๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Three signs you've become too attached emotionally
To another human, and this "love" is unhealthy:
One - With them, there's separation anxiety.
When they're absent, you feel empty, distressed or angry,
Can't function well without them, as though you're incomplete.
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Chatting with them keeps you energized, bubbly and pleased,
And simply having them nearby brings about relief.
Grief and worry emerge as soon as they disappear.
If they leave you for some days, you wonder anxiously,
"Did I push them away somehow? Do they still like me?"
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Two - You think of them a lot, far too excessively,
Hoping they're okay and that they miss you equally,
Thinking of them often before you pray, eat and sleep,
As if thoughts of them are needed to breathe peacefully,
When abnormal attachment actually makes you weak.
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Three - Seeing them care for others evokes jealousy.
If they discuss someone else, you ditch them pridefully,
Disinclined to even ask about their family,
Because you desire them for yourself so selfishly,
Like leaves firmly glued to feeble branches of a tree.
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Tips to detach from someone easily or gently,
Whether they're your spouse, loved one, or friend you've known for years,
So if they die, move out, or they make you feel unheard,
You can move on without them patiently or gladly,
Satisfied with the Love of Allah the Almighty:
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Know that each soul we meet is like life's difficulties,
Meant to test our faith/Imaan and they're temporary.
Accept that all humans have flaws and ability
To offend or disappoint you occasionally.
Thus never assume they'll stick around permanently.
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Prioritize serving Allah and trust Him Only.
Know that what follow you to your grave are your good deeds.
Respect yourself enough to let go confidently
Of any person who fails to take you seriously,
And tell yourself often, "Allah is Enough for me.".
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Aslam Al-Habashi RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction." It was said, "How is this?" Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "When you love someone, you become infatuated (obsessed) like a child. When you hate someone, you want destruction for your companion."
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1322
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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