💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Is there a possibility of experiencing same-sex attraction as a Muslim? Have you ever had a "crush" on someone of the same gender, so you went through any of the following:
• You either liked them instantly the first time you saw them or you were strangers in the beginning until gradually the more you got to know them, the more you felt "attracted", "captivated" or even started questioning your sexual orientation.
• You found yourself thinking of them quite too often, missing their presence whenever they weren't around, or desiring to be near each other as much as you can.
• You may have thought to yourself "if I were a guy, I'd propose to her and we'd do all the acts that couples in love do", "if homosexuality/lesbianism/bisexuality weren't haraam, without hesitation I'd be up for it and ask her out ASAP," or "Why is it that when I'm with other women I can be myself, comfortable and at ease like we're all sisters, yet this lady in particular gives me the butterflies?"
Those weird feelings and obsessive thoughts of desiring to commit a sin such as zina and acting upon homosexual urges undoubtedly come from shaytan who is desperate to destroy humanity in any way he can think of. Feeling like commiting suicide, another major sin, when you're feeling depressed is a waswasa (evil whispering) from shaytan. Feeling like stealing your neighbor's extra set of keys to their house so you can commit theft when the residence is unoccupied comes from shaytan's deceptive tricks. Feeling like you want to kiss or get unusually touchy with a person of the same gender because you can't help but express your intense admiration is likewise a waswasa coming from shaytan's cunning plots to distract you.
Some might be afraid of admitting they're gay, queer or bisexual, when in reality those labels aren't significant in Islam and they're actually battling courageously against their nafs.
Allah the Most Wise gave this different kind of exam to certain souls and He knows that they can pass if they continue trusting Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, preferring Jannah's eternal joys to this world's temporal pleasures, and striving to preserve their chastity, actively avoiding the urge to seek any haraam relationship even though deep inside their heart longs for it.
🔹 To avoid falling into the major sin of homosexuality and behaving as rebels who oppose what Allah the Almighty created, designing males in general to be naturally partnered with females particularly to procreate and increase the human population, we can:
1] Remember our main purpose of being created, to pass Allah's temporary tests in dunya in order to reach Jannah Paradise.
2] Constantly seek authentic knowledge of Islam from reliable sources. The more we learn about Islam and implement what we learned for Allah's sake, the more our faith/Imaan is strengthened and with Taqwa, we're less prone to listening to shaytan's evil whisperings.
3] Maintain a strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and say lots of Du'as, as sincere supplications can
Inn-sha-Allah alter one's Qadr/Destiny positively.
4] Get married and stay loyal to one's husband for Allah's sake.
5] Fast regularly Sunnah fasting every other Monday and Thursday, on special occasions like the three white days of each month as well as Sha'baan, six days of Shawwaal, and on Yawm 'Arafah for those who aren't performing the Hajj/pilgrimage.
The more we get accustomed to fasting in which we refrain from eating and drinking for some hours, the stronger our sense of self-control and self-discipline.
6] Realize that if we genuinely love another sister in Islam for Allah's sake, we'd want them to enter Jannah Paradise with us. Indulging in homosexuality is something that no decent Muslimah would seek for herself nor for other Muslimahs.
7] Focus on preparing yourself to meet our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Imagine if you died in the midst of making out with another female, whether an earthquake occurred or you had a heart attack, would you like it? No. So be persistent in defeating shaytan's vile insinuations and acknowledge from within "Yes, I totally like so-and-so but I won't pursue her because homosexuality/lesbianism/bisexuality is haraam, and I intend to die as an obedient Muslim."
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Guarantee six deeds from me and I assure your acceptance into Paradise. When one of you speaks, let him not lie. When one of you promises, let him not break it. When one of you is trusted, let him not betray it. Lower your gaze, restrain your hands from harming others, and guard your chastity."
Source: Musnad Abī Ya’lá 4195
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu reported from his father that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "A man should not see the private parts of another man, and a woman should not see the private parts of another woman, and a man should not lie with another man under one covering, and a woman should not lie with another woman under one covering."
Sunan Abu Dawud p.201 v.2
Sahih Muslim and Musnad Ahmed
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, what I fear most for my nation is the deed of the people of Lot (i.e. homosexuality)."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1374
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Al-Nu’man Ibn Bashir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, in the body is a piece of flesh which, if sound, the entire body is sound, and if corrupt, the entire body is corrupt. Truly, it is the heart."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 52, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some of the companions came to the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they asked him, “We find within ourselves that which is too grievous to speak of.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “You have indeed found it so?” They said 'yes.' The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “That is sincere faith.”
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “That is (a sign of) pure faith.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 132
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves, as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287, Sahih Muslim 127
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Ibn Al-Qayyim said, "Know that passing thoughts are not harmful. Indeed, they are only harmful if they are sought after and engaged. For a thought is like a passerby on the road; if you ignore him, he will depart from you."
Source: Al-Jawāb Al-Kāfī 1/157
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, get married. Verily, it lowers the gaze and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast as it will restrain his passions (desires)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806, Sahih Muslim 1400
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
