๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Question: As an INTJ who is generally selective when it comes to socializing, what are some things you would do to let a neighbor of the same gender know that you care about them for Allah's sake and you're interested in becoming actual friends instead of just strangers or acquaintances?
๐ Answer: 1] I'd make effort to visit them for Allah's sake, not necessarily every single day but once in a while, to check how they're doing. You can tell that an INTJ is uninterested in connecting with you if they haven't visited you at least once within the first two or so weeks of discovering that you reside nearby.
2] If I have surplus items which I don't really require or if there are lots of leftovers from a simple dish I've prepared, I'd occasionally share them with the neighbor unless I know that they wouldn't like it.
3] If they have kids and their children are playing outside, I'd be playful or talk to them for a few minutes. Otherwise, I would quickly walk by them and focus on where I'm going.
4] If I notice that a delivered package of theirs is left around, I'd go out of my way to place it in front of their door or contact them directly to inform them about the delivery. I'd leave the package untouched if I wasn't willing to be more acquainted with the neighbor.
5] Now and then I'd invite them to join me for outings and dining outdoors if I had the chance to do so. If I felt uncomfortable with their vibes, I would purposely avoid or try to minimize going to the places where they're likely to be.
6] I'd maintain connection with them on social media and at least once a month take the initiative to chat with them or react to one of their online posts. Most of our conversations would involve deeper topics like what lessons we've learned from different books or articles, analyzing the meanings of certain dreams and personal thoughts related to current news etc. instead of mere "how are you?" and "nice weather today".
7] I'd offer to teach them whatever I know about Islam and Arabic language for free, with guidance from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, instead of indicating that I've got other more worthwhile tasks to do than to partake in lengthy talks with absolute strangers whose interests obviously clash with my values.
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๐ Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Keep only a believer for a companion and let only a righteous person eat your food."
At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud
Reference: Riyad As-Salihin 366
In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 366
๐ Abu Shurayh RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said three times, "By Allah, he does not have faith (one is not a true believer)!" It was said, “Who is it, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "He whose neighbor is not safe from his harm (nuisance, disturbance, bad character)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6016
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/note-three-reasons-why-we-dislike-some.html
https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-each-personality-type-behaves-as-neighbors/
