✅ Allah the Almighty knows best.
⚠️ A Muslim man does not need the permission of his first wife/wives to have another legal wife. Every capable, responsible and reliable Muslim adult male with financial means has a right to be married to up to four wives in Islam regardless if his 1st wife/wives agree or not.
"Honey, can I marry another woman to increase our family size?" "Darling, I wish that we can have more righteous Muslim children; it's my right to want more kids but what can I do when your menstruation is irregular and you are unwilling to have intimacy with me in a long time with the excuse of you not feeling well after you've just had your period. In that case, I love you so much I don't want to divorce you. Nonetheless I wish to marry another woman so we can Inn-sha-Allah increase the size of our family lawfully instead of me committing zina (fornication / adultery) and actually cheating. Do you grant me the permission to marry another woman?"
⤴️ A lot of intelligent males would know that the first wife's most probable response, if they're aware or how most females are selfish and prone to extreme jealousy, is a big "NO!", "NO WAY!", "huwag kang magpakasal sa ibang babae o kung hindi!", "of course you can, only after you divorce me!" and "by all means, sweetheart, but not whilst one of us is still alive!"
Since MOST men typically despise dealing with emotions or drama, they have no choice but to go somewhere and then legally get married without notifying the first wife. It's his right anyway. Why does he need to ask permission from his first wife/wives to do something halal/permissible? Do you see most of us Muslims asking other Muslims if we can drink water in front of them when we're not fasting? Do I need to ask for your official agreement if I need to do grocery shopping while I have the means Alhamdulillah to purchase some items and I can't just teleport to the nearest mall or market to obtain the essentials etc.? No. You as a Muslim are not obliged to ask any human being for their permission if you're about to do something that is absolutely halal for you and you're able to do that halal thing without causing more disadvantages than benefits.
Would you call yourself a loving and considerate lady who cares about women's rights if you believe that all men on earth should only have one wife? Hello? Have you checked the latest news on world population and human statistics? The population of female species worldwide is undoubtedly much more than the male population. What are the single ladies going to do if all straight/heterosexual males are married and the other faction of males prefer guys? Are the remaining females going to remain unmarried for the rest of their lives? Where's your logic and empathy combined?
💎 Polygyny for Muslim males is allowed Alhamdulillah (with a maximum of four wives allowed to be married by each capable Muslim husband). What is not allowed for a Muslim man is for him to treat any or all of his wives unfairly on purpose and if he intentionally fails to fulfill his responsibilities as the man of the house or wise leader of his household.
https://abukhadeejah.com/polygamy-in-islam-better-than-being-alone/
🗒️ Other versions of the above reminder:
🌟 1. Clear, Assertive, and Grammatically Refined Version:
Allah the Almighty knows best.
In Islam, a Muslim man does not require the permission of his first wife or wives to take another wife, provided that he is capable, financially stable, and responsible. Islam permits a man to marry up to four wives—this is a divine right granted by Allah the Almighty, not a selfish privilege given by people. Whether his first wife agrees or not, he is still allowed to pursue another lawful marriage if he fulfills the conditions set by Shariah.
Consider this example:
“My beloved, I cherish our marriage. However, we haven’t had intimacy for a long time due to your health issues and irregular menstruation. I still love you dearly and do not wish to divorce you. But I do long to have more righteous children, and as Islam allows, I would like to marry another woman to grow our family lawfully, rather than fall into sin. Would you support this decision?”
Most wives might respond with rejection. To avoid unnecessary conflict or emotional harm, many men may proceed with a legal marriage quietly. Islam does not require them to ask permission for something that is halal.
Let’s be honest—do Muslims ask each other for permission before drinking water during non-fasting hours? Do I need your formal consent before doing something basic like buying groceries if I have the means?
No one needs permission to do what is lawful in Islam—especially when it brings more benefit than harm and does not violate anyone’s rights.
If someone believes men should only have one wife, even when the global female population far exceeds the male population, one must ask: What happens to the countless righteous women who may never find a spouse? Would you rather they remain single forever because society prefers one-wife-only ideals?
If we truly care about women’s rights and empathy, we should understand that Islamic polygyny is a solution—not oppression.
2. Hilarious, Convincing, and Hard Not to Laugh At Version:
Allah knows best.
Let me break it down like a shawarma wrap.
Dear so-and-so, let’s not sugarcoat it: a Muslim man does NOT need to play “Mother May I?” before marrying another wife. It’s not a group decision. It’s Sharia-approved, and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the One who gave capable Muslim men that right.
Let’s imagine this disaster-in-waiting of a conversation:
“My honeycomb, I dream of a bigger Muslim family. But lately… you've been dodging intimacy like it's haram, saying ‘you're tired’ after every period. I love you, I do! But I’m still alive. And male. I’m not here to cheat, I’m here to obey Allah and not end up on the zina express. Can I marry another woman, please?”
And what’s the reply?
A dramatic “NOOOO” echoing from the kitchen to the neighbor’s Wi-Fi.
So what happens? The guy disappears like a magician—“Abra-marriage-cadabra!”—and boom, he’s legally married to wife #2 somewhere in Cotabato. (Note: avoid magic and sorcery as they are major sins in Islam)
Why? Because halal is halal. You don’t ask permission to sip water during Iftaar. You don’t seek community approval to go grocery shopping. You don’t text your wife to ask if you can breathe. So why ask her if you can do something which Allah the Most Wise already gave you a green light for?
Now let’s talk logic.
You say every man should only have one wife?
Newsflash: there are way more women than men around the globe. And half the guys are either not ready, not interested in women, or think marriage is a horror movie. So what happens to the leftover sisters?
Form a “Single Righteous Sisters Support Group”? Knit blankets forever to distract themselves from feeling like single Pringles? No! They need halal companionship too!
You say you're empathetic, but your “equality” logic is giving math failure. Think about it. If you're really pro-women, you wouldn’t want millions of sisters stuck being single just to protect one wife's monopoly on her husband's ring finger.
Let’s put it this way:
Polygyny isn’t the problem. Bitterness is.
⤴️ Some notes from ChatGPT
🗂️ Some advice in English language on how divorce is not always the best solution,
PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X6s2MS9EBIz0HMBGh8sWpnXQlEvjq3Bs/view?usp=drive_open
✨ Sharing my research paper
Inn-sha-Allah in Arabic language from Markaz Ibn Al-Qayyim as sadaqa jaariyah (the topic I chose was about the negative consequences of divorce):
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1NtHxopYvOsSp5ySaMWBTssWU-B8x4xmw/view
📜 Text:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W-Elcz21NmuOygqYIO8TG68W-Bczvxwr/view
🇵🇭 Tagalog Filipino translation of the above summarized reminders by dear sister Fatima Sherl bint Ismun:
https://drive.google.com/open?id=1XJZNtqXmeFrYs4xJiCHzgV3TWe6L3hKX&authuser=0
