💌 Five signs that a marriage is forced, not arranged:
1] If the female cried or clearly declared that she doesn't want to marry the guy, even if she was bribed with a large amount of money or expensive gifts.
2] If she threatened to take her own life (Note: suicide is a major sin) or that she'd run away before or after the wedding.
3] If the man and/or woman made an oath that they can never forgive those who compel them to marry somebody whom they don't find attractive.
4] When the mother and/or father of the groom and/or bride told their child they'd disown them, completely disconnect family ties, or quit financially supporting them if they go against their wishes.
5] If any of the bride's or groom's relatives threatens to kill or cause trouble to them in case they don't comply with their commands.
🔹 Five reasons why a man or woman may not agree to marry somebody:
1] They don't feel ready to move out of the home where they grew up in, or they think they haven't yet matured to start their own family.
2] They don't feel prepared emotionally, mentally, physically, or financially, to become someone else's spouse.
3] Because they've personally witnessed how a lot of marriages didn't go well, they prefer to wait for their ideal love life or flawless romance in Jannah Paradise.
4] They'd rather stay independent, free of marital responsibilities, and contentedly single, while trusting Allah the Most Merciful, than to be under the care or supervision of another human who may not be responsible, trustworthy, or sincere with their intentions of marrying.
5] Perhaps they're secretly in love with someone else, and they want that Muslim to be the one to send their marriage proposal.
When a suitor comes to you expressing their willingness to marry your daughter, sister, or niece for Allah's sake, instead of wondering "how much can I get from this guy's mahr/dowry? What can our family's reputation benefit from being connected to this clan?", ask her if she's willing to have him as her future husband, mentioning to her the benefits of marrying early, reminding her to pray two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara before she finalizes her decision, and preparing yourself for her response if she decides to decline the marriage proposal, respecting her right to agree or disagree, and not opposing the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam who disapproved of forced marriages.
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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not complaining) is her consent."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6946
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Khansaa bint Khidaam Al-Ansaariya RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated that her father gave her in marriage when she was a matron and she disliked that marriage. So she went to Allah's Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he declared that marriage invalid.
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5138
In-book reference: Book 67, Hadith 74
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 69
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-on-few-women-who-are-uninterested.html
https://www.abukhadeejah.com/arranged-marriages-love-marriages-and-forced-marriages-islam/
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-warning-to-fathers-brothers-and.html
https://youtu.be/FhI3hkbbpe8
