๐ Some advice on how not to feel tense or nervous around individuals whom you find "attractive", good-looking or "intimidating":
1] Learn to control your gaze, refrain from staring at them unnecessarily, and quit putting them on a pedestal. Don't overestimate their agreeable qualities. Never assume they're 100% "perfect" nor guess you don't have what it takes to be up to their level.
2] Recall that despite their tall height, supposedly good looks or impressive credentials, ultimately we are all slaves of Allah the Almighty and He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala will always be above us.
3] Remind yourself that they're similar to you in terms of being humans with their own sets of flaws, shortcomings, struggles they often go through, problems to solve, worries and other emotions they occasionally feel. Now and then they excrete body wastes and perspire like you do. Why worry too much about appearing "flawless" when they themselves have countless imperfections?
4] Acknowledge the fact that even if you perceive them as "unique", "awe-inspiring" or "outstanding", somebody else or a number of Muslims around the world may still outdo or surpass them in many ways. Don't treat them as though they're the most exceptional and invincible entity you've ever encountered. Even if they sometimes behave as though they're entitled to preferential treatment, maintain proper manners with them without underestimating yourself and denying the gifts which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to grant you.
5] Keep a strong connection with Allah the Most Powerful, strengthen your faith/Imaan further by continuously seeking authentic Islamic knowledge sincerely for Allah's sake whenever you can, and strive to please only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala rather than desperately wanting to be seen as part of the "in-crowd" or someone who's "appealing". Confidently believe that your overall success in both worlds is not dependent on any of Allah's servants.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
