๐ Question: As an INTJ personality type, would you confront a person who clearly lied against you or complained to some individuals about you with some flagrant lies? Why or why not?
๐ Answer: If I was informed that a certain individual invented some lies, big or small, serious or trivial, against me, I would regard them as a complete stranger who can never be trusted in the present and future, while likely assuming that they probably fabricated those awful untruths because they're understandably jealous - perhaps they are envious that I married much earlier than them Alhamdulillah, that I can understand a lot more words in Arabic language than they do Alhamdulillah, or they find my assertiveness very intimidating so they only want me to get into some sort of trouble.
I wouldn't bother confronting them about the lie if I have no interest whatsoever in building any connection with them, specially if (with Allah's Will) I was able to sense from the beginning that the bad vibes they emitted came with questionable motives. A colleague who is regularly absent from meetings, who feels too afraid or insecure to make decent eye contact with you when communicating, and who proved to be absolutely unreliable so many times wouldn't surprise me one bit if I discovered they made up some false stories about me.
Discussing issues with frequent liars and childish troublemakers is one of the things I'd strive to avoid for Allah's sake because they could misuse my own statements against me and make it seem as though I'm the one who instigated the whole ugly drama.
What I would do after confirming that a person is untruthful, untrustworthy, and deluded by their nonsensical lies is to quit regarding them as a potential friend, to minimize unimportant conversations with them as much as possible, and to never ask for any advice from them or their opinion on anything... because you can't be sure if they're being real with you or simply acting, pretending and attempting to deceive you as well as themselves.
✅ I may try to approach the person to correct the misinformation and solve the misunderstanding if:
1] They're a family member and relative, while I know a way to reach out to them.
2] We've been actual friends for more than five years or acquaintances who talk to each other a lot.
3] They directly apologized to me and showed sufficient signs they can actually be counted on.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
๐ Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Years of treachery (before the Day of Judgment) will come over the people in which liars are believed and the truthful ones are denied, the deceitful are trusted, and the trustworthy are considered traitors, and the disgraceful will deliver speeches." It was said, “Who are the disgraceful?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Ignorant men with authority over the common people."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4036
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
๐ Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhāri 5743
Sahih Muslim 2607
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
