๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐️ Some tips on how you can behave in the presence of somebody who clearly doesn't like you and it's obvious that they don't have any interest in trying to get to know you better, whether they're a colleague and you're attending a meeting, they're a schoolmate and you're in the cafeteria, or they're a relative or casual acquaintance and you're both guests at the same wedding:
1] Patiently accept the fact that Allah the Almighty didn't destine you two to get along harmoniously. You can't force individuals to connect if Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala doesn't want such connection to take place.
2] Maintain good manners and etiquettes, as much as possible, with every soul whom Allah the Most Wise decrees you'd meet. Disliking a person for some of their attributes or actions which you disagree with shouldn't provoke you to act like an oppressive tyrant.
3] You have every right to decide not to sit near individuals whom you know despise you, especially if you're uncomfortable with their vibes and/or you don't wish to overhear irrelevant conversations. If in some cases you must be seated beside someone who despises you as much as you loathe them, do whatever you can to avoid unwelcome physical contact and refrain from looking at them whenever they speak to others, to signal you're uninterested in what they have to say and you don't desire any drama.
4] During breaks or intermissions, converse with somebody whom you actually care about for Allah's sake, read some beneficial writings or do some productive tasks on your cellphone or laptop, or temporarily leave the area where the individuals who can't stand you are, then return when the necessary activities resume. Don't oblige yourself to act concerned or curious about some people if begrudgingly chatting with them is more disadvantageous than uplifting.
5] Avoiding pointless interactions with individuals who hold a grudge against you is almost similar to intentionally staying away from touching objects at a store which aren't useful for you. Don't feel apologetic or guilty about your indifference towards them, specifically if most of their goals and values contradict yours.
While we can't control how Allah's servants view us or feel about us, we have the freewill to choose how to respond to their feelings and perceptions. Every action we humans do on purpose has its consequences, and Allah's Justice always prevails if not in this fleeting world then on the Day of Judgment.
Incompatibility mustn't cause us to commit sins such as deceiving, backbiting, stealing, denying people what is rightfully theirs, and oppressing.
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๐ Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
