بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
💚 Alhamdulillah, while my dear husband was having his merienda/afternoon snacks today, I was browsing around some messages on one of the GCs (group chats/chat groups) I'm currently a member of and I saw this attached photo. Out of mere curiosity because I'm genuinely interested in whatever my dear husband has to say whenever we get the chance to have some quality time together Alhamdulillah I asked him several questions and our conversation went somewhat like this (yes we spoke in English language because I'm not fluent yet in Maranao and Tagalog etc.):
Me: "Which one do you like it better when women do (like when I, your mother and sisters etc.), when women talk a lot or when women are quiet?"
My dear husband: "Women are natural talkers. By nature women love to talk. It's normal for women to like talking. That's why we (men) must be patient with them. But we should also avoid..."
Me: "...tsismis? Gossip?"
Him: "...maritis. We have to avoid maritis. It's not nice when women backbite."
3 quick lessons learned Alhamdulillah from staying married to my dear husband for more than 20 years regarding most women's tendency to enjoy being "chatterboxes":
1. Never interrogate your dear husband when he has just arrived from work/duty or outside. Don't start interrogating him even if he spent some considerable hours with some of his other loved ones, male friends or colleagues - particularly if he's an obvious extrovert who normally finds enjoyment in socializing with people every now and then, compared to most of us introverts who prefer to unwind by doing solo activities like reading, reflecting and watching informative, beneficial and educative videos etc.
2. Be wise and clever enough to understand your husband's facial expressions and body language. Intelligently know when to begin a conversation with him and when to contentedly shut up. Attempting to discuss any matter with him regardless of how important such topic may be to you may result in having an unwanted argument with him if he's not in the mood to have a discussion. Patiently wait
Inn-sha-Allah until he appears ready to listen or just say Du'a and stay contented seeking help only from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and praying for more guidance.
3. Some guys enjoy chatting while eating. Other males prefer to concentrate quietly when having their breakfast, lunch and/or dinner. As your husband's loyal wife, determine your husband's personality and speak to him only when speaking has a lot more benefits than potential disadvantages.
