Monday, July 27, 2020
Note: Pious Wives Love Their Husbands Beyond Their Looks
💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 A common mistake among most women is instantly rejecting a guy's marriage proposal because he doesn't look good or handsome enough according to their standards. A lot of ladies prefer tall guys with skin as fair as all-purpose flour while others are into muscular bodybuilders who can lift heavy objects and whose six-pack abs make them feel they're married to an Asian version of the fictional characters 'the hulk' and 'iron man'.
Oftentimes when a woman is found to be wed to a man of short stature or whose looks aren't as appealing as her overall appearance, so she's considered too "out of his league", some critics wrongly assume she's a "gold digger" just chasing his money, a sorcerer cast a forbidden love-spell on her, or she was forced by her parents to marry him. That isn't always the case though for many faithful wives.
It is actually possible to find an average-looking guy very attractive if he complies with the following:
1] As a Muslim he has firm faith and trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. His Taqwa, sincere dedication to learn and implement Islam, and eagerness to do Da'wah for Allah's sake can result in his wife being intensely attracted to him.
2] He has genuine good character. His generosity, sympathy, understanding, patience, contentment, and admirable balance between being playful at times and serious are what cause his wife to emotionally invest in him and remain devotedly in love.
3] He tries his best to fulfill his wife's needs and ensures he doesn't mistreat her. He is not the overly jealous and insecure type of husband who prevents his wife from visiting her own family and friends nor is he neglectful of her concerning her Deen.
4] He has numerous qualities that are similar to her own traits. Thus they're generally compatible and capable of relating to one another. For example they've both experienced depression and with Allah's Will they were able to heal their emotional wounds, or they identically enjoy art and like cats (as furry friends, not food), or they share the enthusiasm for helping others through the means that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala provided them.
5] In countless ways, straightforwardly and indirectly, his presence in his wife's life enables her to be a better Muslimah with a well-developed personality.
It is not easy to abandon a lover who educated you to be more kind, forgiving, patient, easygoing and who trained you to be an independent strong woman who is contented in trusting Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala at all times.
6] He has a fascinating mind. His intelligence (granted by Allah the Most Wise) and ability to comprehend various matters, including his cleverness in dealing with women's emotions by way of empathy, are what captivate his wife and render him worthy of her fierce loyalty.
7] His goals and interests smoothly align with those of his wife. If they're similarly striving to deserve Jannatul Ferdaus, they can Inn-sha-Allah succeed in working together to keep their marriage alive.
The main feature or aspect to check in an interested suitor shouldn't be the level of his handsomeness nor how impressive his bank account is. What a Muslim bride-to-be should be concerned more is whether her future husband prays and if he is upon the correct 'Aqeedah (belief), along with a guarantee that he receives income strictly from halal sources.
There's no point in marrying a male model or "celebrity look-alike" if he is unable to help you reach Jannah Paradise. Better to be single yet loved by Allah the Most Loving than to be distracted by worldly pleasures and a "hot guy".
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but rather He looks at your hearts and actions."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2564
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of the believers in faith are those with the most excellent character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīh 5/2125
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
https://abdurrahman.org/2009/07/28/the-story-of-julaybib-radhi-allaahu-anhu/