๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ If you're a professional baker, which I'm not, you already know that different cakes and pastries don't require the exact same ingredients for them to be successfully baked and well designed. Banana cake, carrot cake, chocolate, vanilla and mocha flavored cakes don't have the same recipe. The presence of one ingredient in a dessert does not imply that another is a failure simply due to that ingredient's lacking or unavailability.
Visualize five loyal, patient and contented wives in completely different love journeys:
1] A wife who got married at the age of eighteen, divorced three years later then remarried her first husband after noticing his value and appreciating his loving efforts to win her back.
2] A wife whose husband is employed in another country and they only get to be physically near each other at least once a year.
3] A wife whose husband happens to be her first or second degree cousin while he tries his best to be as fair as he can with his two wives for Allah's sake.
4] A woman who became a wife, with Allah's Will, in her late thirties after declining several marriage proposals because she stubbornly insisted on patiently waiting for her former ustadh's marriage proposal.
5] A fourth wife in a polygynous marriage who finds it challenging to get along with her co-wives but she is determined for Allah's sake to maintain patience with them, aware that perfect bliss and everlasting peace can be enjoyed in Jannah Paradise.
Not all couples' marriages are entirely similar. While many have had grandiose weddings in luxury hotels or function halls, others were glad to conduct their wedding ceremony at their own house or outdoors in a field. While a few spouses are satisfied with just one child or not having children, other wives and husbands prefer caring for large families. Some ladies can handle not seeing the husband for several weeks, while other women would rather move to the city where the husband works in even if they have to cope with polygyny as long as they're not residing far away from the husband.
What is believed to be okay or necessary with one couple does not signify that another couple are in a "loveless marriage" if the latter's love story doesn't have similar features, on condition that each of the spouses similarly aim to protect the marriage for Allah's sake, striving to do what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves to be worthy of eternal joy in Jannah Paradise where its inhabitants won't be tested with negative feelings including envy, unjustified suspicion, and discontentment with Allah's wise and fair decisions.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
๐ Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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