๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ While some women are eager to get married early
And others are pleased their marriage took place in their teens,
In my life I know seven females personally
Who are older than forty years old and seem to be
Contented not requiring a man to be complete.
~•~
From the reasons why some women choose to not marry,
Regardless of how many proposals they received:
They believe staying single lets them live more freely,
Far from marital stress and responsibilities,
Or they're avoiding the challenge in polygyny...
~•~
...Or they sense they're not ready to raise a family,
Or they like kids but won't be carriers of babies,
The process of giving birth for them is not easy,
Or they know they're incapable of feeling any
Desire for men, and trying to love one feels phony.
~•~
Whatever is the reason why some women perceive
Marriage as just "optional" or "unnecessary",
Recall that forced marriage in Islam is unseemly.
None from her maternal and paternal family
Can force a Muslimah to marry unwillingly.
~•~
Let each Muslim lady select her future hubby,
And don't scold her if she prefers to wait patiently
For her perfect spouse when she attains Jannah's entry.
To those who are choosy regarding whom to marry:
Marry for Allah. Be the wife that a good man needs.
~•~
๐ Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will restrain his impulses (desires)."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence is her consent."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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