Note: Why My Dear Husband And I Are Soulmates But Not "Facebook Friends"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: Why is it that you and your husband aren't connected on social media?

📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah, while my husband and I occasionally chat online, especially since he is employed in a different city, we aren't "Facebook friends" because I prefer it that way. From the benefits of not stalking his Facebook timeline are: 

1] Not making myself feel upset or insecure every time I notice a comment on any of his status updates coming from some of his female colleagues, female acquaintances (particularly from his high school and college days as he was one of the supposedly popular students back then) and female patients. I'd hate to be that kind of unconfident wife who regularly asks her husband questions like "who's this message from? How long have you known her? Are you 'cheating' on me?" not only because I'm perfectly okay with him being married to up to four wives but I feel that acting that way would signify I can't trust him. It's not easy to reciprocate the love of somebody who suspects your every move. 

2] I married my husband for Allah's sake so we can both make it successfully, with Allah's Will, as friends, soulmates and teammates to Jannah Paradise. I wasn't put on earth to scrutinize every one of his acts and statements (online and offline, 24/7, rain or shine), ensuring that he never does anything which confirms he's actually human. I believe that Allah the Most Wise is the One Who knows precisely how to deal justly with all of His servants in this world and on Judgment Day. 

3] Just as I want my dear husband to believe that my loyalty is authentic, I want him to feel, sense and acknowledge the fact that I trust him for Allah's sake, while being aware of how he already knows that all humans will be questioned about what they intentionally did and said on the Day of Judgment. While you can't compel a loved one to instantly change some defects or negative aspects of themselves, you can choose to focus on appreciating their commendable qualities and lovingly set a good example so they gradually become inspired by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala through you to improve as a striving Muslim.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said:

"The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, “That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-for-allahs-sake-speak-to-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-three-reasons-why-loyal-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-as-muslim-wife-dont-be-petty-and.html 

Note: 3 Reasons To Avoid Music Addiction

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful  

💌 Imagine if you were at a crowded airport. While waiting for your flight, you overhear an authoritative mom clearly instructing her kids to write down on their journals the number of times they're able to listen to an airplane loudly take off within thirty minutes, making sure they can correctly differentiate the sound of a plane taking off from that of aircrafts landing. While two of her children seem to be doing such exercise compliantly, you witness that the eldest of them appears to be attentively listening to the passenger nearby arguing vehemently with somebody on the phone, despite being repeatedly reminded by their mother and siblings to complete their auditory assignment. What adjectives would you use to describe that child? Disobedient, defiant, stubborn, distracted, and perhaps ignorant of the benefits behind the mother's request for their close attention. 

Now visualize yourself being a student attending English class in which your teacher instructs the students to draw on a sheet of paper a table with three columns. As the instructor swiftly reads an essay just once, your task is to list all the nouns in the first column, adjectives in the second, and verbs in the third. The prize of getting all the answers right would be a free trip to any travel destination they choose. Passing this kind of test is possible if the examinees try their best to pay attention to the teacher reading, without being preoccupied with other noise. 

Allah the Almighty gave His servants the ability to hear in order to serve Him, not to misuse their ears in matters which distract and distance them from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

Undoubtedly a lot of people get so addicted to music that it can become challenging for many to stop. The more a person struggles with music addiction, the more they may find reading from the Noble Qur'an and listening to Qur'an recitations "boring", or the more they feel "annoyed" whenever they hear the Adhaan being called. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

📣 Three reasons why listening to music is haraam / forbidden in Islam: 

1] Allah the Most Wise prohibited it as a test, to see which of His slaves are determined to obey His Commands, do what He loves and stay away from what He and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam dislike, even though a large portion of society wrongly claim that music is effective "therapy" and "remedy". 

2] The ears are meant for listening to tranquil recitations from the Noble Qur'an, to the Adhaan, to Islamic lectures, to helpful warnings and beneficial reminders to become better Muslims. From the abominable things which one's ears must avoid listening to include: Music, deliberate lies (particularly untruths regarding religious issues), insincere flattery with a selfish agenda, gossip and rumors. 

3] Being obsessed with music, listening to songs as a "pastime", making effort to memorize song lyrics rather than reflecting on the meanings of the verses in the Noble Qur'an, watching music videos regularly to relieve boredom, and singing while multitasking can bring about a significant decrease in one's level of faith/Imaan. The lower one's faith/Imaan level is, the less motivated a person feels when it comes to striving to do good for Allah's sake and applying patience during times of fitna.  

~•~ 

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Malik Al-Ash'ari RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Some people from my nation will drink wine, calling it by different names, and musical instruments will be played for them and girls will sing to them. Allah will cause the earth to swallow them up, and He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will turn some of them into apes and pigs."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4020

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📑 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/ruling-on-music-and-singing-ibn-baz-albani-ibn-taymiyyah/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-importance-of-staying-away-from.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-true-story-of-former-music-addict.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/note-from-sincere-tawbah-is-to-not-miss.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-how-to-achieve-happiness-as-muslim.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-advice-to-those-addicted-to-tiktok.html 

Poem: Catching Feelings For Certain Souls Could Be From Allah's Tests Which You Can Pass With Faith, Taqwa And Patience

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Another way to defeat feelings of attraction 

For souls whom you can't have is to recall the outcomes 

Of zina. Fornication just leads to destruction. 

Know that our foe shaytan can make the most disgusting 

Deeds seem appealing. Shield your faith and disappoint him. 

~•~ 

Imagine chatting with your "crush" nearly each evening 

Then agreeing to meet up when there's chance to see them, 

When loved ones are away for family vacation 

Or they invite you over to their quiet dwelling. 

So what comes after you've done zina, a major sin? 

~•~ 

After a night of disgraceful fun and enjoyment 

Or some minutes of touching someone who's forbidden, 

You may earn Allah's Wrath for such filthy transgression, 

Become subjects of gossipers' talks and derision, 

Or break up with that "lover", crying and regretting. 

~•~ 

Zina is like a speck of dust. It's really nothing 

Yet shaytan can trick you into thinking it's something 

Important or it can alleviate your boredom. 

Be like a traveler who spots treasures while treading 

But ignores them, aware they're trails that lead to dungeons.

~•~ 

Know that catching feelings for unreachable persons 

Could be from Allah's tests. Trials are not permanent. 

To pass them, with Allah's Will, remain firm, stay patient, 

Maintain Taqwa, learn Islam, remember death often, 

And prefer Jannah's bliss. In Jannah there's no testing.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better." 

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees (the chastity of) what is between his jaws and what is between his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-for-allahs-sake-avoid-fitna-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-keep-fighting-to-defeat-vile.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-by-maintaining-taqwa-you-can-avoid.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-tips-to-detach-and-move-on-from.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-three-types-of-patience-apply-them.html 

Tips: Why Many INTJs Seldom Feel Surprised Or Easily Affected

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: What’s your secret, as an INTJ personality type, to apathy or feeling indifferent, unaffected and unfazed whenever some individuals behave disrespectfully such as purposely ignoring your salaams, leaving an online group chat, or when some students and colleagues are being uncooperative, uncommunicative or cowardly passive-aggressive?

📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah I believe that as long as I try my best to maintain integrity and decent manners, performing whatever tasks I can complete for Allah’s sake as much as possible, the unreliability, misconduct and obnoxious acts of troublemakers don’t matter to me. While I don’t believe in “karma”, I do believe that Allah’s Justice is true and He Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala knows precisely how to deal with His servants and when to carry out His retributions at the most ideal timing. What goes around comes around, if not in this world then surely in the next life or on the Day of Judgment.
I also imagine that the dishonest, obviously jealous, and unmannered people whom I occasionally encounter in this dunya are like actors in a prank or social experiment show with secret spying devices or surveillance gadgets, all working together to nosily see how I’d react to their lack of good character and untrustworthiness. I wouldn’t respond in the way they’d want me to because overacting emotionally would only satisfy their insecure egos. Not giving shaytan and his puppets (who insist on following shaytan’s suggestions) the reaction which they desperately seek annoys them a lot more than attempting to get even every single time they demand the attention that was probably not given to them by their parents, which could explain their awful attitudes and eagerness to upset others, misbehaving to distract themselves from their self-loathing and gigantic load of insecurities.
Alhamdulillah they can be blessings in disguise when their unreasonable choices or self-imposed mistakes indirectly teach me to be more patient and successful at avoiding misdeeds. The more I avoid troublemakers and overacting to their nonsense, Alhamdulillah the more I become accustomed to staying away from what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala and His noble Messenger Muhamamd SallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam despise.

~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: Stay Careful And Selective When It Comes To Learning About Islam

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

 

💌 If you were on a journey, in a land new to you, 

Searching for a specific place, who would you go to? 

The locals in that area, so you won't get confused?

They're familiar with the roads and may grant advice too.

Or first-time tourists who seem relatable and cool?

~•~

If you wished to learn how to drive, from who would you take 

Lessons? Driving instructors who ensure you'll stay safe, 

Who've been driving for years and their driving is okay?

Or those who taught themselves driving from digital games, 

And their driving style guarantees a ride that's unsafe?

~•~

When it comes to learning Islam, from whom can we learn? 

Self-proclaimed "scholars" who yearn for a large following? 

Who twist Islam's message, play with Islamic rulings, 

Who aim to trigger fitna through their talks and writings, 

And they promote bid'ah or make halal "forbidden"?

~•~

Some signs of Muslim speakers to whom we can listen: 

They're sincere to Allah, to themselves and all Muslims.

They love Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and strive to revive his teachings. 

They hate bid'ah, don't do birthdays, oppose misguidance, 

And arrogantly doing takfeer doesn't suit them.

~•~

Since they want rewards from Allah and not from His slaves,

For delivering lectures they don't ask to be paid.

They do Da'wah with wisdom purely for Allah's sake, 

Not for fame nor to get involved in pointless debates.

Good manners, patience and trust in Allah they maintain.

~•~

Always they prefer what Allah and His Prophet (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) say 

To the quotes of sheikhs/shuyookh and what people restate.

Of the beard and Islamic clothes they're never ashamed.

Frequently they fast Sunnah fasts, pray Qiyaam Al-Layl, 

And their faith remains firm when critics besmirch their names.

~•~

As Muslims, they try their best to perfect their Tawheed, 

And to increase their Imaan they regularly seek

Authentic Islamic knowledge with sincerity.

When studying Islam, it's your right to be choosy.

Carefully follow those who lead to Jannah rightly.

~•~

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold on to them: The Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr

📖 Abu Najeeh Al-’Irbaad ibn Saariyah (RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave us a sermon by which our hearts were filled with fear and tears came to our eyes. So we said, “O Messenger of Allah! It is as though this is a farewell sermon, so advise us.” He (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, “I advise you to have Taqwa (fear) of Allah, and to listen and obey [your leader], even if a slave were to become your ameer (someone authorized to lead). Verily he among you who lives long will see great controversy, so you must stick to my Sunnah and to the Sunnah of the Khulafaa ar-Raashideen (the rightly guided caliphs), those who guide to the right way. Cling to it (the Sunnah) stubbornly [literally: with your molar teeth]. Beware of newly invented matters [in the religion], for verily every bid'ah (innovation) is misguidance.”

[Abu Dawud]

It was related by At-Tirmidhi, who said that it was a good and sound hadeeth.

Hadith 28 

40 Hadith An-Nawawi

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What comes over my nation will surely be what came over the children of Israel, step by step until if one of them fornicated with his mother, one from my nation would do the same. Verily, the children of Israel split into seventy-two sects and my nation will split into seventy-three sects. All of them will be in Hellfire except for one sect." They said, “Who are they, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who follow my way and my companions."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2641

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

https://abdurrahman.org/2013/07/08/hadith-of-irbaadh-ibn-saariyah-radiyallaahu-anhu-stick-to-my-sunnah-and-the-sunnah-of-the-rightly-guided-caliphs-abu-sufyaan-uthmaan-beecher-audioen/amp/

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/what-is-salafism-and-salafiyyah/ 

📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:

Abbas Abu Yahya

Abdul Hakeem Mitchell

Abdulillah Lahmami

Abu Adam Jameel Finch

Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan

Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis

Abu Humayd Saalim

Abu Idrees

Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq

Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid

Abul Hasan Malik

Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam

Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi

Abu Talha Dawud Burbank

Abu Uways

Anas Waters

Anwar Wright

Hamza Abdur Razzaq

Hassan Somali

Moosaa Richardson

Mustafa George

Raha Batts

Rasheed Barbee

Rayaan Barker

Sa'eed Rhana

Umar Quinn

Uways at-Taweel

🧾 List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:

- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz

- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani

- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn

- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i

- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 

- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan

- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā

- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān

- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād

- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī

- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri

- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari 

https://www.salafidvo.com/external-resources.html