Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (116)

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

Note: Invitation To Donate To The Masjid At Wisdom Islamic School And To Attend My Upcoming Speech In English Language

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🕌This Jumuah Friday Inn-sha-Allah March 13 (the 23rd/24th day of Ramadan 1447H) may be the last Jumuah Friday of this blessed month Ramadan.
All residents of Davao city are welcome to pray at the Masjid here and donate for Allah's sake with any amount they can sincerely give to help with repairing the windows of the Masjid at Wisdom Islamic School.

It is preferable to arrive a few minutes before 11:45 AM.

💎✨Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in our frequent Dua supplications.

https://bit.ly/wis-donate

➡️ Maya Wallet and GCash
09065580733
ustadh AbdurRahman Mababaya

📱💻Link to the free virtual Islamic lecture 

Inn-sha-Allah this Saturday March 14 (24th/25th day of Ramadan 1447H) from around 4:30 PM to 5:15 PM here in the Philippines and from about 11:30 AM to 12:15 PM according to the timing in Saudi Arabia

🎤 Speaker: sister Mariam Mababaya (MA Islamic Studies and one of the faculty members of Wisdom Islamic School in Davao city Philippines - also offering online distance learning for students from grade kindergarten to grade twelve)

Language: English 

💎 Topic: "From Overwhelm To Overflow: Sharing Some Tips On How To Not Let Fleeting Emotions Control Us"

You're welcome to invite other listeners ✨

http://meet.google.com/ate-bmav-wge

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/12/note-some-advice-on-how-to-manage-ones.html

Poem: It's My Choice To Wear The Hijab And Niqab For Allah's Sake

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Despite having the choice to wear whatever I like, 

From sleeveless and backless tops to pants that are so tight, 

I choose to wear the niqab whenever I'm outside 

And when I am in the presence of non-mahram guys, 

Not to imply I'm an Arab nor to terrify 

Fellow humans but to serve just Allah the Most Wise 

Who doesn't judge our looks but sees our hearts - what's inside.

~•~

I'm not oppressed by staying modest. Yes, it's my right 

To choose which of my body parts I can show and hide.

Fellow servants nearby - I don't want them judging my 

Overall self and value according to my smiles 

And whether my nose is long or my cheekbones are high.

Should we be asked how we all breathe, we could simply sigh:

Alhamdulillah you hear us talking. Don't you lie.

~•~

For Allah we dress modestly, and we're not obliged 

To follow the fashion industry nor "be in style", 

We're alive to please Only Allah through what He likes - 

By obeying Allah's Laws as much as we can try, 

Instead of impressing people - most with jealous eyes.

To us, the niqab and hijab nicely symbolize 

Servitude to Allah and detachment from this life.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah (The Almighty), and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of (our enemy) shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-advice-for-sisters-interested-in.html

Note: Avoid Jealous People - Don't Be Like Them In Feeling Jealous And Insecure

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

⚠️3 common bad habits of insecure females who painfully envy you:
1. They purposely go out of their way to exclude you whenever you can. For example, if they give some gifts or souvenirs to a group, they intentionally ignore you and desperately want you to know they left you out just so their emotional distress in feeling jealous of you would be relieved slightly. Or in a group chat online - they readily answer other chat members' questions yet whenever you're the one asking questions they simply leave you on "seen" or "read" mode - obnoxiously on a regular basis and it's obvious they're evading you.
2. They're consistently terrible at communicating with you. As much as possible they stay away from responding to your messages and fear being confronted by you offline because your mere presence triggers them to feel so inferior or extremely uneasy - full of intense jealousy, recalling how a lot of your notable and admirable qualities and numerous achievements or talents Alhamdulillah outshine or surpass their insecurities.
3. You notice their frequent scowls or sarcastic eye rolls whenever you must speak to them as if they're tired of hearing you talk due to feeling smaller than you or incompetent somehow. "Ugh, there she goes again talking to me as if she has to remind me she's way better than me in many ways. Every time she contributes something I feel as though I'm not as marvelous as her" etc.

✅ Three things you can do when you have no choice but to occasionally deal with very sad and envious individuals who want to upset you so they're not the only ones who are emotionally disturbed:
1. Stay unfazed and unaffected by their lousy efforts to sadden you in any way. Don't copy their unkindness. In fact, keep winning and doing better than them in having more beautiful character and maintaining basic courtesy.
2. Gladly unfollow them on social media and don't take their words seriously. Whatever news they publicly share with others - just brush them off and focus on your own road, circle and ambitions.
3. Learn to be completely different from them. Confidently refrain from making any human feel excluded as much as you can because you're not an insecure jealous overgrown bully.

May Allah the Almighty grant us more wisdom and guidance and keep us away from those who have negative motives against us. Ameen.

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (115)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

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Note: Sharing 3 Lessons Learned From A Delayed Food Order During This Blessed Month Ramadan

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

🌻 Today Sunday, the 11th day of Ramadan here in the Philippines and the 12th day of Ramadan in many of the Middle Eastern Countries like Saudi Arabia and United Arab Emirates, my Suhur meal consisted of water, dates, veggie dish (probably called pinakbet in Filipino or something) with pumpkins/kalabasa from yesterday's dinner and boiled egg. I wanted to order some fast food with rice but the delivery rider / courier arrived just a few seconds before the Adhaan of Salat Al-Fajr. Accordingly the delay was caused by a confusion related to swapping orders between different food delivery riders if I'm not mistaken. I didn't cook rice because I knew that cooking would take a while so I decided to order instead. 

QaddarAllahu wa maa shaa-a fa'al. Since the Grab Food driver arrived late despite my choice of the Priority Option (additional 20 PHP or something), I was compensated with a discount of minus 50 PHP voucher which I tried this afternoon Alhamdulillah to purchase some sweets to share with my family for Iftaar and one of the delivery riders is a female - my first time seeing a female driver delivering food.

Sharing 5 lessons learned and reminders for Allah's sake:

1✅ If you wish to order fast food here in the Philippines for Suhur, it's better to do so at least one hour and thirty minutes before the Adhaan of Salat Al-Fajr rather than ordering around 4:00 AM, hoping your order would arrive in less than 20 minutes then rushing to consume your Suhur within 10 or 15 minutes as if you're an anxious contestant in a grand eating competition. And if your Grab Food or FoodPanda delivery rider is delayed, just eat and drink ahead anything halal and edible instead of waiting for your order so at least you've had your Suhur with the right niyyah/intention.

2✅ One way to not feel so disappointed with the late arrival of the human being delivering your food/orders is to put yourself in their shoes or imagine you were in their position. If you're trying your best to complete numerous tasks but then certain obstacles get in the way of your goal, wouldn't you want your employer or clients to be more understanding and forgiving towards you when there's some sort of delay or inconvenience? This reminded me of the helpful advice of one Tausug student here at Wisdom Islamic School when I substituted for one of the classes due to their teacher's absence. She advised us to train ourselves to give valid excuses for others whenever we notice them doing something visibly wrong, annoying or questionable instead of instantly making negative judgment. I've come across that reminder many times but Alhamdulillah it is a pretty humbling experience when you receive it from somebody so much younger.

3✅ There's always wisdom why Allah the Most Wise decrees we meet particular individuals in this temporary dunya - either we learn something from them, they gain something from us in a positive way (perhaps they attain some inspiration, motivation, or even collect some of our past and present sins if they're Muslims who mistreat us or cowardly gossiped about us etc.), or we mutually benefit from one another. Maintaining good character even with non-Muslims who don't oppose Islam and Muslims in general can Inn-sha-Allah be a form of indirect Da'wah (inviting others to the truth Islam and correct 'Aqeedah belief), especially if a Muslimah wears the hijab and niqab whilst a lot of people tend to stereotype and generalize. Rather than receiving change or items from a non-Muslim salesperson, cashier or employee with a depressing scowl, try to appear cheerful and jovial even if you must squint your eyes as a niqabi/muntaqabah/munaqqabah (what is the correct term?) to spread positive vibes. 

Note: Alhamdulillah the online tutorial classes for learning how to read and write in Arabic fast every Sunday and other days for kids and adults via Google Meet will Inn-sha-Allah resume some time after March 20. If you're interested in joining, DM (www.facebook.com/justsharingislam) and I can add you to the group chat via Facebook messenger application.

✅ Tagalog translation by AI: 

🌻 Ngayong Linggo, ika-11 araw ng Ramadan dito sa Pilipinas at ika-12 araw naman ng Ramadan sa maraming bansa sa Middle East tulad ng Saudi Arabia at United Arab Emirates, ang Suhur ko ay binubuo ng tubig, dates, ulam na gulay (marahil ay tinatawag na pinakbet sa Filipino o kung ano man) na may kalabasa mula sa hapunan kagabi, at nilagang itlog. Gusto ko sanang mag-order ng fast food na may kanin pero dumating ang delivery rider ilang segundo lang bago ang Adhaan ng Salat Al-Fajr. Ayon sa impormasyon, ang pagkaantala ay dulot ng kalituhan sa pagpapalitan ng mga order sa pagitan ng iba't ibang food delivery riders, kung hindi ako nagkakamali. Hindi ako nagluto ng kanin dahil alam kong matatagalan pa ito kaya minabuti ko na lang na mag-order.

QaddarAllahu wa maa shaa-a fa'al. Dahil huli na dumating ang Grab Food driver sa kabila ng pagpili ko sa Priority Option (dagdag na 20 PHP o higit pa), nabigyan ako ng kompensasyon na minus 50 PHP voucher na sinubukan ko ngayong hapon Alhamdulillah para bumili ng mga matatamis na ibabahagi ko sa aking pamilya para sa Iftaar; at isa sa mga delivery riders ay babae—ito ang unang pagkakataon na nakakita ako ng babaeng driver na nagdedeliver ng pagkain.

Narito ang pagbabahagi ng limang aral at paalala alang-alang kay Allah:

1✅ Kung nais mong mag-order ng fast food dito sa Pilipinas para sa Suhur, mas mabuting gawin ito kahit isang oras at tatlumpung minuto bago ang Adhaan ng Salat Al-Fajr kaysa sa mag-order bandang 4:00 AM, sa pag-asang darating ang iyong order sa loob ng wala pang 20 minuto at pagkatapos ay magmamadali kang ubusin ang iyong Suhur sa loob ng 10 o 15 minuto na tila ka isang balisang kalahok sa isang malaking paligsahan sa kainan. At kung maantala man ang iyong Grab Food o FoodPanda delivery rider, kumain at uminom na lamang muna ng anumang halal at makakain sa halip na maghintay sa iyong order para kahit papaano ay nakapag-Suhur ka nang may tamang niyyah/intensyon.

2✅ Ang isang paraan upang hindi masyadong madismaya sa huling pagdating ng taong nagdedeliver ng iyong pagkain/order ay ang ilagay ang iyong sarili sa kanilang kalagayan o isipin mong ikaw ang nasa posisyon nila. Kung sinusubukan mong gawin ang iyong makakaya para matapos ang maraming gawain ngunit may mga hadlang na dumarating sa iyong layunin, hindi ba't gugustuhin mo rin na ang iyong employer o mga kliyente ay maging mas maunawain at mapagpatawad sa iyo kapag mayroong pagkaantala o abala? Naalala ko rito ang nakatutulong na payo ng isang estudyanteng Tausug dito sa Wisdom Islamic School noong nag-substitute ako sa isa sa mga klase dahil sa pagliban ng kanilang guro. Pinayuhan niya kaming sanayin ang aming sarili na magbigay ng mga valid na dahilan para sa iba sa tuwing may napapansin kaming ginagawa silang mali, nakakairita, o kaduda-duda sa halip na agad na gumawa ng negatibong paghuhusga. Maraming beses ko na itong narinig na paalala pero Alhamdulillah, isa itong mapagpakumbabang karanasan kapag natanggap mo ito mula sa isang taong mas bata pa sa iyo.

3✅ Laging may karunungan kung bakit itinakda ng Allah, ang Pinakamarunong, na makatagpo natin ang mga partikular na indibidwal sa pansamantalang dunya na ito—maaaring may matutunan tayo mula sa kanila, may makuha silang positibo mula sa atin (marahil ay makakuha sila ng inspirasyon, motibasyon, o kaya naman ay makolekta ang ilan sa ating mga nakaraan at kasalukuyang kasalanan kung sila ay mga Muslim na minaltrato tayo o talisuyong nag-tsismis tungkol sa atin, atbp.), o kaya naman ay kapwa tayo makinabang sa isa't isa. Ang pagpapanatili ng mabuting asal kahit sa mga hindi Muslim na hindi naman tumutuligsa sa Islam at sa mga Muslim sa pangkalahatan ay maaaring maging isang paraan ng indirect Da'wah (pag-imbita sa iba tungo sa katotohanan ng Islam at tamang paniniwalang 'Aqeedah), lalo na kung ang isang Muslimah ay nakasuot ng hijab at niqab habang maraming tao ang may posibilidad na magkaroon ng stereotype at generalization. Sa halip na tumanggap ng sukli o gamit mula sa isang hindi Muslim na salesperson, cashier, o empleyado nang may nakasimangot na mukha, sikaping magmukhang masaya at masigla kahit kailangan mo pang i-singkit ang iyong mga mata bilang isang niqabi/muntaqabah/munaqqabah (ano nga ba ang tamang tawag?) para magpalaganap ng positibong vibes.

Paunawa: Alhamdulillah, ang online tutorial classes para sa mabilis na pag-aaral kung paano magbasa at magsulat sa Arabic tuwing Linggo at iba pang mga araw para sa mga bata at matatanda sa pamamagitan ng Google Meet ay magpapatuloy Insha-Allah pagkalipas ng Marso 20. Kung interesado kayong sumali, mag-DM sa (www.facebook.com/justsharingislam) at maaari ko kayong i-add sa group chat sa pamamagitan ng Facebook messenger application.

Note: Types Of People That Most INTJs Clash VS Vibe With

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Women with the INTJ-A (Assertive Architect) personality type (from the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator framework) are typically independent, strategic, analytical, and confident.

Of course, individuals vary—but based on common INTJ-A patterns, here are 13 types they’re more likely to struggle with, and 13 types they tend to connect with easily, plus 3 reasons each.

🚫 13 Types of People INTJ-A Females Often Dislike (or Struggle With)

1. Highly Dramatic / Emotionally Reactive People

Reasons:

Prefer logic over emotional escalation

Dislike unnecessary chaos

Find emotional volatility inefficient

2. Chronic Procrastinators

Reasons:

Value productivity

Think long-term and strategically

Lose respect for poor discipline

3. Gossipers

Reasons:

See gossip as trivial

Prefer meaningful conversation

Value privacy and discretion

4. Inconsistent or Unreliable People

Reasons:

Expect follow-through

Plan carefully and dislike disruption

View unreliability as incompetence

5. Overly Dependent Individuals

Reasons:

Highly self-sufficient

Need independence in relationships

Dislike emotional clinginess

6. Manipulative Personalities

Reasons:

Detect hidden agendas quickly

Value transparency

Dislike being psychologically controlled

7. Close-Minded Thinkers

Reasons:

Love intellectual debate

Respect evidence-based reasoning

Dislike dogmatic thinking

8. Excessively Superficial People

Reasons:

Prefer depth over small talk

Seek meaningful insight

Dislike shallow validation cycles

9. Chronic Rule-Breakers (Without Strategy)

Reasons:

Value systems that work

Think before acting

Dislike reckless behavior

10. Overly Traditional Without Logic

Reasons:

Question norms analytically

Prefer creative thinking and originality

Reject “because that’s how it’s done”

11. Attention-Seeking Personalities

Reasons:

Value competence over visibility

Dislike performative behavior

Prefer quiet effectiveness

12. Emotionally Manipulative People esp. narcissists

Reasons:

Highly independent

Resist guilt-based tactics

Need rational conflict resolution

13. People Who Waste Their Time

Reasons:

Strong internal standards

Goal-oriented mindset

Limited social energy

✅ 13 Categories INTJ-A Females Often Connect With Easily

1. Visionary Thinkers

Reasons:

Love long-term planning

Enjoy strategic discussions

Share big-picture mindset

2. Highly Competent Professionals

Reasons:

Respect expertise

Value efficiency

Admire mastery

3. Independent Individuals

Reasons:

Need personal space

Prefer self-sufficient partners

Mutual respect for autonomy

4. Rational Debaters

Reasons:

Enjoy intellectual sparring

Appreciate evidence-based thinking

Don’t fear disagreement

5. Curious Learners

Reasons:

Love continuous improvement

Enjoy deep conversations

Respect intellectual growth

6. Honest, Direct Communicators

Reasons:

Prefer clarity over hints

Dislike passive aggression

Value efficiency in conflict resolution

7. Strategists & Planners

Reasons:

Share structured mindset

Align on long-term goals

Enjoy systems thinking

8. Calm Personalities

Reasons:

Appreciate emotional stability

Dislike chaos

Feel safe with grounded people

9. Self-Improvement Focused Individuals

Reasons:

Value progress

Respect discipline

Enjoy growth conversations

10. Creative Problem-Solvers

Reasons:

Love innovative solutions

Appreciate intelligent risk

Respect competence

11. Quiet Confidence Types

Reasons:

Dislike arrogance

Value understated strength

Prefer substance over show

12. Individuals who are emotionally mature and secure

Reasons:

Want rational discussion

Prefer stability

Respect accountability

13. Other Strategic Types (e.g., ENTJ, INTP)

(Within the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator model)
Reasons:

Similar cognitive preferences

Shared independence

Intellectual compatibility

⤴️ ChatGPT

Note: Sharing Some Old Poems I Found Alhamdulillah

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

📱 Alhamdulillah while browsing around the net I found some of my old poems published on a number of websites where poets and writers from various countries can upload their creative writings. Many of these poems were posted when I was around 24 years old while my dear parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen) were still alive.
Sharing some random facts/truths about me related to writing poetry:
✨ Alhamdulillah writing poems became one of my hobbies when I was around 13 years old. At age 17 if I'm not mistaken one of my rhyming poems was published by "International Society Of Poets" and funnily my dear father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen) had to pay for the award certificate with an expensive frame and trophy shipped from one of the countries in the West to Riyadh city that time.
✨ By the time I was around 19 years old if I'm not mistaken I already wrote more than 300 poems Alhamdulillah and after several years I'd say I have written approximately more than 500 or 600 poems if you include the ones posted in some of my blogs etc. I know because I numbered many of them Alhamdulillah.
✨ I prefer rhyming poems with fixed number of syllables per line instead of "free verse".
✨ I recall how my husband and I, when we first got married, were considering starting a duet band (very cheesy, I know. And AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem) in which he'd play the guitar (yes he has a talent in playing the guitar like one of his younger brothers does) while he'd sing the so-called "nasheed lyrics" which I would compose for him but Alhamdulillah Allah the Most Wise inspired us to cancel that weird project and instead firmly believe that listening to music and composing nonsensical songs should be avoided as much as possible in Islam since they distract us from the more important matters like reading the Noble Qur'an and saying Du'a and Adhkaar frequently.
🌻 Inn-sha-Allah I'm offering tutorial classes via Google Meet conducted in English language for kids, teens and adults who are curious or willing to learn how to write rhyming poetry without needing the assistance of AI (artificial intelligence like ChatGPT and Gemini AI). The student can choose the timing when we're both available and the tutorial fee is just 250 php per session. Within 7 meetings Inn-sha-Allah they (Muslim or non-Muslim) should be able to learn how to compose their own rhyming poems without asking AI to construct a poem for them.

🌼Some links (omit/remove the spaces I intentionally added so the links would be included in this post):
https://www.slideshare.net/IslamicWisdom

https://www.poemhunter.com/miriam-mababaya/poems/

https://justsharingislam.blogspot.com/2015/01/