalaga ang kanyang dangal.

Isang business partner ang mapayapang nagbuwag ng samahan at hindi siniraan ang kanyang dating kasamahan sa mga kliyente.

Isang punongguro na umalis sa isang paaralang may problema ay sumulat ng magandang mensahe ng pamamaalam na nagbigay-diin sa pag-unlad, hindi sa mga hinanakit.

Isang estudyante ang umalis sa isang club o grupo dahil sa alitan ngunit nagpasalamat sa mga miyembro para sa mga natutunan nila nang magkasama.

Isang mentor ang lumayo sa isang organisasyon ngunit patuloy na sinusuportahan ang misyon nito sa publiko.

Isang coach ang nawalan ng trabaho ngunit hinihikayat ang koponan na patuloy na magsikap para sa bagong coach.

Isang kaibigan na nakaramdam ng pagtataksil ay piniling hindi gumanti, nakikita ang pananahimik bilang lakas.

Isang kasamahan na umalis sa isang toxic na trabaho ay tinulungan pa rin na sanayin ang kanyang kapalit.

Isang lider na pinuna ay patuloy pa ring nagtataguyod para sa tagumpay ng institusyon.

Isang dating empleyado ang nagbigay ng tapat ngunit magalang na feedback sa kanyang exit interview—hindi paghihiganti na nagpanggap na katotohanan.

Isang estudyante na lumipat ng paaralan ay nag-iwan ng liham ng pasasalamat sa kanyang dating mga guro para sa kanilang impluwensya.

13 Katangian ng mga Taong Gumagawa Nito

Integridad (Integrity) – Kumikilos sila batay sa prinsipyo kahit na matindi ang emosyon.

Disiplina (Discipline) – Kinokontrol nila ang mga impulsong magtsismis o gumanti.

Kahinugan (Maturity) – Naiintindihan nila na ang pagtatapos ay hindi nangangailangan ng paninira.

Katalinuhang Emosyonal (Emotional intelligence) – Pinoproseso nila ang sakit nang hindi ito inihahayag sa iba.

Paggalang sa Sarili (Self-respect) – Nakikita nila ang dangal bilang hindi mapag-aatrasan.

Katapatan sa Pagpapahalaga (Loyalty to values) – Nanatili silang tapat sa personal na etika, hindi sa mga sitwasyon.

Rasyonalidad (Rationality) – Nag-iisip sila bago mag-react.

Kasarinlan (Independence) – Hindi sila naghahanap ng validation sa pamamagitan ng drama.

Pragmatismo (Pragmatism) – Alam nila na ang pagsunog ng tulay ay naglilimita sa mga opsyon sa hinaharap.

Pagpipigil (Composure) – Nanatili silang kalmado sa ilalim ng emosyonal na tensiyon.

Pananagutan (Accountability) – Inaako nila ang kanilang desisyon nang hindi naglilipat ng sisihin.

Pag-unawa (Empathy) – Naiintindihan nila na may kanya-kanyang dahilan ang bawat isa.

Pagtutok sa Kinabukasan (Forward focus) – Tinitingnan nilang buuin ang susunod na kabanata, hindi sirain ang huli.

⤴️ Translated by AI since I'm not yet fluent in Tagalog and Maranao etc.

Note: If Some Act Irrational, Most INTJs Will Simply Block Them

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🌼 Si Allah, ang Kataas-taasan, ang pinakamarunong sa lahat.
Sa pansamantala at di-perpektong dunya na ito, punô ng iba’t ibang uri ng mga pagsubok at panandaliang hirap, hindi maiiwasan na makatagpo tayo ng mga kaaway, mapanibughuing tao, at mga taong may masamang hangarin—maging sa totoong buhay o sa social media. At sa lahat ng kaaway, si Shaytan ang pinakamasama. Marami sa mga taong naninira, nangaalipusta, at mapanibughuin ay pinupuno ng matinding inggit sa kanilang mga puso. Ang inggit ang siyang nagtulak sa mga kapatid ni Propeta Yusuf (‘alayhis salaam) upang gumawa ng mga walang saysay at di-makatwirang gawain. Ang inggit din ang nagtulak sa isa sa mga anak ni Propeta Adam (‘alayhis salaam) na pumatay ng kanyang kapatid. At ang inggit ay isa sa mga dahilan kung bakit maraming mapagmataas ang tumatanggi sa katotohanan, kahit alam na nila kung alin ang totoo at alin ang hindi.

Kaya, alang-alang kay Allah, maging marunong ka at huwag tularan ang ating pangunahing kaaway na si Shaytan sa pagkakaroon ng kasuklam-suklam na pag-ibog. Nakalulungkot mang isipin, maraming tao ngayon ang hindi marunong magpigil ng damdamin at ginugugol ang kanilang oras upang sirain ang kapayapaan ng iba—dahil lamang sa labis na inggit. Kapag napansin kong may ilang gumagamit ng social media na gustong mang-udyok o humingi ng reaksyon mula sa akin, ang ginagawa ko ay binablock ko sila alang-alang kay Allah at iniiwasan ko nang makipag-ugnayan sa kanila, ngayon man o sa hinaharap. Wala akong kagustuhang magkaroon ng anumang kaugnayan sa kanila.

Kung labis mong kinasusuklaman ang isang tao, imbes na patuloy mong silipin at subaybayan ang kanilang mga ginagawa upang makakuha ng impormasyon—marahil upang gayahin o tapatan sila—ipinapayo kong ituon mo na lamang ang iyong sarili sa mga bagay na maglalapit sa iyo sa Pagmamahal ni Allah. Tulad ng mas madalas na pagbabasa ng Marangal na Qur’an, pag-aaral ng Islam mula sa mapagkakatiwalaang mga pinagmulan, at pakikinig sa mga lektura tungkol sa Islam.

Huwag mong hayaan ang inggit na mag-udyok sa iyo na kumilos.
Huwag mong pahintulutan itong baguhin ka tungo sa pagiging usisero’t magulo ang loob—yaong hindi mapalagay hangga’t hindi nakikita ang kapahamakan ng taong kina-iinggitan.
Huwag mo ring hayaang maging bastos ka o maging alipin ng tsismis dahil sa inggit. Kung ang presensiya o aura ng isang tao ay nakasisira sa iyong kapanatagan, gawin ang tamang hakbang: lumayo nang may kagalakan at katahimikan. At kung nakakaramdam ka ng inggit sa isang tao, ingatan mo ang mga gantimpala ng iyong mabubuting gawa sa pamamagitan ng pag-iwas sa paninira at pagtigil sa pag-stalk sa kanilang nilalaman. Hindi naman talaga kailangang maging komplikado ito—maliban na lamang kung pipiliin mong magpadala sa kahangalan ng mababaw na pagkainggit.

⤴️ Translated into Tagalog by ChatGPT because I'm not yet fluent in Filipino language.

🌼 Allah the Almighty knows best.
In this temporary and imperfect dunya full of various types of tests and brief trials, it is inevitable that we encounter different sorts of enemies and jealous haters both in real life and on social media. With shaytan being the worst of all our foes, plenty of those rivals, bashers and resentful stalkers despise us very often due to severe jealousy. Envy is what caused the half brothers of Prophet Yusuf 'alaihis salaam to misbehave and carry out irrational acts. Envy is what compelled one of the sons of Prophet Adam 'alaihis salaam to commit murder. And envy is what can cause many arrogant individuals to reject the truth despite knowing what is true and what isn't.

Be wise enough for Allah's sake to avoid emulating our archenemy shaytan in being prone to despicable envy. Sadly, a lot of strangers out there can't control their feeble emotions and decide to make efforts to destroy the inner peace of those whom they can't stand simply out of extreme jealousy. So what I do when I notice several users attempting to get a reaction or response out of me is I just block them for Allah's sake and stay away from interacting with them further anytime in the present and far future. I absolutely don't want anything to do with them.

If you abhor someone so much, rather than stalking their content spitefully eager to collect whatever info you can acquire about them probably to imitate them or compete with them, I advise you to keep your feelings to yourself and refocus on something else that can make you closer to Allah's Love such as reading more from the Noble Qur'an, seeking Islamic knowledge consistently from reliable sources and listening to some lectures about Islam.

Don't act on envy. Don't let envy transform you into a nosy goblin that lacks tranquility, incapable of truly relaxing until you witness negative things occuring to those whom you're jealous of.
Don't allow envy to make you rude and addicted to childish gossiping. If someone's presence or vibes could spoil your joy in any way, do the right thing by gladly distancing yourself from them and if you're feeling envious of somebody, protect the rewards of your good deeds by refusing to backbite about them and quit stalking their content. It shouldn't be that complicated you know, unless you're that stupid to act on lousy jealousy.