๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Five qualities of emotionally draining individuals - if you recognize at least two of these in an individual, it is better to avoid them for Allah's sake or minimize unnecessary conversations, as much as possible, to protect your emotional well-being:
1] They claim to despise gossip yet they indulge in backbiting frequently.
2] They whine to you a lot, as though they expect you to miraculously solve their problems almost every time they irrationally complain about something or somebody. Ironically when it's your turn to ask for advice, they act uninterested or tell you that they don't know what to say.
3] They go silent or become obnoxiously distant upon noticing you expressing any form of joy or gratitude, yet when you make a mistake they're quick to criticize and point out your errors in detail.
4] Due to their gigantic load of insecurities and intense envy of you, they regularly one-up you or narrate random stories to suggest that they're a lot "better", more "successful" or more "experienced" than you.
5] It is clear that they're not supportive of your goals and interests, which is why most if not all of your talks with them are awfully awkward, boring or unproductive.
✅ When dealing with acquaintances, neighbors or colleagues who are emotionally draining:
1] Unapologetically unfollow them on social media and quit reading the content they upload if you believe that doing so can strengthen your faith Imaan and keep you away from negative emotions (such as unwarranted jealousy, confusion, uncertainty etc.).
2] Don't force yourself to continue chatting with them if there are other more important, meaningful and rewarding tasks to do than pretending to like someone who is too toxic for you.
3] Intentionally refrain from asking them questions about their personal lives, so you don't need to tolerate their invented lies nor should you pay attention to those with bad intentions in attempting to connect with you.
✨ Seven energy boosters:
1] Reciting from the Noble Qur'an with a melodious voice and reflecting on Allah's Magnificent Words.
2] Resting for some minutes or looking at Allah's beautiful creations in nature while saying some Du'a and Adhkaar (including lots of Istighfaar).
3] Reading some beneficial Islamic books and articles which are useful for self-development.
4] Watching motivational videos or listening to some recorded Islamic lectures.
5] Memorizing or familiarizing yourself with some authentic Ahadith (narrations and statements of the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).
6] Spending some moments with a pet or showing kindness to furry animals when you're not busy.
7] Visiting some family members and relatives for Allah's sake when you have the opportunity.
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๐ Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim