๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Stages of bereavement and grieving, personal advice from someone who has had several loved ones pass away including my dear parents, some aunties and relatives (Allah yarhamhum. Ameen.):
1] Denial of the news received about the passing of the loved one. Finding it difficult to accept that they've died. Feeling shocked to know they're no longer alive (in this fleeting dunya).
2] Feeling sad or depressed knowing that the deceased is not around anymore. Occasionally going through unpleasant feelings of regret or wondering what your circumstances would have been like if you spent more time with them before they died.
3] Finding it challenging to move on from their demise if you were closely connected and struggling to cope with the aches of looking back on the moments you've enjoyed with them whenever somebody reminds you of them directly or indirectly.
4] Finally accepting Allah's Qadr / Destiny with rewarding patience and contentment (for those who weren't strong enough yet to accept Allah's Decree from the very first instant of discovering the loved one's demise) and attaining comfort upon looking forward to being reunited with them
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise while regularly mentioning them in your wholehearted Du'as / supplications, praying that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala continuously has mercy on them, forgives them and protects them from the grave's torment.
5] Anticipating rewards from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for striving to stay patient for His sake and having the ability, as well as willingness, to kindly inspire other bereaved Muslims to maintain Sabr for Allah's sake, reminding one another that this world is only temporary and our actual destination is Jannah Paradise where we can
Inn-sha-Allah reconcile with our Muslim loved ones if Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees.
✅ A few tips on how to ease and alleviate grief and bereavement:
1] As a Muslim Alhamdulillah it is part of being a true believer to train oneself to have patience with what Allah the Most Wise decrees. Striving to have Sabr doesn't mean you're not allowed to feel saddened by certain trials but you refrain from loudly saying anything which could displease Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
2] Understand that your deceased loved one would dislike it if they found you consistently suffering from depression due to their departure. Learn to patiently accept the reality that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala took them back to Him at the precise timing which He already destined and planned even before you were born. Try to achieve joy in lawful ways, particularly by frequently reading from the Noble Qur'an and researching about how the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and the other Prophets 'alaihim as-salaam dealt with the difficulties in this world appropriately.
3] If you feel it can be helpful for your overall well-being, once in a while talk to Muslims who have gone through your loss and who know what it's like to be in your current situation, or browse around informative articles or forums where Muslims share their experiences and provide useful tips on coping with grief, while always recalling that in Jannah Paradise
Inn-sha-Allah our worries and sorrow can be replaced with everlasting bliss.
Allah the Almighty knows best.
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๐ Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma from his father that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him." (Refrain from wailing or excessively crying over those who've returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.)
Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1292
In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 51
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 379
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty says: 'I have nothing to give to My faithful servant but Paradise if I cause his dear friend to die and he remains patient.'"
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6424
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
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