🌼 Allah the Almighty knows best. One of the aspects I've learned long ago Alhamdulillah about friendship is that the more we resemble another Muslim and the more our goals as well as our interests are similar to each other, the more likely we are to get along with them for Allah's sake harmoniously. In contrast, the more different a person seems from us and the more weird or eccentric we appear to them because they're not yet familiar with a lot of our traits and habits, the more difficult or challenging it can become for us to consider establishing any connection with them.
Looking back at many of my former potential friends, most of whom I contentedly and easily refrain from stalking on social media, I notice they're basically the complete opposite of me in certain ways. For instance:-
1🔹 They're divorcees who openly oppose polygyny. I despise divorce and want to avoid discussing it as much as possible, while I'm absolutely fine Alhamdulillah with my dear husband being married legally to up to four wives, as long as he strives for Allah's sake to take good care of his womenfolk as fairly as he can.
2🔹 They seem to really fancy overspending unnecessarily and often flaunt their enjoyment of this fleeting dunya. I prefer to befriend a group of Muslims who give more importance to aspiring for eternal bliss and peace in Jannah Paradise than to hang out with a pretentious bunch of excessively materialistic individuals who take pride in enjoying a lavish and needlessly extravagant lifestyle.
3🔹 A number of them made it clear they find reading "boring". They dislike receiving long messages and would rather gossip with other insecure gossipers than be invited to read a beneficial book or attend an Islamic lecture. If reading and sincerely seeking authentic Islamic knowledge through reliable sources are not from your hobbies, then don't expect us to click even if we're both Maranaos or wear the niqab in the presence of non-mahram males and when outdoors.
✨ From the things I look for in an ideal Muslim friend is their ability to directly and indirectly inspire, teach, educate, train and motivate me to become a more pious and thriving Muslimah in both worlds. If you can't advise me when I make a mistake, and instead cowardly backbite about me, and if you fail to demonstrate how we as Muslims should develop our character, then I'd rather chill with books and researching online than waste time and energy paying attention to someone who's yet another distraction or source of fitna.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Al-Bukhārī 3109, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”
Source: Sharḥ An-Nawawī ‘alá Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2638
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