๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Five signs that your husband's misconduct and confusing acts oftentimes are not from himself but they're a result of the negative impact of the evil eye ('ayn), sorcery (witchcraft, black magic), or he's being coerced by nosy outsiders (jealous friends, relatives who despise his wife, competitive colleagues etc.) to misbehave so he loses his loving marriage life:
1] While speaking to you or after talking to you, you notice many times that his eyes are teary or slightly reddish, as if he's filled with guilt or sadness concerning how he's being ordered to mistreat you.
2] You've observed that usually when you're out or indoors together, your husband frantically scans the surroundings or anxiously looks around as if he can sense that he's being monitored or stalked by a group of spies that commanded him to treat you badly.
3] You regularly see your husband or an image of him in vivid dreams where he's crying, shedding tears, apologizing to you, stretching out his arm to hold on to you, or enjoying romantic moments together which you can't always enjoy when you're not dreaming.
4] Several times when you've touched him, sat beside him, or displayed affection, you realize that he unnaturally gets nervous or trembly, unlike before in your first weeks of marriage it was obvious that he felt comfortable around you. He's probably shaking with anxiety as if he's afraid that whoever coerced him to neglect you would penalize him for not following their unjust demands, or he's trying his best to overcome the negative effects of evil eye ('ayn), sorcery (witchcraft, black magic).
5] The number of times he's been kind and loving to you outweigh the number of times he acted unreasonably or neglectfully. Maybe he's not being requested by anybody to be neglectful towards you but, he is in reality busy with his job, specially if he is employed in the medical field, or some of the bad choices he may sometimes make are due to severe depression or some sort of personality disorder which he has been struggling from.
๐น What you can do as a caring, understanding, patient, supportive, and admirably loyal Muslim wife:
1 ] Continue trusting Allah the Almighty, saying lots of Du'a wholeheartedly, and praying that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala always blesses your marriage life. If you genuinely love the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose as your soulmate from the very moment you were engaged to marry, you wouldn't easily give up on him like a kid that irresponsibly throws away an unfinished lollipop.
2 ] Lovingly include your husband in your frequent Du'as / supplications, particularly while fasting Sunnah fasts and when praying Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl.
3 ] Courageously give your husband the space that he requires once in a while (allow him to miss you. Don't be too annoyingly clingy), so he can relax, reflect, and analyze carefully to solve whatever challenges and problems he could be encountering.
4 ] Ask him kindly to do proper Ruqyah on himself or carry out Ruqyah on him while he's awake in a good mood or when he's peacefully sleeping. Encourage him to habitually say the morning and evening Adhkaar, and to recite as many Surahs and verses from the Noble Qur'an as he can. The stronger your faith/Imaan and Taqwa, and the more righteous deeds you do sincerely, the more formidable or effective is your shield (coming from Allah the Most Powerful) against any evil eye ('ayn), sorcery, and people's enmity.
5 ] Consistently remind yourself of why you accepted your husband's marriage proposal in the beginning. Imagine his moodiness, ignorance in certain circumstances, or occasional mistakes as branches of an imaginary wild tree that constantly tries to grab his body to cast him into a cage. If he gets locked in, will you cowardly leave your husband behind because you selfishly care more about your well-being than your spouse's needs and freedom? Or will you bravely stand by him, let him know that you remain by his side for Allah's sake, and patiently wait for his release or until you find a key to free him, as you're eager to pass this temporary test which Allah the Most Wise has sent to examine if your love is artificial or genuine.
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๐ Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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