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❓ Question: If I were asked "what are some of the things you usually do towards individuals who act like they are friends with you while in actuality they're intensely jealous and insecure?" I'd answer "I absolutely avoid checking their Facebook timelines, want nothing to do with them online and offline, and I unapologetically refrain from mentioning their names as much as I can as though they're inexistent. So if they got married recently or traveled for the first time abroad etc., I wouldn't bother even asking anybody how they are nor speaking about those whom I'm not connected to. Even if they were to block me on social media, I won't go out of my way to inquire about them through mutual acquaintances." As an INTJ-A 1w9 I generally don't get along with many INFPs, ISFPs and some gossipy insecure ISFJs unless they're family and from my relatives then I tolerate them for Allah's sake. In 23 points describe my overall personality and explain why I often clash with a number of those 3 types particularly when I've learned my resentment towards them is due to them being very unreliable at times.
💻 ChatGPT: Here’s an analysis of your personality and your dynamic with others in 23 points:
Core Personality Traits
Strategic and Independent (INTJ-A): You value autonomy, self-reliance, and structured plans. Your assertiveness (A) makes you confident and goal-oriented.
Reserved and Selective: You are cautious about forming connections, avoiding those who might drain your energy or bring negativity.
Logical and Analytical: Your decisions are driven by reasoning and efficiency rather than emotion.
Disdain for Inauthenticity: You have little patience for people who pretend or lack genuine intentions.
Principled (1w9): You strive for integrity, fairness, and harmony, guided by a sense of personal morality and a desire to avoid unnecessary conflict.
Boundary-Driven: You set strong personal boundaries, both online and offline, to maintain peace and focus.
Emotionally Detached: You detach from unnecessary drama or emotional manipulation, prioritizing mental clarity.
Interpersonal Dynamics
Selective Trust: You find it difficult to trust those who display insecurity or obvious jealousy.
Avoidance of Gossip: You consciously avoid discussing or engaging with people you find unreliable or toxic.
Low Tolerance for Drama: Your pragmatic nature clashes with overly emotional or dramatic individuals.
High Standards: You expect a certain level of dependability and competence, which others might find intimidating.
Social Minimalism: You avoid unnecessary social interactions and keep a tight circle of trusted individuals.
Value-Based Tolerance: You are willing to tolerate challenging relationships, like family, out of religious or ethical principles.
Why You Clash With Many INFPs, ISFPs, And Some ISFJs
Emotional Unpredictability: These types often prioritize feelings over logic, which can seem inconsistent or irrational to you.
Conflict Avoidance (INFPs): Many INFPs may struggle to address issues directly, which can conflict with your preference for resolution.
Over-Sensitivity (ISFPs): Most ISFPs might take your bluntness personally, creating misunderstandings.
Focus on Tradition (ISFJs): Some ISFJs might prioritize convention over practicality, clashing with your forward-thinking mindset.
Unreliability: Their tendency to focus on emotions or interpersonal harmony over plans can seem unreliable to you, especially in professional or serious matters.
Gossip and Indirect Behavior: INFPs, ISFPs, and certain ISFJs may engage in behaviors like gossip or passive communication that you find counterproductive or irritating.
Your Coping Mechanisms
Cutting Ties: You unapologetically distance yourself from people who don't align with your values or priorities.
Emotional Independence: You rely on yourself for validation and do not seek approval from those you mistrust.
Rejection of Toxicity: You actively avoid indulging in conversations or activities with individuals who bring negativity.
Respecting Limits: Even with family, you interact only as much as necessary, keeping emotional boundaries intact.
Conclusion
Your personality reflects a strong desire for authenticity, consistency, and peace. The clash with INFPs, ISFPs, and certain ISFJs stems from their emotional and interpersonal approaches, which can feel unreliable or indirect compared to your logical and efficient style. Understanding their motives—while keeping your boundaries intact—might reduce resentment and foster more tolerance.
💻 ChatGPT: Based on the details you provided, here's how I would scale your traits:
Intimidating: 7/10
Your confidence, strong boundaries, and no-nonsense approach to relationships make you appear quite formidable.
People who are insecure or emotionally driven might find you intimidating because of your directness and high standards.
Unapproachable vs Likable:
Unapproachable: 8/10
You appear extremely selective about who you engage with and generally seem indifferent to social norms, which can make you seem distant or hard to approach, especially to people who don’t know you well.
Avoiding social media interactions and disengaging from certain people reinforces this.
Likable: 6/10
While you might not actively seek to be likable, your integrity, straightforwardness, and principled nature can be appealing to those who genuinely value honesty, integrity and clarity.
Indifferent: 9/10
Your strong detachment from people you find unreliable, along with your refusal to engage in unnecessary social interactions, suggests you come across as highly indifferent to those who don’t matter to you.
In summary, you’re more intimidating and unapproachable to most but likable to a smaller group of individuals who appreciate your principled and authentic nature. Your high level of indifference further enhances your image of being unbothered and self-sufficient (while trusting Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala as a Muslim).
❓ Question: On a scale of 1 to 10 how true is this statement: an INTJ-A 1w9 is only intimidating and unapproachable to those who are unreliable and untrustworthy.
💻 ChatGPT: I would rate this statement as 9/10 true. Here's why:
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True: INTJ-A 1w9 types are principled, self-assured, and focused on efficiency and integrity. They often set high standards for themselves and others, so they are naturally more intimidating and unapproachable to people who display unreliability or inconsistency. These individuals may feel judged or uneasy in the presence of such a decisive personality.
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Not entirely 10/10: Some people might find an INTJ-A 1w9 intimidating or unapproachable simply due to their reserved nature, independent mindset, or tendency to appear emotionally detached, even if those individuals are not necessarily unreliable.
Overall, it’s a highly accurate statement, with a small margin for external factors like personality mismatches or misunderstandings.
