๐ Five signs that you're not a gold-digger while your husband is fortunate and blessed to have you as his wife:
1] When he gives or sends you your weekly or monthly allowance, you don't instantly react with "is that all? Why so kuripot ("stingy", "miserly", "cheap" in Tagalog / Filipino language) mahal?" but you genuinely thank him for trying his best to support his wife/wives and family.
Of course if all he can give is twenty pesos a month or he consistently fails to meet your basic needs, try to kindly discuss your concerns with him when he doesn't seem stressed or depressed. Maybe he needs to find another job or he's struggling to pay a large amount of debts which he owes some people who won't stop bothering him until he completes his deal with them?
2] You never compare him to your friends' or neighbors' husbands, as you're contented with the man whom Allah the Most Loving wisely chose for you.
3] You're easy to please or impress when it comes to dealing with your dear husband. Even if he couldn't bring home anything special, besides his body, or he buys simple food from one of the street vendors, you appreciate the fact that at least he cared enough to show up or go out of his way to purchase something for you.
4] You lovingly volunteer to spend on your husband once in a while, or financially support him when he's going through tough times, and you don't expect him to return the money which you generously offered for Allah's sake.
5] You can't get offended when somebody describes your husband as "poor", "neglectful", or "irresponsible", because you know your husband and understand his circumstances far better than any of your critics can speculate.
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๐ Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas'ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas'ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas'ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462
In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-why-i-dont-get-tired-of-loving-my.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-that-your-marriage-is.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-pious-wife-is-not-materialistic.html
๐ป From the noteworthy qualities of a righteous Muslim wife:
https://youtu.be/6RvNrnJ0MdU
