💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 It's easy to hold a grudge when someone hurts your feelings or fails to do something you expected them to do, magnifying that one mistake they've done which causes you to forget all the kind gestures they've showed in the past.
If you truly want a friendship or marriage to last longer though, one of the secrets to a long-standing connection is continually appreciating the person whom you love for Allah's sake. You appreciate their positive qualities, cherish the loving memories you've shared, and acknowledge the fact that their presence in your life produces more blessings than disadvantages.
If someone whom you care about seems to be acting strange for a while or they've been too preoccupied with work that you started wondering if they'll ever communicate effectively with you again, remember the times when they did you some favors and they proved to be helpful. Recall that incident when they surprised you with a generous amount of money after you cried to them about your financial struggles, that moment when they verbally defended you after an acquaintance made an immature joke about you, and those numerous instances when they offered you snacks without you asking or a free ride to your home. Once you begin recollecting all the memories of their kindness and the fun activities you did together, you'll find yourself despising them less.
Similarly whenever your nafs complains to you about how much "life is unfair" and you wrongly assume that Allah the Most Loving doesn't like you, seek refuge with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala from shaytan's evil insinuations and thoroughly evaluate the different kinds of blessings that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala bestowed upon you - your ability to make decisions and distinguish between right and wrong, your capability to read and write, your sense of smell and touch, your sight with which you can reflect on the wondrous creations of Allah the Almighty, and your being a Muslim who's guided to the correct 'Aqeedah, guided by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to love the Sunnah of His noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.
Don't let your selfish ego make a big deal out of a temporary problem or brief misunderstanding. Don't instantly cut off connections with a potential trustworthy friend for something minor you dislike about them.
A valid excuse to emotionally detach and distance yourself from someone is if spending time around them significantly distances you from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while their toxic traits of being manipulative, inauthentic or jealously competitive and unsupportive of you are better off avoided for Allah's sake.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Whoever does not thank people has not thanked Allah.”
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4811
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmad Shakir
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29
