๐ Signs that a person was not meant for you or destined to be with you (as a friend, spouse or business partner etc.):
1] Even if you have some things in common, you still don't feel at ease in their presence. You're not comfortable around them for some reason. You'd rather be alone sleeping, reading a book or contemplating than actively chatting with them.
2] Interactions with them feel forced and your conversations don't flow smoothly. It's either because you're mostly the one talking, you can't relate to them or they find your overall habits too cringy.
3] They can be your neighbors for several years yet you still wouldn't bother visiting them, since you can't think of enough topics to discuss and interesting activities to peacefully bond over with.
4] They left your messages on seen mode numerous times. When you want to contact them, they're readily unavailable. Trying to reach out to them for a long productive discussion is something almost impossible.
5] The respect, care and trust are clearly one-sided. You're usually the one enthusiastically checking on them to see how they're doing. They rarely reciprocate or return your favors.
✨ Signs that someone
Inn-sha-Allah was meant to be in your circle:
1] They've appeared in front you online and offline multiple times. No matter how much effort you make in trying to avoid them, they usually show up as though they're accessible, available and approachable.
2] Dialogues with them are generally fun, informative and beneficial. After interacting with them, you sense your faith/Imaan levels going up, and you eagerly look forward to speaking again in the future.
3] The more you get to know them and the more truths you discover about them, the more you like them for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
4] Regardless of where they reside, whether they live some miles away in the same city or they are located in another country, you wish you were neighbors so you can spend quality time with one another more frequently.
5] The love for Allah's sake, trust and respect are mutual. There is no jealousy, doubt and negative feelings between you two. Even if they may be more successful or efficient at something than you somehow, seeing them do well in their Deen and dunya can't trigger any feeling of envy because you want what's best for them, just as you hope they want you to thrive similarly.
๐ธ How to deal with those who aren't meant for us:
1] Accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny patiently.
2] Acknowledge the fact that not everyone can agree with our beliefs and perceptions. We're here to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in a way that we believe is right, not make duplicate copies of ourselves out of Allah's creation.
3] Understand that sometimes a person may reject us because we unintentionally remind them of their weaknesses, insecurities, and shortcomings. So long as we strive to treat everyone as fairly as we can, we're not responsible for people's emotions and reactions to our existence.
4] Why worry too much about being liked by people when they themselves are overloaded with their own set of struggles, priorities and problems? Plus on the Day of Resurrection they'll be questioned for their actions and decisions?
With Allah's Love and Guidance, we cannot be incomplete nor lonesome.
5] None of Allah's Prophets, 'alaihim as-salaam, especially the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam were completely loved and accepted by each and every soul who heard about them. Hundreds of unbelievers and hypocrites, including from their relatives, caused damage to their own selves by stubbornly rejecting their calls and wrongly assumed those Prophets were lying.
Allah's Love for us does not depend on how we are treated and viewed by Allah's servants. Persistently keep doing good deeds sincerely for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in spite of people's criticism, doubts and opposition.
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”
Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2638
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