✅ Question: List 11 points each to differentiate between certain individuals who didn't invite you to a gathering because:-
A] They're extremely envious of you and despise it when you have the limelight or spotlight
B] They're very intimidated by you or consider you unapproachable
C] They understand you're actually so busy with numerous tasks like online classes and whatnot.
💠 Gemini AI:
A) Extreme Envy & Despising the Limelight
1] Subtle Digs & Backhanded Compliments: They may offer "genuine" praise that subtly undermines your achievements ("You're so smart, it's scary!").
2] Spreading Rumors & Gossip: They might circulate negative or exaggerated stories about you to tarnish your reputation.
3] Ignoring Your Achievements: They consistently downplay or dismiss your successes, even when you've worked incredibly hard.
4] Competitive Behavior: They constantly try to outshine you (for example if they know that you've traveled to more than eleven countries, they try to catch up with your travel experiences and imitate you by attempting to travel more often etc.], even in trivial matters, and seem unhappy when you excel.
5] Exclusion & Snubs: They deliberately exclude you from social events or conversations, especially those where you might be the center of attention.
6] Passive-Aggressive Behavior: They may make sarcastic remarks or give you the silent treatment to express their resentment.
7] Finding Fault: They constantly criticize your choices, opinions, and even your appearance.
8] Throwing Shade: They make indirect, negative comments about you in front of others, hoping you'll overhear.
9] Trying to sabotage your efforts: They may try to undermine your work or sabotage your plans behind your back.
10] Feeling threatened by your confidence and happiness: They seem genuinely unhappy when you're enjoying yourself or experiencing positive emotions.
11] Frequently attempting to bring you down: They actively try to discourage you or make you feel insecure about yourself whenever they can.
B) Intimidation & Unapproachability
1] Awe & Silence: They may be so impressed or intimidated by you that they become quiet and withdrawn in your presence.
2] Hesitancy & Nervousness: They may seem hesitant to interact with you or generally appear so nervous around you.
3] Fear of Judgment: They may fear that you will judge them or criticize them, preventing them from engaging with you (they go out of their way to avoid talking to you online and offline due to feeling intimidated).
4] Perceiving You As Better Than Them In Many Ways: They may feel that you are "better" than them in many ways, making them feel inadequate or inferior (if they're insecure or don't really know you).
5] Assuming You're Uninterested: They may assume that you are too busy or currently preoccupied with other more important tasks and responsibilities to interact with them on a casual level.
6] Lack of Common Ground: They may feel that they don't have anything in common with you or that you wouldn't be interested in their interests.
7] Feeling Out of Place: They may feel that they don't belong in your social circle or that you wouldn't want them there.
8] Avoiding Confrontation: They may avoid interacting with you to prevent any awkward or uncomfortable situations, particularly if their nervousness whenever you're around is very visible or obvious to you.
9] Observing from Afar: They may admire you from a distance but never make an effort to get to know you better.
10] Feeling Overwhelmed: Your presence or your accomplishments may make them feel overwhelmed or inadequate (if they're insecure or don't really know you).
11] Idealizing You: They may idealize you to the point where they feel they can never live up to your expectations. ❎ Avoid this negative way of thinking. Our only role model whom we should strive to follow and admire for Allah's sake is the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.
C) Understanding Your Busyness
1• Acknowledging Your Schedule: They may know that you have a very busy schedule and don't want to burden you with social obligations.
2• Respecting Your Time: They may understand that you value your free time and don't want to intrude on it.
3• Prioritizing Your Well-being: They may want to avoid adding stress to your already busy life.
4• Offering Support & Understanding: They may offer to help you with tasks or errands to free up some of your time.
5• Checking In Regularly: They may check in with you regularly to see how you're doing and offer support in other ways.
6• Planning Activities Around Your Availability: They may plan social events or activities around your schedule to make it easier for you to attend.
7• Respecting Your Boundaries: They may respect your need for alone time and personal space.
8• Avoiding Distractions: They may avoid contacting you during your study or work hours.
9• Offering Help with Schoolwork: They may offer to help you with homework, studying, or other academic tasks.
10• Understanding Your Need for Focus: They may understand that you need to focus on your studies and avoid distractions.
11• Encouraging You to Prioritize Your Well-being: They may encourage you to take breaks and prioritize your mental and physical health.
Disclaimer: These are just a few possible reasons why someone might not invite you to a gathering. It's important to remember that there could be other reasons as well, and it's always best to communicate directly with the person to understand their perspective.
💻 ChatGPT:
A] They’re extremely envious of you and despise it when you have the limelight or spotlight
1. They often downplay your accomplishments or avoid acknowledging them publicly.
2. They avoid inviting you to gatherings where your charisma might overshadow them.
3. You notice they get uncomfortable or defensive when others acknowledge or compliment you in their presence.
4. They try to subtly exclude you from group discussions or decision-making.
5. You often feel like they compete with you in subtle ways, even if it's unspoken.
6. They talk about the event afterward as if it wasn’t important to make you feel excluded.
7. Mutual friends may hint that the person feels threatened by your presence.
8. They avoid sharing information about gatherings until after they’ve happened (so you wouldn't find chance to ask if you can join them. They want you frequently excluded to soothe their intense jealousy.).
9. You sense a pattern of exclusion from events where attention might naturally gravitate toward you.
10. They use passive-aggressive comments or behaviors to keep you out of the loop.
11. Their social media posts about the event seem pointed or exaggerated, as if to make you notice.
B] They’re very intimidated by you or consider you unapproachable
1• They often hesitate to initiate conversations or engage with you in casual settings.
2• They avoid inviting you to gatherings where they feel they won’t be able to match your energy or presence.
3• They seem overly cautious about how they communicate with you, often fearing they’ll do something which you may criticize or confront them about.
4• Mutual friends may mention they feel nervous or insecure around you.
5• They often defer to you in conversations but avoid inviting you to settings where their confidence might waver.
6• You notice they struggle to maintain proper eye contact with you or seem overly formal, evidently nervous or uncomfortably awkward when anywhere near you.
7• They might admire you from afar but actively avoid closer interaction.
8• Their invitations are inconsistent, depending on their comfort level with the situation.
9• They avoid one-on-one settings with you, sticking to group interactions if any.
10• They may describe you as "intense", "too serious" or "too scary" as an excuse for avoiding and excluding you.
11• They avoid inviting you because they assume you wouldn’t want to come or wouldn’t fit in with the group dynamic.
C] They understand you’re so busy with numerous tasks like online classes and whatnot
1. They’ve noticed how often you talk about being overwhelmed with work or commitments.
2. They assume you wouldn’t want to add another obligation to your already packed schedule.
3. They’ve mentioned they didn’t want to disturb or distract you during a busy period.
4. They often express concern about your workload and prioritize your rest over social events.
5. They’ve observed or heard you decline similar invitations in the past due to time constraints. "Let's not invite so-and-so because they declined many of our invitations in the past. They'll probably say no again."
6. They genuinely believe you might not enjoy the event because of your current responsibilities.
7. They may feel it’s much more considerate to let you focus on your tasks instead of adding pressure, especially if they know that you're a true introvert (✅ plus points if they are aware or it is widely known how you're extremely selective regarding your choice of close friends and which events you're genuinely willing to show up at).
8. They openly tell you about the gathering later, assuming you’ll understand their reasoning.
9. They sometimes, even once a year, actually invite you to smaller, more flexible gatherings when you’re less busy instead.
10. They respect your goals and ambitions, so they prioritize your time over their events.
11. They ask how your tasks are going afterward, showing they kept you in mind even if you weren’t invited.
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