Tips: INTJ personality type vs INFJ

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Seven ways that INTJ personality types and INFJs are different, despite their general potential to become good friends as they're both future-oriented, intuitive, selectively curious, insightful, and focused on the big picture:

1] INTJs are generally thick-skinned and unafraid of criticism. INFJs can be somewhat sensitive and it may take a while for them to emotionally heal after their feelings have been hurt.

2] INTJs when trying to accomplish tasks or complete projects would try their best to get done with them even if their choices may upset some individuals. Efficiency is more important to them than sparing people's emotions. INFJs in contrast would do what they can to ensure that each action they take doesn't negatively impact anybody in their group, team, or workplace.

3] INTJs in social settings would avoid doing anything which contradicts their values. With stubbornness they won't attempt to change their overall behavior to impress people, unless they're talking to somebody whom they genuinely care about. 

INFJs have a tendency to treat every individual according to their temperament, personality, and level of familiarity. They're willing to kindly adjust their conduct or attitude based on who they're interacting with.

4] When offering advice, an INTJ would likely start their statements with "If I were you..." or "if I was in your situation..." and provide useful suggestions, straightforward feedback, or quick solutions according to what they truly believe is most logical, reasonable, and rational. An INFJ would typically put themselves in your shoes when advising, or suggest the most idealistic methods for you to handle your problems, or listen patiently to your complaints and show empathy.

5] When an INTJ resolutely decides to cease a connection or transaction with you, or when they've cancelled their interest in wanting to be more than mere acquaintance, their dismissal has nothing to do with wounded feelings but they can't find any logic, purpose, or significant value in your association. An INFJ on the other hand would "door slam" or completely detach from those who took their feelings for granted, who were intolerably inconsiderate, and who didn't reciprocate their loyalty and integrity.

6] INTJs can be a lot more tolerant and patient with their families and loved ones, while being aloof, indifferent, or distrustful around strangers. A number of INFJs are more able to have patience with strangers than with family members whom they consider toxic or uncooperative.

7] While both INTJs and INFJs (the healthy types) intensely abhor gossiping, INTJs refrain from discussing people's flaws because they think it's illogical to mock others' demerits when you yourself likewise have imperfections. INFJs (the mature ones) dislike backbiting because seeing others get mistreated upsets them, specially if they can't do much to stop the rumors, or they can imagine themselves being the next subjects of their gossip if they'd do something which would disappoint those gossipers. 

🔹 You can Inn-sha-Allah get along harmoniously with any MBTI personality type if: 

1] You both understand each other's language, dialect or way of speaking, while the respect is mutual. 

2] Jealousy, pride/kibr, selfishness, insecurities, lies or suspicion do not get in the way of your dealings and interactions. 

3] You can stay patient, lenient, and forgiving for Allah's sake with one another mutually.

4] You have several qualities, interests, or life experiences in common. 

5] You both sincerely strive to do what Allah the Almighty likes, not mainly what your nafs or ego desires. 

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📋 To discover what your MBTI personality type is:

https://my-personality-test.com/personality-type-indicator 

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test 

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

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https://www.idrlabs.com/test/intj-or-infj.php

Poem: INTJs And INFJs Enjoy Their Solitude

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Calling an INTJ/INFJ "lonely" 

Is as absurd as nicknaming a cat "chimpanzee", 

As irrational as singing to an apple tree, 

Confessing your "love" when it can't even get married, 

And as cringey as labelling your toes "sweet candies". 

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We're not "lonely", not "desperate for fake company", 

Not "eager to listen to gossip and people-please", 

And not "so naive that we become instant besties 

With any human, monkey and actor that we meet.".

We're true introverts who choose our close friends carefully. 

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Those guilty of these receive bye and adios from me: 

Talking badly behind people's backs so cowardly, 

Making lame jokes that are more offensive than funny, 

Telling lies more than Pinocchio can lie purposely, 

And having nothing worthwhile to share, offer, and teach. 

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I'd rather be "lonely" yet still earn Allah's Mercy 

Than displease Allah by disrupting my piety 

Through socializing with clowns who backbite constantly, 

Who act as if they care when they carry jealousy, 

And who prove that books are better than clear fakery.

~•~

Alhamdulillah. I have Allah, my family, 

My spouse and his kids, and Angels who record our deeds, 

And reading the Qur'an often brings serenity. 

Introverted Muslims cherish solitude, so please 

Don't assume we're "alone" when Allah sees you and me.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-trust-allah-and-you-cant-feel.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-not-lonely-since-allah-is-with-me.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-solitude-with-allah-is-better-than.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-advice-to-deal-with-loneliness-or.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-five-secrets-to-not-feeling-lonely.html 

Poem: How To React When Told You're "Cringey"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 How to react when told "you make me cringe", "you're cringey", 

And nearly each time you speak some roll their eyes wildly, 

As their unease or annoyance may stem from envy, 

Or they simply don't get you, or they fail to agree 

With your values most of which won't mesh with their beliefs: 

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Realize they have freewill to express how they feel. 

If they're too weak to conceal feelings of jealousy 

That they're compelled to treat others disrespectfully, 

Dissing you when you're gone or calling you "cringeworthy", 

Pity them. For their dismal upbringing feel sorry. 

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They cringe as they don't understand your actions clearly, 

In the same way you'd shudder when some so eagerly 

Post cheesy vids on TikTok for their viewers to see, 

Act like flawless robots that never sweat and relieve, 

And behave as though they surpass everyone they meet.

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We cringe at different things. We're not alike fully. 

What you deem "weird", "silly" or "corny" could be perceived 

By others as useful or intriguingly unique, 

While some activities may fascinate you indeed, 

Those deeds we find "cringey" if they oppose our beliefs.

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I cringe when I see Muslims dancing excitedly 

On stage or in the streets to impress society, 

Yet when it's time to pray to Allah the Almighty, 

Some of them postpone praying or pray reluctantly, 

As if serving Allah isn't their priority. 

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I cringe when some memorize lyrics effortlessly 

Yet when asked to read from the Qur'an they bashfully 

Refuse to recite blaming on some difficulty, 

And when they strive to attend social events early 

Yet can't worry when they're late for prayer frequently.

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Whenever somebody describes you as "cringeworthy", 

Acknowledge the truth that they don't know you entirely. 

Since you're not the same, admit that occasionally 

There will be subjects which you'll perceive differently, 

And how Allah sees us matters more ultimately.

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Most of the sins of the children of Adam are on their tongues."

Ibn Mas'ud said, “O tongue! Speak goodness and be rewarded, or remain silent and be safe, lest you become regretful.”

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 10300

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-few-tips-on-dealing-with-awkward.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-confident-people-vs-insecure.html 

Tips: Some Advice On How To Quit Masturbation

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Whether you believe that masturbation (touching oneself to stimulate sexual pleasure) is haraam/forbidden or makrooh/disliked, frequently masturbating shows a lack of self-control, preference to enjoy temporary pleasures over living one's life to please Allah the Almighty, and indecent conduct in front of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala as well as His Angels who have been assigned to record a person's intentional actions. If masturbating was allowed, the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam would have clearly mentioned that it's permissible, while marriage wouldn't be recommended to those who struggle with their desires because they can simply resort to masturbation to satisfy themselves. Those who are obsessed with masturbation tend to act as hypocrites when they can't afford to touch themselves indecently before their own parents and a curious audience yet when they're "alone" in a room, day or night, they'd enthusiastically watch inappropriate films or fantasize about a crush while masturbating, obnoxiously ignoring the fact that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, some of His Angels, and possibly a number of jinns are nearby watching. 

🔹 Five tips to quit masturbation, even if quitting may be difficult in the beginning: 

1] Always remember that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sees us at all times, and the main reason why Allah created us is to sincerely worship Him, not to be enslaved by foul desires.

2] Respect the Angels who are almost always with us observing, ready to record our deeds and statements by striving to minimize or avoid anything which could upset, annoy, or disgust them. 

3] Remind yourself of the reality of this fleeting dunya and that death can arrive anytime.  

4] Continue learning more about Islam through reliable sources. The more authentic Islamic knowledge you seek and apply, the stronger your faith/Imaan gets, which can make it easier for you to abandon sins and despicable acts. 

5] Stay away from things and people whose presence may provoke sexual tension or the urge to behave improperly. You're doing yourself a favor by avoiding unnecessary interactions with unattainable individuals whom you secretly admire. Staying as a mere stranger to somebody, to preserve your Deen, is a lot safer than attempting to strengthen the bond only for it to gradually turn into a source of fitna that makes zina or masturbation tempting.

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📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better." 

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked, “What admits most people into Paradise?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "(Taqwa) Fear of Allah and having good character." It was asked, “What condemns most people to the Hellfire?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The mouth and the genitals."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2004

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees for me what is between his jaws and his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-take-care-of-your-heart-by.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-five-reasons-why-zina-fornication.html 

https://www.troid.org/comprehensive/marital-issues/592-the-evils-and-harms-of-masturbation

Note: Three Tips For Single Muslimahs On Finding A Good Muslim Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 As a Muslimah who received several marriage proposals in my teenage years despite not having uploaded photos of myself nor signing up for accounts on matrimonial websites back then, I'd like to share three tips for currently single Muslimahs who have been waiting for at least one marriage proposal to arrive: 

1] Instead of daydreaming and wishing for the right man to come along, sincerely aspire to be a righteous Muslimah who strives to obey Allah the Almighty by doing what He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala commanded, including praying the obligatory prayers and valuing modesty. 

Displaying your beauty online and offline, through posting selfies regularly and wearing immodest attire to attract attention, isn't the proper way to find a decent spouse. Generally guys who mainly pursue women for their outward appearance are the kind of men who'd chase other ladies once they spot someone who supposedly looks more attractive. 

2] Say Du'a and request from Allah the Most Wise for whatever you need as often as you can, specially when praying Qiyaam Al-Layl and fasting Sunnah fasts. Wait for Allah's response with worthwhile patience, knowing that if Allah loves you, He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala only gives you what He knows your soul requires and at the best time, not necessarily right now and what you desire. If you can't get married in this fleeting dunya, maybe it's your Qadr/Destiny to be among those women who enjoy flawless romance in Jannah Paradise.

3] If you feel that you're ready for marriage and you're eager to start a pious family of your own, courageously express your interest to your parents, brothers, grandparents, uncles, aunties, female cousins and close friends. Maybe they can assist in searching for somebody whom they think is an ideal match for you. When the time for meeting that suitor or potential soulmate arrives, pray two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara after you've double-checked the following to determine if he's worth marrying for Allah's sake: 

1) Is he Muslim? Does he pray? And is he upon the correct 'Aqeedah? 

2) Does he have a stable job which doesn't involve anything haraam/forbidden such as ribaa/usury, knowingly telling lies (if he works as an attorney), and scamming? 

3) Does he treat his mother and sister/sisters kindly? 

4) Is he single or does he already have a wife? If he's married, can he guarantee to be fair with his multiple wives and that his other wife/wives will not regard her as a "homewrecker"? 

5) Can he promise to allow his wife to make frequent visits to her parents, relatives and friends? Or is there a likelihood that he may become an overly controlling spouse who won't give much freedom to his loved ones? 

6) If he's guilty of some awful habits like smoking or selling items which Muslims ought to avoid, will he make effort to do what he can to quit them, not for the woman he wishes to marry but sincerely to reform for Allah's sake? 

7) If after some time, he gets employed in a different city, can he bring his wife with him or at least visit her occasionally? 

A clear sign that a man can, with Allah's Will, prove to be a respectable spouse is his sincere willingness to become a better Muslim. Regardless of how handsome, tall, or wealthy he is, a Muslim who has Taqwa would strive to treat Allah's servants well, particularly his wife (or wives) whom he loves for Allah's sake.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-marry-for-allahs-sake-not-for-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-everything-including-marriage-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-think-twice-before-rejecting.html 

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