๐ Some females wrongly assume that being an "ice princess" or unemotional "ice queen" portrays you're a strong woman when in reality disrespect, rudeness and unjustifiable aloofness are typical traits of the highly insecure.
While it's your absolute right to choose who gets to be in your squad of close friends, your pickiness is not valid excuse for you to obnoxiously treat others rudely, ignore other Muslims' salaam just because you don't know them, and childishly gossip about those whom you disagree with.
People who secretly hate themselves, who are unhappy with their current lives, or who have extremely low self-esteem are more likely to channel their negative energy into others by being rude and disrespectful while maintaining an angry scowl. They're the type of individuals who instantly assume you're being fake whenever they find you smiling, or who suspect you're trying to bribe them when you behave in a friendly manner. If you give them a gift, they'll probably ask questions like "What's the occasion? Is there something you want from me?" or "Are you trying to tell me that I'm poor and you're rich? Why are you giving this to me, I didn't ask for it."
Their mindset is full of so much negativity that nearly whatever act of kindness you do they return it with disdain, scornful indifference or rejection. With these types of souls whom Allah the Most Wise decreed that we encounter, we are trained to enhance our level of patience, gain inner strength, and express gratitude Alhamdulillah that we are nothing like them.
Even if certain acquaintances or strangers accuse us of being "plastic" or "pretentious" because they obviously are not familiar with what we're really like, we continue being kind and generous for Allah's sake whenever we can. Kindness isn't restricted to constantly spoiling friends with tangible gifts and freebies, but in sharing Islamic knowledge generously for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, defending them when they aren't around, cheering them up when their moods go down, praying for them regularly, and in being the trustworthy friend whom Allah expects us to be.
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 8945
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Arna’ut
