📜 Question: What can I do to cope with some people's disrespect? Even if I am nice to them, complete my tasks, or I've done nothing wrong to them on purpose, my boss and coworkers treat me disrespectfully.
📝 Understand that even the best of all human beings, namely the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, encountered moments when he was treated unfairly and disrespectfully. Recall that time when he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went to Taif with Zaid bin Haritha RadhiAllahu 'anhu where they initially didn't receive a warm welcome, and when some leaders of Quraish disrespected the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while he was praying towards the Qiblah and his daughter Fatima RadhiAllahu 'anha did what she could to assist her kindhearted father.
No matter how kind, seemingly successful, cooperative, educated, charismatic, righteous, or good-looking you are, wherever you go on earth, a temporary platform of tests, occasionally you may encounter some awfully rude and uncivilized people.
🔹 There are three possible reasons why somebody, whether stranger or from your family, would treat you with disrespect:
1➡️ They're jealous of you.
Seeing you display traits, qualities, and achievements which they're currently lacking could explain their desperate longing to make you feel miserable.
A ) If you regularly receive unfair and awful treatment from an immature woman, she's probably envious of your inner beauty and/or the fact that you're contentedly married to a doctor while the unproductive guy whom she ended up with is jobless, uneducated, or not as attractive as your spouse.
B ) If your employer or any older individual, who claims to be an adult, consistently treats you with disrespect, it's likely because you in your twenties remind them of their failures, depressing life experiences, or insecurities they've had when they were around your age.
C ) If the disrespectful individuals are much younger than you, their obnoxious behavior could signify they jealously resent how your parents did a better job than theirs in terms of educating and responsibly taking care of you, or they envy your pleasant looks and/or your overall lifestyle.
2➡️ They're sad, emotionally unwell, or insecure.
A lot of bullies resort to bullying when they themselves are being oppressed in their unhappy homes. So they're prompted to transfer their sorrows unto others through behaving disrespectfully.
3➡️ They're sent as brief tests from Allah the Almighty to purify you from sins you previously did, train your patience, and inspire you to stay grateful that you don't resemble them in their immaturity and absurd attitude.
Even if you decided to move out to another workplace, you may still come across a number of troublemakers and toxic colleagues. You can either learn to solve a Rubik's cube in a hall which you've selected, choose a different office where several jigsaw puzzles must be solved within a fixed time limit, or try a new venue where you'll be given multiple-choice questions to answer every minute. Wherever you go in this planet of imperfections, you can't completely avoid people who go out of their way to disturb you because not everybody is as blessed as you in having strong faith/Imaan and a beautiful heart/soul. Alhamdulillah always.
~•~
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-please-only-allah.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-ways-to-react-to-peoples-rudeness.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-dont-allow-some-peoples-envy-and.html
🗒️ Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.
